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« Not worth a title | Main | Fark Strikes Back » May 14, 2002The Need To WinThe Need To Win
His skill has not changed. But the prize
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I like it. Example: That is my interpretation anyway. I'll stop talking now. Posted by: Emiline at May 14, 2002 12:22 PMI see it more as money corrupts. The minute we get greedy is when we start to lose. Posted by: Katya at May 14, 2002 12:29 PMWOW! Thats deep! One other quote that has always confused me is the "If a tree falls in a deserted forest, does it make a sound?" I have NEVER fully understood that quote. Can anyone shed some light on it for me? cheers medears Posted by: Foxychik at May 14, 2002 12:32 PMThis site's getting a little too new age'y for my blood. Posted by: funky jello at May 14, 2002 12:32 PMThe pressure we put on ourselves OVER money is what corrupts. Some can handle it and still focus, some (hell, most) can not. I shoot a decent game of 8-Ball. That is until money's on the table, then I can't shoot worth a hill of beans. I know how to play. I am decent, but the idea of losing/winning money makes me unable to focus as I could with no money on the table. The point is money corrupts all. Brilliant poem, Wil. Posted by: Potch at May 14, 2002 12:33 PMWhat I get from this is a great Lesson. Doing something for the joy of doing it almost always leads to great success, since our perception of success is based only on the act of doing. When our perception of success or failure is based on wealth, or some other "prize," we lose the joy of just doing. Posted by: wil at May 14, 2002 12:41 PMReferring to the "tree in the forest question," that has much to do with the concept of sound and the presence of human perception in our grand concept of what is "real." The tree makes no sound; the air compressions it causes would have, but there been no human ear around to translate them into the noise our brain registers. Just like how everything we see is essentially because of the way light affects it. Posted by: Ender at May 14, 2002 12:43 PMNothing makes your neurons fire incorrectly like the thought of something you really want within your grasp, but you need to perform well to achieve it. It takes a great deal of control to allow your mind to ignore the carrot and let your body do what it knows how to do. Those that can are masters, those that can't are the rest of us. Great post Wil! Posted by: Nyarl at May 14, 2002 12:46 PMYou'll find also, that the most enjoyable things you can do will cost you nothing. Spending time with those you love, going for a walk along the beach, things that give us so much pleasure are priceless. Money doesn't come into it, which is why we receive joy from it. However - I don't believe money is the root of all evil. Try living without it. Posted by: Tiana at May 14, 2002 12:50 PMvoosis? Posted by: cunfuzzled at May 14, 2002 12:52 PMquoth Everclear: "I hate those people who love to tell you Ever notice that if you say "Yeeeahhhh" in any song, you can make it sound like Everclear? Try it... "Oops! I did it again...Yeeeeahhhhh" "Grey matter, grey matter....Yeeeeaahhhh....oh oh oh oh..." Posted by: wil at May 14, 2002 12:53 PMYa, I know that archer guy. He always chokes like that. :) Posted by: synchronicity at May 14, 2002 12:54 PMWhat an oddly appropriate post, since I just found Progress Quest yesterday... http://www.progressquest.com/ Wil, if you like Nethack, you'll get a kick out of this... Posted by: Chuggnutt at May 14, 2002 01:00 PMum....so you found your geocached object? Posted by: Bubba Licious at May 14, 2002 01:01 PMThank you, Wil. (Which is not what I've been doing You are a wise man, Wil. Now, about my being a butterfly... Posted by: mondae at May 14, 2002 01:02 PMYes grasshopper. Posted by: bluecat/redblanket at May 14, 2002 01:06 PMThe concept of a prize, or goal, in this lesson is much akin to the process of tempering steel. For some the goal, be it money or fame breaks them, for others it tempers them and makes them stronger. Most often it breaks people when they focus on something like that, for the elite and lucky few, it's a lens into which they can pour their energy, focussing their abilities into laser like sharpness. But that's just my Metaphysical meanerings... Posted by: Nobody at May 14, 2002 01:11 PMWil, That poem is very thought provoking. I have always thought that that Everclear song is very true. I know from experience that while money can't buy you happiness or love (pick a cliche), but the lack of it is a definite source of unhappiness. However, I don't think that I would strive to sound like Everclear :-). Jessie Posted by: Jessie at May 14, 2002 01:12 PMI said: "I know from experience that while money can't buy you happiness or love (pick a cliche), but the lack of it is a definite source of unhappiness." Let's just pretend that the "but" in that sentence isn't there...note to self...preview posts. Posted by: jessie at May 14, 2002 01:14 PMMondae, I second that emotion! Which is why I am quitting my well paying job to become a happier person. If that makes sense. Damn Corporate America for turning me into a rat in this rat race! Posted by: Karona at May 14, 2002 01:14 PMVery thought provoking indeed. I didn't see it as necessarily discussing money though as much as personal performance on any given thing. For instance, if someone were to put a plank of wood down on the ground, you'd be able to relax and walk across it. Put it 300 ft up in the air (even with still air) and it's a whole nuther ballgame. Posted by: Kman at May 14, 2002 01:25 PMIt does indeed make sense, Karona. Life is for living. In the spirit of Wil's original post, --- As for your name and your body, Thus, an excessive love for anything --- Posted by: mondae at May 14, 2002 01:33 PMDid Chuang Tzu also do that one with the wet kittens who say "I don't do Mondays?" Posted by: Spudnuts at May 14, 2002 01:45 PMThere's another invention the Chinese don't get credit for... The motivational poster. And the Hallmark greeting card. Heh. Posted by: Spudnuts at May 14, 2002 01:46 PMThanks for the inspiration today, Wil, Mondae, and everyone else... ...I needed it. Posted by: Karona at May 14, 2002 01:51 PMOkay, one last note. My own contribution: (don't know the author) Posted by: Karona at May 14, 2002 02:03 PMSure, if I focus on the success (or more importantly for me, the failure) of an endeavor rather than on the endeavor itself, I always screw it up one way or another. That's why I'm such a major procrastinator. Posted by: John at May 14, 2002 02:07 PMHey Wil! Sounds like Chuang Tzu is a Spurs fan. Posted by: Spudnuts at May 14, 2002 02:24 PMIt's just like taking a class or a test in school. All your after is the grade and you miss the point on the class to begin with. The learning has become secondary to the grade. That's bad. If you didn't know, in Japan you don't even have grades the first two years of school. Food for thought !! Truth is the message. Posted by: Mark at May 14, 2002 02:30 PMIt is not money that is (according to St Paul, at least) the root of all evil, but the *love* of money. That makes all the difference. Sorry, a pedantic little point, but I'm like that. I'll shut up now. Posted by: NickW at May 14, 2002 02:33 PMI think that the poem is about pressure and success. If a talent that you can do is only being used because you love to do it and not for profit, then you are more likely to succeed because of less pressure. But when you have to use those talents to recieve rewards and riches the task becomes overwhelmingly harder because of the pressure you put on yourself, and you therefore stand a greater chance of failure. At the moment i have just started rehearsing for a college play i am doing, i think my audition went well because i had no pressure on me saying i had to get a part to survive, because there is no pay for it. However if we were getting paid for the play and i needed the money i would feel a lot more pressure to get a part. Oh what the hell do i know. sorry! Posted by: Freakus Fungus - Matt at May 14, 2002 02:42 PM"So you think that money is the root of all evil. Have you ever asked what is the root of all money?" -Ayn Rand Posted by: another nobody at May 14, 2002 02:48 PMRoot of all money? Capitalism! Posted by: ze-mag at May 14, 2002 03:11 PMThis is a basic truth about anything from target shooting to music to falling asleep. You need to be totally focused to do it well, and if you're focused on being totally focused, that's a part of you that isn't focused on the task. You can't THINK about doing, you just DO. Posted by: Janis Cortese at May 14, 2002 03:13 PMWell I agree and disagree with this quote. As I do with most Zen quotes. I will use the 8-ball analogy that someone else used. I am a pretty good player, when there isn't any pressure I can play decent. But when I get a very good opponent and money is on the table I freeze up, sometimes trying to hard to be technical instead of just sinking the ball. Other times if someone insults me and says cuz I am a chick I can't play pool. Well then I have something to prove and I usually dazzle and knock the pants off them. It just depends on the type of pressure I guess. Posted by: Fallulah at May 14, 2002 03:22 PMI can also relate this to a job interview I had once. I went into the place to give my resume and the manager interviewed me on the spot. I was in a real job slump and every interview up until then I had bombed big time. Well I totally wasn't prepared for this interview so I wasn't nervous at all. I used my instincts instead of text book answers I had memorized. I was calm, we shared a few laughs. I got called the next week to start what has turned out to be the best job I have ever had! Posted by: fallulah at May 14, 2002 03:26 PMThanks for this post, Wil. It helped put some things into perspective for me. I left my last job (general manager for a major hotel chain) where I made REALLY decent $$$ about 3 years ago. I now work in the social services field with kids and make about 50 % less.....but I love the work infinitely more and thus the $$$ doesn't really matter. I'm doing what I am good at and love without the worry of the materialistic payoff. Hmmm....does that fall into what your poem/quote was about on some level? Ah, well, that's what I took from it. Cheers! :) Posted by: the brett at May 14, 2002 03:26 PMWil typed that quote wearing his Yoda hand puppet. Posted by: synchronicity at May 14, 2002 03:26 PMit is interesting how our motivation clouds our perceptions. one of the key principles of taoism is: "if one has nothing to do, nothing is left undone. if one desires nothing, one is never unfulfilled." some people think that means that you should be lazy and boring. they miss the point. as sheryl crow sings in her latest single Soak Up the Sun: "it's not getting what you want, it's wanting what you've got". now THAT'S philosophy, man! who woulda thunk that a pop song could be deep! i wonder if she reads lao tzu? Everyone's stupid except me. That was pretty profound. I may be way off the mark, but what I got from it was, if you lose your passion and let greed take over, all sorts of crappy stuff happens. Posted by: Melodie Sproul at May 14, 2002 04:26 PMLove the post. The more that I think about it, I don't see this as a validation for "Money Corrupts, Power Corrupts" kind of thing. I know exactly what it means, to me. When you have nothing to lose, you can just relax and have fun with life. The minute you place a perceived value on something, you must fight to keep it. It becomes a struggle to hold onto what is yours. I had nothing to lose before I made something worth holding onto. Now everyday I must work harder and harder to hold onto it and the power it affords me. I am not corrupted by power and money in any way though. I just have something that is more easily lost than if I had nothing all. The funny thing is I could have lost freedom, the ability to play and have fun with the process of trying to keep it. I know that money doesn't make a person happy, but try living without it. At least with money you know the bills are paid. The kids are fed and clothed; there is always a fire in your hearth to keep you warm and safe. Security has a price. It's called accepting RESPONSIBILITY. Holy shit that is some scary ass stuff. Eeeeek everyone hide!!! This all reminds me of a play I was in as a high school student called. "Bag of Gold". It was about these two bumbling burglars who found a Big Heavy Bag of Gold. They could not really use it and it was too heavy for them to do much with it. They stumbled upon an inn, with an inn keeper who wanted nothing more than to steal it from them. They couldn't sleep or eat for fear of taking their eyes off the bag for even one moment. They caught the inn keeper trying to steal it and made him an offer for a trade. He offered trash for the Gold. But they said no, as trash is smelly and would still be heavy. So the inn keeper offers them EMPTY PAPER SACKS. Well the bumbling friends thought that was great as it would be neither smelly nor heavy. They were so much happier with their empty sacks of air. No worries or responsibilities. Here is a song that was sung by Frank during his Capital years. It is one of my favorites. Read the words carefully. Frank Sinatra - I got plenty of nothing. I got plenty of nothing. And nothing's plenty for me. He means day by long. He has all the time in the world to enjoy those things that he would spend time on. Pretty cool. Here's a different perspective if you will, in that I think that Chuang Tzu is very much talking about winning. What he seems to be saying is that by concentrating on perfection within the task at hand and ignoring the percieved goal you will succeed. And then by stringing these minor successes together you will eventually garner the prize as well.
John McGregor Posted by: John McGregor at May 14, 2002 07:23 PM I'm more with John here. I see it as the idea of keep your mind on what you have, and not what's at the finish line. This is something I have trouble with, I'm always looking to the next level, when I get my new job...., when I have this much money.... and have a hard time focusing on life where I am right now. I myself live in S. Korea, was thinking about the above note someone wrote about Japan. Here, your elementary school determines your middle school, determines your high school, determines your university. Your whole life is decided when you're 5 years old...how's that for pressure!! Posted by: tanyak at May 14, 2002 08:24 PMI concur, nice post wil. Made me dig up some old books that I used to read when I was young and trying to figure things out (I have since given up on that). Here are a few passages that I always liked: --the first one is not right on target with wil's post, but it shares the whole "fuzzy mind/external motivation" link. "In Yao's reign, the people did right without inducement or reward, and they avoided the path of evil without threat of punishment Now you have started promotions and punishments and the people have lost their natural humanity. Henceforth, man's character declines and punishments are instituted. This is going to be the beginning of world chaos." --the next one is also not exactly on topic "Skill is that which lends art to ability" --and for kandor (who asked about these first two lines above) Chapter 33 book of Tao: "He who know others is learned Frank Herbert (author of Dune) once said: "Wealth is a tool of freedom, but the pursuit of wealth is the way to slavery." Posted by: LoneCoyote at May 14, 2002 09:13 PMThis can be completely understood within the context of the 2002 Winter Olympics women's figure skating finals. Specifically, Michelle Kwan vs. Sarah Hughes. Kwan had all the pressure on her. She had to win. Gold or nothing. So, she choked. Hughes had nothing to lose. There were no expectations on her. So she just skated for fun. It showed, she nailed it, she won. Pressure kills. Posted by: billder at May 14, 2002 10:46 PMWil, Here's a great quote from a teriffic short film I saw on ifilm ("The Last Birthday Card"): It doesn't matter if you suck at it--you do what you love. Posted by: Rob Matsushita at May 14, 2002 11:14 PMI'm still confused as to what geocaching is. Interesting selection from Selections. Any reason in particular you chose them? Anyway I've been keeping up with this site frequently since discovering it. When is the Actors section going to be up? I think the site as itself serves an important lesson as it is, to both actors, and fans. I really like your choice in designing this site as Wil the human being, instead of Wil the perception gave by media. Having had relative fame (Canadian TV) myself as a child and teen, I can appreciate your work from both points of view. Visiting this site only a hand full of times I have been given a huge insight to you as a person, rather than your character on Star Trek: TNG who my girlfriend had a crush on (no seriously). All the success to you.. and stay away from my girlfriend. Posted by: Chris at May 14, 2002 11:39 PMI disagree with the suggestion. From a personal point of view, having a goal focuses me. The need to succeed raises my game. I suppose one question is whether doing something for the sake of doing it is having an aim or not. Posted by: James Casey at May 15, 2002 12:39 AMA wise man, or at least a Cowboy once said, "Generally if you're lips are flappin, you ain't learnin much." Posted by: Kman at May 15, 2002 01:31 AMAn important thing to see, and the one that caught my attention, is the specific phrase, "He thinks more of winning than of shooting-". That's a grain of precious example, and illustrates to me something I see everywhere. It's a simple thing, but it's base and desperate and pounded into us from our youth, and that is the need to be a "winner" by society's modern definitions. Be a winner, at whatever cost. Not to live a good life. Not to follow a path of happiness and joy. Not to share the good things with others to make their time here better. To win. When was winning something other than living well? Posted by: Dave at May 15, 2002 02:46 AMWil and everyone else... it is the LOVE OF MONEY that is evil. or, when all you think about is money, money money and how can I get it all... money in itself, is not evil.. it's just a way and there is nothing wrong in winning something my brother tried a career in photography once.. the moment you have to make a living, to try a support a familiy, while doing something you like or love to do, it becomes work... say like... you're an actor... always looking for that next "gig" or "bit" and never getting it. or if you do get to be a regular and after several years, an offer comes along, and we find that the value we thought we were to whatever program, colides with our desire. conflick happens and whatever love or joy we had... well we can learn very quickly that it no longer enjoyable, and we can grow to hate or be angered by it... anger or hate, does lead one to the dark side of life.... so as I learned.. turn away from the dark side. don't give in to your hate... I learned that somewhere, sometime ago... take care Wil, sometimes you don't need a gps "When an actor comes to me and wants to discuss his character, I say, 'It's in the script.' If he says, 'But what's my motivation?, ' I say, 'Your salary.'" just another "thought" Posted by: wade at May 15, 2002 04:13 AMWell I hate to say it ..but its very true. Most of the time I don't have "goals". Just go with the flow. (Hippies never die they just post at WWDN.) Posted by: bluecat/redblanket at May 15, 2002 05:36 AMTruly words of wisdom! Excellence and accomplishment are the best motivations. True, monetary rewards are quite useful when it comes to paying the mortgage and buying food, but being outstanding at what you do is the best way to "take care o' bidness." But I ramble, and possibly even digress. Posted by: Paul at May 15, 2002 06:01 AMAh, the wisdom of the Chinese. By the way, Will, I took your advice (and Jerhanner's) and I rereada the Toa of Pooh. I'm already intrigued. I'm alreay looking at things differently, and I'm signing up for Tai Chi lessons. Thanks! Posted by: Pmacca01 at May 15, 2002 06:43 AMWow...typo central! I'm using my mother's keyboard, and it's kinda wierd. In that last post I wrote, I meant to type "reread" and "already" and "Tao of Pooh". Posted by: Pmacca01 at May 15, 2002 06:46 AMSince I am not a long winded person, I will simply say thank you for that! It is a very simple truth and we all need to be reminded of these things from time to time! :) Posted by: NephraTari at May 15, 2002 07:12 AMThanks, Wil--I have a recital this week, after many years away from singing, and I've been freaking out about it. This gives me a better way to think about it--i.e., it's about just doing the recital, just singing, and connecting with the audience. It's not (or it would be better for me if it wasn't) about the external "prizes", like impressing people, or proving myself, or making connections, etc., etc. Fortunately, money doesn't come into it, so that may make it easier for me to let go of the external prizes . Not that money isn't a problem in every other area of my life, just not this one... "Don't have a lot of kids." From the "Tao of Doris Day." "She ain't lying." From the "Tao of Florence Henderson." I met the lead singer of everclear.. anyone jealous? Posted by: hops at May 15, 2002 09:15 AMhops wrote: "Yeeeeahhhhh!" :-) Posted by: Da Schmiz at May 15, 2002 11:27 AMFor the education of the neanderthal Brit here, (we're only just getting used to staircases, electricity and the invention of the refrigerator!!!) "WHAAAT!!!......You can get SLICED bread??" WHO THE POOH ARE EVERCLEAR?? :oS Posted by: Foxychik at May 15, 2002 01:12 PMThey're an American alternative rock band. Posted by: Mitchell at May 16, 2002 01:36 PMI'm Canadian so naturally I thought about "The Need to Win" as it relates to hockey. Anybody who watched the Ottawa Senators implode in Game 7 of their series against the Toronto Maple Leafs (hey Toronto, the plural of "leaf" is "leaves", you dolts) knows the fear of winning can be as debilitating as the fear of losing. Posted by: Tom Blain at May 16, 2002 03:34 PMCheers Mitchell. I had absolutely NO idea! (lol) :o)) When something strikes you as profound
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