having perspective is good. that is all.

w0rd, dawg.

Cool.

Crisis over.

That was easy.

Now, Imo get the fuck outside.

Speaking of Lamas.....

If you ever find yourself in a slump, and just can't find a handy HHDL quote nearby, try this chant...it's sure to lift your spirits:

Llamallamallamallamallamallamallamallamallamallama...

My seven things for today:

1. WWDN and the people who make it a real community (like Crazy Uncle Spudnuts and Travelling Cousin Roughy)
2. Spider-man coming out soon!
3. Morrowwind coming out soon!
4. Taking the summer off to take some courses and do all those things you never have time to do.
5. A husband who has no problem with number 4.
6. Friends who surprise you with a going away lunch and gift (first surprise party ever).
7. Cats, they are just silly, crazy fun.

When you fee like your life sucks, just be thankful that you're not reporting to Gunnery Sgt. Hartman. Because he WILL straighten your shit out, mister!

I find that Moments of Clarity are very rarely planned. And if they were, would they not seem a little less marvelous and a little more like boring routine? "Oh! I totally forgot! I have a Moment of Clarity scheduled right before my 2 o'clock class! So we'll have to meet for coffee at three. I missed my Moment of Clarity last week, and I'm still feeling the repercussions, etc." I'm sure you get the picture.
Also, taking responsibility for one's own feelings is a difficult and brave endeavor. Some people really ought to try it, and never do. This comes from a philosophy student who Knows Nothing About Things Like That. So in any event, be prepared for hardship on the road to personal responsibility for your feelings and emotions... but from what I hear, the rewards are Great. Or something equally lovely sounding.
Indeed.

cool man, just damn cool.

Rock on Unca Willy.

"1. WWDN and the people who make it a real community"

Right on, Gaea!
I still have to sit back sometimes and think about how amazing it is that a whole little community can form without most of the participants ever meeting each other.

I guess I'll share some happiness as well...

1. The sky is no longer scary and green
2. There are LEAVES on the trees!!!!
3. I get to be a camp director this summer!
4. My friend defends her dissertation on Friday afternoon and after that she becomes... "Dr."
5. I'm moving out of this building in a week and two days
6. I was told that I could possibly test for shodan (1st degree black belt) in kendo this fall!
7. Aikido practice - it makes me feel so good. (Especially the group hug after we're all done!)
8. I'm doing a paper about the Dalai Lama... and his BROTHER lives in my town! I could get some serious bonus points for this one... (;

Glad to know the Star Trek thing is probably just a rumor. When I see you on the big screen, it'll be all I can do to keep myself from yelling "Head Monkey!!!"

Warning: depressing.

Just wanted to add that the thought for today is a good one. Trusting and believing in myself is something that I find very difficult, but I am trying to learn to do it. Unfortunately today is not going well that way. Sometimes it's really hard to fight the years of conditioning which say "You are useless, you will never amount to anything, no man will ever care about you". Maybe tomorrow will be better. Here's hoping.

I'm glad you're feeling better about things. Great moment of clarity!

Thanks Wil. I think a lot of us (me anyway) can take your moment of clarity and apply to it ourselves. I hope you don't mind if we borrow a bit of it. ;)

just one thing to say:

YAAAAAAAAAAAAY~~~~~~~~~

^____^ I'm glad your myriad net-fans could help you out, if only just a little.

~ M

I read the "this sucks" message and the "getting some perspective" message in reverse order, so my brain is still sorting it out (my brain is slow today), but I wanted to post about a cool "moment" I had today.

Today has been kind of a yucky day, and I was looking forward to working off some stress in water aerobics. All of a sudden traffic is stopped. Swell, it just figures. At first I have no idea what the hold-up is (this street is not one that usually has bad traffic), and then I see it...

A momma and a poppa goose and about half a dozen little fuzzy goslings are slowly making their way across the street. For only a split second I was annoyed that they wouldn't "get a move on", and then I realized that this is just one little moment that our world intersects theirs, and I could just smile and appreciate it. Traffic isn't their problem, my schedule isn't their problem--they are just taking their family from point A to point B. So I decided to just chill and enjoy the moment.

so glad you saw the light (or at least a glimpse of it)we all need a little light everyday.

i'm a teenage frankenstein.

well, not really, but it's kinda funny to think that.

Wil, I'm still insanely jealous of you. You get to write for a living... ;)

But I'm glad the perspective finally showed. :)

Your funny is there Wil, I can feel it - I know you like a beer, but I gotta tell you that as a writer, when my muse seems to have vanished and the words won't come, I watch some mindless junk on TV, or crank up mechwarrior 3, open a bottle of deep, thick and luscious port and with an hour or two that starting phrase hits me.

Of course the above remedy is what gets me going, I find that just breaking out of the negativity, and doing something I really enjoy (like playing with my son - you forget everything but the "Aghoooooooooo!" of surprise and excitement in his voice when he sees the wallpaper each time we pass it).

I guess what I am saying is - I read your site daily, we can all feel the substrata of funny, even when you are not trying, just stop trying to dig down to it and let it bubble back up on its own.

Cheers!

Grendel

Although I'm just starting highschool,I have really thought about becoming a writer someday. You are a big inspiration, Wil. Thanks. Just wanted to tell you that. :)

=) Keep it real!

#9: As cobra commander said to serpentor, "better a has-been than a never-was!"

Could always be worse ....

You could be playing dodgeball. ;)

Hi Wil.

Wow I became so happy when I read this! You realised it! That's great. I guess the support from your fans helped you today! And also from your mom, and all that. Well it's pretty late over here - actually 2.10 AM, and I just can't sleep. Maybe I'll get to sleep, now that I know this! But not healthy for me at all, lol.

And how great to be home so early huh? Well if that was me, I would be so happy, but it's clear you are! Great great great :o)

Bye, Helene

wil, i haven't really known what to say in response to your last couple of blogs (or mostly people just beat me to it!)...but i'm glad to see this list here, and i really hope you keep feeling better. thanks again for this place here, mr. kickass writer!

wil..
i luv ya now
i luv ya forever
and each day in between..
what ever u go thru, we'll all always be here for you
you RULE the world!!

Man, you should really take those nostalgic memories and make them into your new funny. Do you know how much funny you could have with your funny if you did that? Let me see...mullets. Michael Jackson. Care Bears.

That's just for starters. Good luck, Wil!

i posted less than an hour ago...theres almost double the amount of comments now than then. wil, you have got to feel some more good for that.

Woohoo! Glad our mojo helped. :o)

#1 I'm going to be in L.A. this weekend and maybe I'll get to see Uncle Willy! (Gotta check calendar)
#2 I got a brand new car last weekend and it's teal and I got to drive around a lot and I said WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!
#3 My job has finally been interesting these past few days.
#4 A hummbird has made her nest at eye level in my backyard and I get to watch a whole new cycle of life each day.
#5 I just found a really really cool website related to my art today (I looked for a really long time and I got excited and I spent money and I said WHEEEEEE!!!!!!)
#6 I get to go have dinner and conversation with a bunch of wonderful geeky people tonight.
#7 I have a great hubby. I mean... really great!

Maybe Wil can get with TNN and arrange to have a special weekend where he picks his top 10 favorite Trek episodes...or maybe the top 10 favorite ones with Wesley in it....TNN seems to be Trek Marathon-happy lately, that this might be the perfect time.

Wil would get exposure, he can interject some funny commentary or insight into the making of each episode, or about the episode in general, coming from Wil Wheaton's perspective.

Oh...and if you do this, Wil...can I get 2% for my consulting fee? ;)

WIL, i love you!!!!!

Aww. Nice to see that you're slowly regrouping your emotional strengths and seeing things a little better. I know sometimes you can just get a knock in the teeth by a couple of crises that seperately, you could handle okay but all at once you're like, "Woah - fuck me!" As long as you keep battling on at the end of it all, that's all that matters. And Has been? Schmaz-been dude. All that's important is that you're creating, and that people enjoy what you do. We do. You made differences in all our lives, and that's a special thing, that's a gift. There are so many people that wish upon wish that they could do that. You're totally blessed to be able to make that difference. Anyways - hippy session over. Take spudnuts advice. I reckon you should kick back and take five to play with the kids. Kids always cheer me up. Five minutes with my neices and I'm sobbing with happiness. They say things like, "You are beautiful." and "I love you, you are a princess." My poor lame little ego needs that shit sometimes :)

Llama, Llama ding dong? (sorry couldn't resist)
I am still trying to figure out if looking for insight in daily flip calendars is wise or pathetic. But I do it to!! I have a Zen Calendar beside my computer right now and the saying is perfect for you Wil,
"All things flow freely, as the fish swims in water
-Zen Saying"

damn... they pulled ya from the IMDB entry for it! wtf? I was exciting about seeing you in there.
http://us.imdb.com/Title?0253754

top 7 things I am grateful for:
1. I am one of the only people who can say their original celebrity crush has his own website and I get a look into his inner workings.
2. The beauty that is HOCKEY HOCKEY HOCKEY HOCKEY
3. The gaiety that is BEER BEER BEER BEER
4. I have the intelligence that can take me anywhere, should I ever get motivated to take advantage.
5. I am healthy as can be.
6. Songs like Stand By Me by BB king, Matchbook by Strung out, AC-DC's Hells Bells, The Last Song I Ever Write About A Girl by Ataris...I could go on forever.
7. My boss who gives me parent-like guidance, who shows me what I am worth, and loves me unconditionally.

Clarity is good. Wishing you nothing but the best :)

Hey there Wil, just found out I could post here :-)

Anyway, just wanted to let you know that you're not the only person
in the world that has challenges in life - we all do! As someone
mentioned ealier, cartoonists have to be funny like all the time, and
I've been finding that out myself recently. Today was the first day
in a week that I put up a new comic strip at my site (shameless plug
here - tastyalmonds.com) because I myself wasn't feeling the funny.
I mean, really, how hard could it be to write? That's what I've been
telling myself for nearly a year now, as it's something that I've always
known I could do, I just never really put any effort into it. Now that I
am, I'm finding that while it is difficult, it is rewarding. And just think,
someday I may be as successful as you as a writer! :-P

A friend of mine once offered some advice to me about such things in
life (as my business was going under last year - and finally died). He
said something along the lines of "If you think you've got it bad, think
of people in the intensive care ward of a hospital - I'm sure they'd
gladly trade places with you in a second! (he used to work in a
hospital) Now while I'm nowhere near lying in a hospital bed, I can
say that it would've been friggin' cool to have had the opportunities
you've had and will have in the future. It's good to see that you're
starting to see that :-)

As for me, I'll keep plugging along and working towards my own fame
and fortune! (just like you Wil!)

Dude, I hope they keep you in Trek 10. We all have to see how the hell Wesley turned out and if he hooked up with Ashley Judd's character. And, don't worry about finding your funny. Shit like that has to come back.

Dude see I told you so. Internet Rumor (tm) is the worst.. you just got to get up and say fuckit a drink a beer and spank yourself a good one then you will feel better.

Remember the movie bowfinger? hella funny. maybe you need to go see a scientologist guy and say "I'm good enough and smart enough and dog gone it people like me"

late.

I think it's time that I actually post what I always think after reading an entry.

Wil,
Thank you for taking time out of your life to share with us. Every day, or very close to it, you take part of you life and share with the couple hundred (or thousand lately) of us that read here. We appreciate it. Sometimes it's nice to know that someone out there has the same problems. Even someone as famous as "tv's Wil Wheaton." :)

That said, I am thankful for
1. Good friends. They've been extra good to me lately, I think I should tell 'em.
2. Mexican food in 10 minutes.
3. No matter how much it looks like the tunnel's about to collapse, I can still see the light at the end. Next week!! Next week is the end!!
4. graduation this summer.
5. my family
6. moments of clarity
7. life is nothing but neverending possibilities, if only I take the time to look for them.

peace out,
al

But wait, how much of this was because of my great retainer advice?

It was great, wasn't it?

Damn thing still tastes funny, though.

Wil,

Like we say in England: 'You're Absolutely Fabulous'!!!!! You and your website are a part of a lot of people's everyday life and there's tons of people that care about you and yours. Keep up the good work. Don't let the 'bastards' get you down!!! Heroes must win in the end, you are the best one by far!!!

Rodger

see not only are you funny, but you're inspirational. you go-getter, you.

Bachelor party?
http://www.shopinprivate.com/buyinprivate/conhatbebigi.html

Say, if we find your funny, is there a PO BOX we are supposed to send it to or something?

You know, Wil!

You ALWAYS have to remember that the responsibliity for your own life and happiness as such never leaves your two shoulders. You're an adult now, and I know that's damn confusing since I'm an adult too. Also, the concept of adulthood (yeah, OK, maybe the book on adultry has been overhauled too...) today is different from the concept of adult way yesterday, say 30 years ago. Yet, we all still live with and have to slap around those old clichés constantly forgetting the priveliege of living today's adulthood compared to yesterday's. We dream it ourselves! The greats and the not-so-greats! And thus cometh the responibilty. And you know as well as I what Spider-Man cliché cometh next, haha...

Personally I'll behave like a little angry kid if your cameo doesn't come through, dammit! Nothing like a good tantrum, hh!

Best wishes,
Robert W.

Dear Uncle Willie,
I am gald you have gotten some perspective, after all if you get cut out of ST-X then where one door closes three more open, i know it sounds lame but it's true. You have a wife who I will assume love you more then life itself, and two great guys your helping to raise who I am sure love you to death! You get to write and get paid for it, and still maintain a web site we all come together and love you for- You by No MEANS are washed up!!!!! You are still performing. Dude We Love you and At Least you didn't snort your money away like some other 80's 90's actors gone by.Who can't even get work unless they are mocking them selves.
Dear Uncle Willie- WE love you, pay no attention to the trolls who bring bad vibes to the party, because when you waist good energy on those who spread negativity, you allow them to hurt you and that in itself will do more damage.
Love -Peace- Happiness.
Andie

I have this post-it on my computer, and have had it up for months since I read Margaret Cho's awesome biography, _I'm the One that I Want._

Margaret writes:
"We must know who we are, so we can know what we want, so we don't end up wanting the wrong thing and get it and realize we don't want it, because by then it is too late. We are powerful enough that we can manifest anything into our lives. To use this power with great care and love is the secret to living a happy life."

Peace.

Wil

I am so happy it may only be a rumor. I hope you all the best in the world. When I see you in the movie I will be thinking to myself "Yeah that's our Head Monkey. Watch him burn up the screen baby!!! Hootie Hoo!!!!!" Hmmm must order shirt for the event. ;-) I'm glad you're feeling better.
Lot's of finding your funny MOJO.

Crikey, I swear I looked at your site at 3PM Eastern and nothing was on it! Cept the Elfman post, of course! If the Internet Rumor(tm) is more than a rumor, then it's Paramount's loss. And I just thought I'd add a little more Llama:
"cuidado las llamas" (Monty Python)! Seriously, mucho mojo coming your way from back east PA way. Nolan and Ryan have a great stepdad!
Karen

Thank goodness for #1 - I know you're having a personal crisis and I should address that but I'm thinking how thoroughly bummed I was to hear that Wes wasn't going to be in the next movie. I mean for goodness sakes, tracking down the rumors that Wes was going to be in the movie was how I found this site in the first place. What would have been the point of going to see yet another Trek movie if Wes wasn't there???????? So thank you for your moment of clarity so that you would seek out more info, thanks to your manager for passing along cheerier news, thanks to all the wwdn visitors who channeled good mojo when needed.

Glad you got a handle on your bad day Wil, now I need to do so on mine..LOL Rock out this weekend, and enjoy yourself!

Hmmmmmmmmm will it be on the news Monday? >:)

Wil,
I have kind of a motto that I try to follow: "Being yourself is sometimes the hardest, most challenging way to be." And I find that if I am not true to myself -- not someone else's version or impression of how I should be -- but how I need to be to love myself, then I might as well give up. I am sorry to bring up the original series of Star Trek here, but my favorite line actually is from the first pilot: Dr. Boyce to Capt. Pike: "You either face life head on and lick it, or you turn your back on it and start to whither away." Loving yourself is the first step.

Good luck, Wil.

Ken

Wil,
Well, hon, maybe I am just one of those earthy-crutchy lesbian types, but I am here to tell you that you are coming into the end of your Saturn Return; This is the time of a person's life (from 27/28 to 30/31)when your life changes dramatically... I changed careers and got into therapy, bagged a bad relationship and got another degree...

My brother is in the same place and having similar problems, especially the part about "losing the funny"..

The trick is having people who care about you and people to talk to... and lots of these folks here seem to genuinely care about you, Famous Person Status aside... and it sounds like you have others more directly in your life who care too..

Hang in there, Wil... Wait until you get to your early 30's.. it's fun as hell
Laura

Excellent.

My hope is on #6...specifically The Far Side calendar. Gary Larson knows most things, Wil.

Have a real good time at the bachelor party.

Keep up the awesome site. And take care.

Today seems to be a day of affirmation for everyone I know. Everyone else on my daily blog read did the best Wanton Wednesday ever. 5 things you really like about *yourself*. It was very affirming... just like your list. Keep on truckin'.

re: ur funny
Dood... the funny isn't lost. It's resting. As is your ability to see all the good mojo and good fortune that you are still surrounded by. Sometimes the balance just shifts. But it always shifts back. That's why we call it a balance right? and PS, they're not going to cut your scene. I so decree it. Therefore it is. be well.

I'm relatively new to the page. Just checked it out after having sent a birthday wish to a close personal friend, congratulating/teasing him on reaching the advanced age of 44. (I'm only a few months younger).

What struck me was that I had just mentioned that I was pleased that, even at MY age, I had just performed my first public sax solo last night, and am planning to run my first 10K race on Saturday. "I'm amazed that even at 43, there are so many new things left to try."

Holy Crap on a Crap Cracker! Wil's on TV... Doing the TNN life game.

heh heh...

"When did you become interested in girls?"

Wil, me boy -

remember the words of George Harrison (sorta): All things will pass.

Je vous aime.

As long as you are going down this nostalgia trip, try remembering the one 80's phrase that came screaming back to me when I got laid off 7 months ago. What the fuck! That has got to be the most liberating phrase on the planet aside from "its not your baby." It gives you the power to not care about a bunch of mindless shits who have to cut into you just to make themselves feel better or justify their pathetic little lives and carrers. It gives you permission to say honey I'm heading to hooters to drink beer and look at large breasts. It also gives you permission to not worry so damn much and just let go of what you can not control and smack around what you can. So go get a 12 pack of coronas and turn on Cspan. Trust me when I say that by the time you get to the 6th corona you'll have pleanty of funny material.

Wil:

Peace, bro. Glad for your clarity. And time with the FAM and your friend is better than being in any freakin' movie, dude.

I'm happy for you. Your good news gives me a chin up - it's all good and it all goes around.

Thanks (again) for this site. I'm enjoying myself and the others herein with their perspectives...

Be good.
-sam

Thirty's easy. I just turned 39. Try staring down the barrel of forty.

Actually. it ain't that bad. My age will soon pass my waist size.

Peace,
Greg

So Wil ... If we wanted to let the Paramount *people* know how many of us want to see Wes in the movie ... is there an email address for messages such as this?

I'm 50 ... and it's not so bad either. :-)

Wil Wheaton Rules!

Long Time Listener, First Time Caller.

So it looks like the storm is passed.
Glad to hear it.

I too know how bleak and... bleah that feeling is. I remember playing Illuminati (both the "money" and INWO collector card versions) til the wee hours with my friends. I remember fondly and sometimes still ache for one more weekend or two of my mispent youth...

When it hits me I just have to remember: I get 3 squares a day and I have people who love me.
I'm 34 and presumed I'd always be "the perpetually single Uncle John" - but the fates are kind, I am getting married this fall, to a woman who brings out the best in me and lets me do the same for her. She's got "eyes like the sea after a storm" - and she loves me like nobody ever has.

Thank you for an excellent blog.
Thanks for not becoming another statistic child star.
Thanks for keeping this site going. It's really quite funny, intimate-but-Not-TOO-intimate, humane, and most importantly... genuine.
It reminds me that the world isn't all corrupt, and that there's still positive "juju" out there in the big wide world.
I appreciate it.

You're a good man, Wil.

You know something, Wil?

You're alright. There's a lot of good stuff in this last post that you made, and I respect that.

Hi Will: Your words got me. I am 44 now,and have studied in earnest many hundreds of life belief systems from many books, since I was 12. Ways of attaining peace, direction, personal strength,love & success. And now tonight I can say I have no advice for you that would matter. I doubt I will ever know you but I am stricken by your words and feelings in the past 2 days. Things that sound so familiar to me. These same feelings I have felt, similar thoughts I have pondered. Coming from someone I held as living this perfect life, reminds me that nobody escapes the experience of being human. It just feels difficult to be alive sometimes, to be out there. To be guiding our "boat" the best we know how through life's waters, hoping the ride will be fun and safe and with good, loving companions.
Good night to all the people, all of us who have connected here. And thanks Wil for sharing with us your world.

Just thought I'd give you a hand:

Instead of using (tm), I suggest holding down ALT while you type 0153 on the number pad. When you let go of alt, you will see: ™

When I discovered that trick, I was the happiest little boy ever.

I have a weakness for humour involving adding ™ to things. Everyone needs a weakness.

-Oscar

one time I saw a comedian with sweat-stains on his underarms and he was not funny

I got your funny in my pants. Want to reach down and get it?

Ummmm, Wil: Your words went right over my head. Oddly enough, I feel as if I don't know you at all. I am juvenile, and have not studied a damned thing since I dropped out of high school to major in coffee shop banter. Subsequently, I possess very little peace, direction, personal hygiene, love or success. Yet tonight I can say with conviction that yes, indeed, I have some completely useless advice to impose upon you all, no matter how creepy or unsettling. I doubt I will ever know you, God willing because I KNOW we'd be best friends, but in case I am ever discovered on your property by local authorities, I want you to know that your words and feelings over the past 2 days really miffed me man...completely. Really, I mean really truely baffled the shit outta me -- in the literal sense. It all sounded just so strange and foreign to my clogged ears. I never expected to be so out of touch with you, thinking your life was almost as farked up as mine. But it turns out that you've led a perfect life, proving once and for all you have somehow completely escaped the experience of being human at all. You have no idea how easy it is to feel alive out here, asleep at the mental wheel, apathetic and oblivious to the turbulent emotional alarm and duress we place our loving fantasy companions, such as yourself, through on a routine basis. But of course, you're on the inside looking out...and in times like these it's perfectly ok to be afraid...and lock the doors. Go ahead, I'll wait out here.

Goodnight to all the sane levelheaded people who appreciated this tongue-in-cheek interaction for what it is. The rest of you can get a life.

Wil...your funny is never very far away. Just stop looking for it, and it will come to you like it did to me just now.

Hey Wil,
I had some chinese fortune cookies the other day and I want you to have part of my fortunes...or better yet I want to share these fortunes with you so they become our fortunes.
1# aLL YOUR HARD WORK WILL SOON PAY OFF.
2# YOU WILL MAKE A SUDDEN RISE IN LIFE.
Let me know if you want to know the lucky numbers as well. I mailed off about 7 portfolios a couple of weeks ago to book publishers. So heres wishing both of us luck...you and I.

Hiya Wil

Don't worry about feeling down and unsatisfied, it happens to me all the time. If you start to feel comfortable you don't push for what you want, and don't achieve what you can. You just have a personality that must push and push and succeed as much as you can or you are left feeling unhappy. This is why you left TNG in the first place, you know you could do better. Use this determination to succeed again.

Wil,

I got to read both of these entries this morning. You've heard it all already, but it's so important and so hard to keep perspective, especially during the storm.

Maybe it's the "milestone" of 30 that's got you down, but I realized that it was just another year. Some people that I grew up with are very "successful", much more than I. Others are "not". But who really is to say? The "sucesses" had to sacrifice things to get where they are, and may look at my life and wish for things I have to help complete themselves. The "nots" may look at me and say "good for him, but I have something he can never have."

Have fun this weekend. I will bet you that when you return, you will be revitalized in a way you won't expect!

Hey Wil ! I think, it's not as easy as many people think to just rely on yourself exclusively... I for example could not exist without my two "best friends"... but on the other hand, it's funny... we are so close, that telling them something about my fears/problems/happiness/sadness etc. is basically like telling it to myself... I don't feel that I'm relying on others, you understand ?
Enjoy your time with your friend, I bet, it will help you ! ! !
Take care, man !

Renew! Renew! (okay, that takes care of ObLogan'sRun.)

When you hit any Big Chronological Odometer Event (birthday ending with a "0"), you're gonna hit self-reassessment. I learned a lot from my wife when she hit her BCOE that it's a matter of perspective and being happy with yourself and how life is treating you. We kept it a secret from friends (saying it was a birthday, but not a Birthday), but when she alluded to it being a BCOE, they thought she was ten years *younger*, which was a major egoboost.

You're never washed up, and you're as young as you feel. And I better wrap this up before I get all George Bailey/Frank Capra inside.

Peace.

WIL U RULEEEEE

If you never get another job in show biz, you're still the luckiest SOB around. Your wife is letting you play with the guys away from home for FOUR DAYS!?!?! Sir, I salute you.
Seriously, good luck and hang in there. Of course you're going to bomb every now and then; it's good for you. It makes the times when you slay the room (and you will) mean that much more.

Glad to hear that the Nemesis issue may only be a rumor. I won't watch it if you're not in it. Clarity rules too! :)

Ness

You are funny.

And you're doin alright.

Sounds like things are falling into perspective. Have a great weekend.

Doug in Phoenix

If Eastern Philosophy might be able to inspire peace within yourself (and if you don't already have a copy,)I highly recommend you pick up a copy of the "Tao Te Ching" by Lao Tse. (There are various English interpretations available, and it has helped me a great deal with my own chaos, as like you, I am yet another almost30-er worrier.)

At the very least, it'll be good bathroom reading fodder; but(no pun intended) on the other hand, it might just provide you with some enlightening gems for your 'self'.

Can you mention the fact that your turning 30 any more times? How about making up a symbol for it like prince and putting in at the start of every sentence? And I thought *I* aged poorly.

Congratulations on your epiphany. It took me a long time to come to learn that lesson - I think I've been struggling with it since I was a little kid in grade school. It's actually a lesson that we have to learn over and over again as we grow up (which apparently can go on for at least 60 or 70 years).

Don't try to hold other people up to your expectations (you'll only be disappointed), and don't hold yourself up to the expectations of others. This last one is really important - you don't really know what others' expectations are, you PROJECT onto them what you THINK they expect of you. Just skip that extra step and ask yourself what YOU want. Take control of, and responsibility for, yourself. Challenge yourself, make commitments, follow through and do your best. I've found that setting these goals and boundaries for myself means I'm always accomplishing something, and I'm more likely to be satisfied with myself and my efforts - regardless of what the people around me may do or say.

The big truth is that no one can make you miserable. It's how you respond to other people and your situations that can make the difference between making yourself miserable and feeling content.

Peace

Wil, YOU ROCK!
That is all.

Are you one of the people that's going to be playing Pong for the next seven days on G4? Maybe against Tiffany? ;)

To gain some more funny, I recommend watching at least one episode of "Who's Line Is It Anyway?". The English version, then the American version. That'll make you laugh!

Wisdom is good, faith is great, but knowing when to say "Screw it" can be the best piece of wisdom I have ever been told... when saying that, you're not giving up on anything, you are admitting that you can't change what's going on so you'll deal with it as is.

I'm happy everyone has been passing on their blessings to you. I do so as well! Smile, things can only get better!

If none of this helps, give Ferris a big hug.

Wil,

Glad I found your site. I have been enjoying it. I can now think differently about Wesley.

I was once told that it is physically impossible to be depressed while your eyes are raised up (looking towards your forehead). We naturally tend to slump and lower our head and eyes when felling down, so changing your body language can change your outlook.

I though it was crap. But it works for me.

Hope your seen is not cut.

Cybex

Nice to see you sounding somewhat cherrier b/c I was about to virtually slap you upside the head :)
I turned 35 a few wks ago and for a min I thought well this sux, life is flying by me, but then I slapped myself upside the head and it passed. I know it sounds super corny, but be thankful for what you have instead of dwelling on what ya don't. You tasted fame (and still do/will etc) and some ppl struggle for that their whole lives and never get that. You have a wife and kids and there are a lot of single, lonely people out there who wish they had that. For EVERY complaint/perceived unfulfilled wish you have there is someone who would say I wish I had what he has right now. Remember that.

My work here is done :)
K8

Wow,

I am really impressed with all the love out there.

I am new here and I think this is great.

I think everyone should give themselves a pat on the back for all the awsome advise and wonderful thoughts they are "willing" to share!
(sorry about the awful pun)

It looks like LOTS of people get you Wil.

"All conditions are transient,
There is no self in the created or the uncreated.
All of us
Are bound by birth, ageing, and death,
By sorrow, lamentation, pain, grief, and despair,
Bound by suffering and obstructed by suffering.
Let us all aspire to complete freedom from suffering."

Right on. Take care, man.

Hey - Just wanted to say thanks for sharing. The cool thing about your blog is that you aren't afraid of talking about what's really going on with you, good or bad. - It is very cool and the cool people who gather here seem to be some of the coolest on the net. The fact that people know who you are from "Stand by Me" or "Star Trek" or whatever, doesn't matter. A cool blog, is a cool blog.

Thanks!

I hope they don't cut Wesley Crusher from the film. I've always thought of Wesley as a positive and welcomed addition to the Star Trek family.

Best wishes,

1. My partner, he is great (i won't get musshy)
2. My friends who are supportive/funny
3. Wil and the community his site brings.
4. I love my job as an IT Mangaer, it's a great company!
5. The weather is soooo nice today in Marin (CA)
6. Dilbert, the source of all that is true
7. The Internet.

Hey Will

I doubt you'll read this, but last year I was feeling the same way as you regarding my career. I think one of the biggest mistakes your making is that you are trying to find happiness in yourself. ALL happiness comes from God. Don't believe me? Try it. Give your problems to Him and see how greatly your life will become.

Mike

To quote the great Mike Jittlov:
"Nothing Stops the Creative Spirit!"
and also,
"May all your good dreams and fine wishes come true!"

I look forward to seeing you in trek X, (hope it's better than OSX !) : don't belive what you read on the internet! (or anywhere for that matter!)

Good luck with all things!

You know Wil,
Losing your funny for just a short while is just payback for the April Fools gig you put on us. Payback sometimes really is a bitch, don't you think?

Hey Wil,

Saw you on Lifegame last night on TNN. You still have the funny, man.

Tim

Stupid internet rumors. They better not cut you from the ST film.

Wil writes: "I wonder if that's The Lesson that I need to learn right now? As I approach 30, and as I look around me for my funny, and I deal with all the external frustrations that I can't control, even beyond my career...I wonder if The Lesson is that, in order to succeed, I need to rely upon myself, trust myself, love myself, and not put my happiness and sadness into the hands of others."

Bingo! And I hope you don't think I'm being condescending when I say that this is a hard one to figure out -- I mean REALLY figure out for yourself. Some people never get to that realization. Keep after it Wil.

I was thinking about your "has-been" concerns as I was having some dental work done today (yes, Unca Willie, ya were there with me as they tightened my braces). And, I was thinking, "I'd call him up and say that you aren't washed up until YOU think you're washed up. Nobody can screw with your mind like that without your permission Wil -- so don't let 'em."

Yeah, I know... easier said than done. But whaddaya want from an "Older Woman" -- I got wisdom, and gotta give it to somebody. Might as well be you.

Take care and good job on the G4 stuff!

"Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string." - Emerson

Best wishes, Wil.

You can't base your life on "feelings". Feelings are fickle, they change with the wind and the situation.

But you can base your life of Jesus Christ, He never changes - no matter what the situation is.

This problem your having with happiness is due to that internal vacuum you have, that all of us have, and we try to cram everything in it to make us "happy". That void is ment to be filled with Christ.

In most cases, a human being must be taken to the end of themselves before they start looking for answers outside of themselves. Suffering serves that purpose. In most cases you won't look to Christ unless "self" is being crushed and all is hopeless.

Suffering in the life of a Christian is for the same thing, refinement, to build character, to teach the Christian to depend more on Jesus than themselves.

Until then, you're being ground to powder to force you to look outside of yourself for Jesus.

And ofcourse, there are the times that we bring suffering, and dispare on ourselves.

In Christ Jesus, our Lord
Ron Dean

What the hell, here's my 7...

1. I got accepted to the college I applied to (now if I can get the fundage)
2. I have a really cool neighbor who's been shuttling me to work since my car bit the big one on Good Friday
3. I found the key to my apartment that I'd lost (thank goodness for the spare!)
4. Sheryl Crow's new album is out (I know it's not Cake or the D, but it gets me by)
5. My little brother graduates high school next month
6. My older brother - the one I thought would never settle down - is now engaged
7. I'm getting 3 days a week of overnight work on the radio!

Oh, and Wil, I think I may have stumbled upon your funny. I've recently became unusually witty and have no explanation for it.

I think that's exactly what you have to come to terms with. But, that's just me. And one more thing, Mom's are always right. It's weird, but true.

Dear Wil,
it's about time somebody had a sense of humor around here. I've lived far to many lifetimes (and intend to live far too many more) to not be able to tell someone to kiss my nicely-rounded, mahoghaney behind (actually, I find myself having to hold back the urge to NOT say that to a few of my 10th and 11th grade students). I'm 33 and still buggering on with life, inspired by the words of free spirits, like you, and finding solace in Neale Donald Walsh's "Conversations With God," wich has something to say for humor and dirty jokes (What!? You didn't know that GOD was the one that made up all of those dirty sex jokes?!).
Your Happiness will always be yours to have and to hold, to own and to disown. The same goes for any idea of Misery.
Do what I did, when all else fails:
Run across the parking lot of your apartment (or the driveway of your home) butt-naked, on a Sunday morning, in the hopes that at 7 in the morning, someone is looking!
Be Well and Go Carefully
Love, Glennie Walking Cedar
Asheville, North Carolina
April 25, 2002

Even the funniest of people aren't funny all the time. I'm continually reminded by my friends that I'm funny, but I still get long streaks of unfunny. Anyway, I think that you're a gas. A friend of mine turned me on to your site the other day, and you cracked me up. Advice: Go for the geek humor. You seem to be really good at that. I realize that it may be difficult to pull that off in a comedy club arena, but you have a lot of strength there. Perhaps think of a way to bridge the gap and get non-geeks to understand us geeks in a humorous way. Who knows. But you seem very talented and seem to have a voice. That part about you and your son in the car was great. I expect you'll try many avenues of "show-business" in your life. Okay, I digress.

I wish I would have seen this earlier. We could have had a nice glass of perspective and soda.
Once the big day is over, you sorta realize that 30 isnt that bad. I'm one to talk, though, I turn 35 in December and have already been thinking about it...

Wil very glad you have found yourself again.

Was it outside lurking in the bushes?

Oh no that was SPUDNUTS!

HEY..idea..if you loose the "funny" again you
could ALWAYS hire SPUDS as a WRITER for ya!!!

Or I'm sure that ALL of the posse would probably
volunteer for the job! Hang in there...

Remember you have a POSSE! Does the COREY'S?
I THINK NOT!!!!

Well, considering that Startrek.com is announcing your cameo, as well as Kate and Whoopie's, I doubt very much you're going to get cut at this point...

I find it ironic that they gave away such a major subplot on their site. I'm disappointed that I know about it...

Hello, newcomer to the site - but hey, it's good to know that you have the strength to keep going despite the rough bits; I work with kids who are often _really_ in tough spots and when someone is willing to give good examples (the seven things) on ways to deal with it, it inspires me to keep helping them find new ways to deal with the *rappy times. Keep kicking against the 9ricks and rock on!

Hi Wil,

Feels kinda funny to give out advice, but if I could give one it's this: try not too worry to much about the things you cannot change, it'll only gets you stressed out.

And since obviousy you cannot change it anyways, seems kinda silly to worry about it doesn't it :-)

Don't forget to have fun... very important.. wax in, wax off ...

Cya,
Patrick
Rotterdam, The netherlands

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