Sorry to hear about Felix. I'm a pet owner too (six cats and a one dog), I know how hard it is when they get sick. I also worked for a veterinarian for a few years and know how hard it is to have "the talk". I'll keep your family in my thoughts...

Posted by: swl-mom2Bryn at March 14, 2005 11:25 AM

I'm so sorry, for all of you. I hope there's a turnaround, somehow.

Posted by: Sea-bright messenger at March 14, 2005 11:26 AM

Best wishes to Felix. I hope he will get well soon.

Posted by: Annie at March 14, 2005 11:28 AM

sorry wil...but have hope. maybe, like sketch, felix will pull through this.

Posted by: Aethera21 at March 14, 2005 11:29 AM

you are all in my thoughts...

Posted by: marie at March 14, 2005 11:30 AM

My heart just sank when I read your post. I am so sorry to hear the news. Animals are like small children to us and our lives. My heart goes out to you and yours. I will be sending much needed kitty mogo your way, twice as much for both of your furry family.

Posted by: KatieB at March 14, 2005 11:31 AM

Wil, Anne, and especially Felix:

You all are in our thoughts -- and we're sending all the mojo available. Hang in there.

Chuck

Posted by: ccage at March 14, 2005 11:31 AM

Wil, sorry to hear about Felix... it is heart breaking to think of our 'babies' in pain. I am sending lots of kitty mojo and love your way. hugs and blessings to you, Anne and boys.

Posted by: WildeZ at March 14, 2005 11:34 AM

Damn, Wil... sorry to hear about Felix. Hope Felix makes a turn-around for the better. Plenty of mojo from Chi-town.

--T

Posted by: t_knotts at March 14, 2005 11:35 AM

Hey Will,

That's bad news about Felix. I know the feeling (have 3 dogs) of being helpless. But thrust me, Felix feels that you care for him, just be there and cuddle him.

It's a difficult talk with the vet, I know (my dog died two years ago from kidney-failure).

But that is worst case, cats always have a life to spare (somewhere), i'll keep my fingers crossed

Take you're time and spend as much time as possible with Felix.

My toughts are with you and the rest of the family.

Can you keep us up to date Wil about Felix?

Greetz

Posted by: Hologic at March 14, 2005 11:36 AM

Major mucho mojo comin' atcha bro. We lost our kitty cat a few weeks back. Midnight was an outdoor cat and would disappear few days at a time, but always knew where to come and get love and food. One day he showed up and had been torn up by something. The vet initially had to give him surgery to patch him up and told us to keep an eye on him. We got 'the talk' at that time (he was ripped up around the neck pretty bad...the vet said an eighth of an inch closer would have torn open his jugular: that's how bad he was injured) and we were told to keep him in the house. After a week he had not improved so we took him back. Our worst fears were realized when the vet told us he had contracted leukemia from his encounter and it would be best if we put him down. After some tearful goodbyes, we gave the vet permission to send him to a better place and she said it was best for him. She actually had his paw print put into some ceramic and we brought it home with some little letters that spelled 'Midnight'. We know our pretty kitty is happy where he is now and although we miss him, we know it was all for the best. We could not live knowing he would be in pain, so we did what we thought was best. Was it a mistake? Some people may say so, but I could not stand to see our friend and member of our family suffer, so I did what I did and have no regrets.

The moral of my story? I hope that you and yours don't have to go through the same thing. Again, mucho major mojo is with you and Anne and I hope all goes well with you all. Take care. :)

Posted by: RipRyder at March 14, 2005 11:41 AM

i'm really sorry felix isn't feeling well. i love cats. i'm praying for all of you. i hope he gets better soon.

Posted by: Megan at March 14, 2005 11:48 AM

Man Wil, I am really sorry that you and your family are having to go through this... Everyone else has pretty much stated my thoughts and feelings, so I will be sending all of the mojo, white light and positive karmic energy as I can possibly spare to all of you, and especially to Felix...

(((((((((((((((Felix & Wheaton Family))))))))))))))

As for the CSI, con & Love Machine posts... don't stress. We all understand that family (including pets) is a priority!

Terry *hugz*

Posted by: oboeterry at March 14, 2005 11:48 AM

Hi Wil,

First-time commenter, long-time reader. Have you eer thought of looking into raw feeding for your pets? I know it's not the end-all cure, but I had a friend, whose dog had kidney problems that were off-the-charts (literally). She switched to the best dog food money could buy, and that brought his problems back onto the charts, but still, they were there.

She switched to raw feeding him, and the problems went away entirely.

If you want to look into it, do searches on raw feeding, also known as BARF (Bones and Raw Food) feeding.

Do keep in mind: sometimes switching them to this diet will cause them to be ill for the first week. It should be mentioned in things you might find.

Posted by: dev_null at March 14, 2005 11:53 AM

Are you giving him subcutaneous fluids?

There are a couple of prescription foods you might ask your vet about. My cat Phoebe went from near dead to doing quite well for several years after putting her on the Hills Prescription Diet wet food for renal failure and oxylate stones, as well as giving her half a liter of fluid subcutaneously (ie with a needle under the skin) per day. Happy healthy old cat now. At first giving her the fluids was kind of disconcerting, but nowadays she sits right through it and purrs.

Posted by: Michael Ditto at March 14, 2005 12:00 PM

Wil, my thoughts and mojo are going out for you and Ann and Felix.

Just thinking about it makes me want to cry. Animals effect us deep in our soul, and I feel more emotion about animals than about humans, perhaps because of the innocence of animals, and that humans can basically take care of themselves.

My love and mojo is heading to Pasadena, you and yours are in my heart and soul. Peace, life, joy and abundance are being sent to you.

Kroeme

Posted by: Kroeme at March 14, 2005 12:02 PM

Wil, Anne & boys,
I'm so sorry to hear about your other little one. Keeping you in our thoughts!
-Amanda, Jeff & Sammycat =^..^=

Posted by: Aylanah at March 14, 2005 12:02 PM

Can they do a kidney transplant or would the surgery be too hard on him?

Sorry, I know you're sad over your cat. I would be, too, if my Alex were sick. However, I can't help but remember that line from Star Trek IV: "The doctor gave me a pill and I grew a new kidney!"

Sending you and Felix lots of prayers and mojo.

Posted by: Anna at March 14, 2005 12:06 PM

((Hugs))

Posted by: hypercoma at March 14, 2005 12:10 PM

Sending hugs and mojo to Felix and to all of his humans, especially to Anne.

Good luck.

Posted by: Lilitu at March 14, 2005 12:18 PM

My thoughts are with you and Anne, Wil. I have a big baby kitty of my own and everytime I read one of your posts in regards to the health of your cats, I just look into her big, green eyes and find myself thankful for every moment I get to share with her. Our pets become a special part of our lives and I am so sorry for all of the heartache you are going through.

Lots and lots of kitty mojo is being sent your way.

Posted by: TheGeek at March 14, 2005 12:29 PM

Hey Wil,
Sorry to hear about Felix. I hope he gets to feeling better. Lots of mojo to all of ya.

mels

Posted by: foufymaus at March 14, 2005 12:31 PM

The thoughts are always there, man. Even when you don't need them. :)

Posted by: Clay at March 14, 2005 12:36 PM

Not a pet owner at the moment, although I think when we move house later this year room should be found for a needy cat.

Curiously, this post doesn't put me off, but encourages me; the price you pay for not getting hurt is never to love.

Mojo coming Felix's way as I type...

Posted by: BigLig at March 14, 2005 12:38 PM

Aw, man, not again!

Get well soons Felix, and keep well Sketch.

With love and Kitty Mewjo from Galileo, Gizmo and Zigzag and their staff Ogrek and Devil Girl.

Cats getting sick should just not be allowed. Could something be passed in Congress about that?

Posted by: Devil Girl at March 14, 2005 12:54 PM

aw man send massive amounts of mojo to felix... hope he gets better.... your family is in my thoughts...

Posted by: Sarah K. at March 14, 2005 01:05 PM

thoughts and prayers to Felix, you, Anne and the boys, I lost both of my cats (litter mates) within a year of each other after having them for 15 & 16 years - it broke my heart.

Posted by: katco at March 14, 2005 01:06 PM

Hey Wil, I am sorry about Felix, I hope that he gets better. Lots of hugs and mojo for you, Felix and Anne.

Lots of mojo,
Sherry, and my doggy Chewy!

Posted by: sherry0687 at March 14, 2005 01:12 PM

Wil,

One of the toughest things that we sign on for when we share our lives with cats is to do exactly what you are doing: considering the end game for your friend. These guys trust us to feed them, take care of their medical needs, and in return they give us love and bring a dimension to our lives we wouldn't have without them. But when the time comes to do the right thing, we have to do that too.

We had a guy named Larry who was with us from the time we were first married and stayed for almost 18 years. When his time came we had to make that awful decision for him. But the alternative was far worse and he was wasting away before our eyes.

So, we made the appointment and that last day before we took him over to the vet, we let him out in the yard to enjoy the sunlight one last time, to walk free in the fresh air. Then, when he was visibly tired, we gathered him up, put him in the carrier, and took him to the vet. We held him as he got the penultimate shot, and he burrowed into my side as a little kitten would do to its mother. Then, he got the final shot and we cried as his life sighed out of his shrunken body.

To this day (six years later) I remember how he trusted us, grew up with us, grew old with us, and when we finally had to let him go.

He'll never really leave you Wil. He'll always be there, but yeah -- I know how tough it will be for you and Anne to do this for him.

You're good people.

Posted by: spacewriter at March 14, 2005 01:14 PM

My heart goes out to you and Anne and the boys. Felix is a lucky and well loved kitty and no matter what happens, you have that. Never doubt yourself and whether you are doing enough. I'm sure Anne would be the first to tell you that you are doing more than enough, and just being there for her to lean on, and loving her is plenty.

Posted by: AngelGypsy at March 14, 2005 01:14 PM

there's a lot of words here, but it's oddly comforting.

cat story

Posted by: Jeen Lilly at March 14, 2005 01:16 PM

I'm so sorry, Wil. I had to put my kitty to sleep a few weeks ago and we miss him a lot. But he was in seriously bad shape and we couldn't let him suffer anymore. The end was very quick and painless. I was actually surprised at how quick it was. Not that this helps you, but I know what you're going through. I'll be sure to keep you guys in my thoughts.

Posted by: Maggie at March 14, 2005 01:20 PM

I know it sucks and I know it hurts. The support of an aging hippie you never met might not help a whole heck of a lot, but I'm with you, man.

Positive vibes heading your way.

Posted by: FNRThomas at March 14, 2005 01:21 PM

Oh, man. TONS o'MOJO for Felix and the rest of the Wheatons. Somehow, it doesn't seem fair...

Posted by: Thumper at March 14, 2005 01:28 PM

Wil and Anne,

I am so sorry to hear that Felix Is not feeling well. I know how it is when you have a sick pet!! Animals are just like humans. They need love and care, because unlike humans , they cannot tell us what is wrong or what hurts. I mentioned before that I work in a vet clinic, and I see so many sick dogs and cats come in! Miricles do happen. I have seen the worst animals get better out of the blue. I will keep Felix in my thoughts everyday. I will pray that a miricle will happen. To give up on hope is the worst thing anyone can do. Whatever happens you have the peace in knowing that Felix could not have had better parents!! If I were a cat I know that I would want You and Anne for my parents!! The love you have for Felix And Sketch, and all of your animals is wonderful!! If They could talk they would say the same thing!! You both are in my thoughts and the same goes for Felix! I wish you both the very best and the very best to Felix!!

Posted by: JCade at March 14, 2005 01:29 PM

Here's some more mojo headed your way for Felix and Sketch.

Really sorry to hear about Felix now. Having sick pets is hard, especially when all you can do is be with them and hope everything will be all right. I've been there - three times when everything turned out all right, and finally once when it didn't (after three surgeries, her little body just couldn't take any more).

Anyway, hopefully Felix can pull through this, and be back to his old playful self. Cats are pretty amazing for bouncing back.

Posted by: Rodan at March 14, 2005 01:35 PM

*kitty mojo*

Good luck, little guys. I'm thinking of you all the way up here in Canada.

Posted by: shmadyle at March 14, 2005 01:44 PM

I feel for you guys. I had a cat a couple years ago that we went through this. It was a rotten experience. For the last year of her life we basically had to give her daily IVs just to keep her fluids up and eventually it came down to the point where her life just wasn't going to get better. She was essentially living in a three-foot by three-foot area, too weak to do much of anything but wait for her daily fluid injection.

If I had to go through it again I don't know what I would have done. Sometimes I feel like I just prolonged her pain. But on the other hand, it is so hard to tell when that point when there truly isn't any point in going on is.

The only advice I have is to make sure you get your vet to tell you exactly what the prognosis actually is. In my case, the vet kept us going for a while before admitting that we were essentially in maintence mode. I would have done anything for Riply to get better, but I wish I hadn't put her as much pain as I did.

Posted by: ucblockhead at March 14, 2005 01:47 PM

major kitty mojo to felix. hang in there old boy... your humans love you.

Posted by: barbie2be at March 14, 2005 01:50 PM

Felix, Anne, and the rest of the Wheaton clan (humans and quadripeds alike),

*Kitty hugs*

Crissie and Panda the cat.

Posted by: Crissie at March 14, 2005 01:56 PM

When we're born into this world we're not good at anything, its only through experience we learn things and more often than not all we can do is muddle our way through as best we can and hopefully try and learn from it. Thats not something to feel bad about, thats just life.

I kinda get the feeling felix is Anne's cat and that you dont really want to be the one to have to put him down? I'm not one to jump at putting animals to sleep unless its a real last resort, but if you feel that his quality of life will be non existent by further treatment, then although I know its really sucks, it maybe be better purely for the cats sake. I won't lie to ya, 15% Kidney function is not looking too great. Having said that, only you know how good or bad felix really is, so ask yourself and ask anne, if you were in felix's shoes what would you want to be done?

Posted by: Noel Burke at March 14, 2005 01:56 PM

Kitty MOJO for Felix and and extra helping of Munkeh MOJO for Anne and Wil.

Posted by: CIO at March 14, 2005 02:01 PM

Many positive thoughts for you guys.

Posted by: robin m at March 14, 2005 02:14 PM

So sorry to hear this. I lost a kitty to renal failure a few years ago and it was devastating. Sending purrs & headbutts to Felix, and to you too.

Posted by: whirlygirly at March 14, 2005 02:17 PM

As the parent of two cats (Holy Birma), I can at least try to imagine what it is that you and the family is going through right now.

Our two cats, Gina and Jaquie, have been with me and my wife since we moved into our first apartment in 1995, sharing our daily lives.

Now that we've got two sons growing up in the house with us, they have taken them under their paw as well, always fetching us if either one is unhappy and crying. Especially Gina is a big mother cat, if there ever was one, being especially close and cozy when someone's feeling ill.

Funniest thing about our cats is that they are such rivals when we're around, but tend to be very close when we're not. When arriving home after a day away, we always find them sleeping in our baby sons bed, very close to one another. And they always look like they _really_ didn't want us to find out... :)

Thinking of y'all. And remember, "if there's life, there's hope", as the saying goes.

/Magnus, still stuck in that small hotelroom in London...

Posted by: mavar at March 14, 2005 02:20 PM

Sorry to hear mate, sending as much positive mojo as i can. He will get better!!!

Posted by: badboybubby at March 14, 2005 02:40 PM

Oh no! Very sorry to hear that. ; ; My two kitties and I are sending all the mojo we can muster! All the WWdN mojo helped Sketch, so I'm sure it'll work for Felix too! And hugs for all of you, especially Anne.

Posted by: delenn_xi at March 14, 2005 02:48 PM

I'm really sorry to hear that. I've been in your and Anne's shoes more times than I care to remember. You've got all the positive mojo I have to offer.

Posted by: cerebus19 at March 14, 2005 02:51 PM

Oh God, when you mentioned the "crouch" I flashed back to my little Rasta kitty 5 years ago. I had to make that trip to the vet that turned into the final one and it was the most I've cried in years. I now know that there was nothing I could do, I was a good mom, he was a good boy.... it just happens when it happens. You are good "parents," be with him now and let him go when it's time. Mojo ahoy!!

Posted by: Angela at March 14, 2005 03:00 PM

i'm sorry to hear about your cats. it's good to see how much you care about them =]

Posted by: *Jamie* at March 14, 2005 03:00 PM

Wil & Anne,

When I was 3 months old, my parents adopted a black kitten from some kids outside of a Gemco (GemCo? Gem, Co.?). She was the last out of a litter of nine, and she bonded with me very quickly. In every 9mm film of me learning to walk that my parents have, the cat is right there next to me. It really is quite funny to see.

So, as you may guess by now, I've been an animal lover all my life. That cat followed me everywhere, even tried to follow me to school a few times, and the hardest thing I have ever done in my life was to have her euthenized. I still get emotional thinking about it--which is also funny to see, because I'm 6'4".

Anyhow, I didn't come to a good place about what I had done until I worked for the vet whom we had taken her to, and saw the other side of what was being done. An end to pain. An end to suffering.

Maybe it's the Christian-turned-Buhhdist in me, but I now have the ability to feel good about what I did because I see that life, like energy, cannot be destroyed, only transmuted from one state to another.

Good luck with your decision,

Tom

Posted by: T.C. at March 14, 2005 03:01 PM

It's amazing how our lil buddies become members of the family. MUCHO MOJO to all the Wheatons... four legged and two legged. Best Wishes...
Rob

Posted by: RobAP at March 14, 2005 03:06 PM

So sorry to hear about the cats, that's never fun to go through. Just wanted to say I enjoyed seeing you at the convention this weekend--I don't know if you remember, but I had you sign a copy of Dancing Barefoot for both me and my friend Meg. When Meg realized I'd gotten her not just your book but your autographed book...well, needless to say, she was quite excited (as was I!). Thanks much! You were far more accessible than any of the other people at the convention and I appreciated that. Best of luck with your cats, and for the future.

-Meredith

Posted by: Janewaypi110 at March 14, 2005 03:34 PM

Oh Wil...I'm just hurting for you guys. Like Angela up there, the word 'crouch' also brought me back to my late kitty. Mine was Noelle. She was only 7, but at the end she had failing kidneys and diabetes. The decision to euthanize was remarkably easy to make, (she was suffering so much) but emotionally draining to carry out.

My two kitties, Misty and Charlie, and I send Felix-bear mucho mojo!

(Dude...I was resisting this typekey junk so well until your site started with it. I did it for you, Wil. ;) )

Posted by: LadyGypsy at March 14, 2005 03:36 PM

It's hard when a pet is sick... I was just thinking today that I would be so sad if my cat were sick or put down. Even though I never put her on the same level as my human family before, I do feel that attachment to her. Sending you and little kitty many positive thoughts.

Posted by: the stalwart light at March 14, 2005 03:45 PM

Lots Of love and Kitty Karma to the Felix-Bear. I know how hard it is to have "the talk" with the vet. I truly hope things work out. Love and health to all of you.

Posted by: kate_13 at March 14, 2005 03:46 PM

My heart sank at reading the news about Felix. Me and my fur-babies are sending out the mojo.

Scott,Khyra,and Chel C. Puss Puss a.k.a "Peanut"

Posted by: Tenadin at March 14, 2005 03:48 PM

I'm sorry to hear about Felix. It's very difficult to watch a furry companion suffer like that. I've had three cats pass away (one from a diabetic coma, one from lung cancer and one from renal failure). Pumpkin passed away last August from renal failure and I did take comfort in that he died with me at home. We knew what was happening so there were no heroic attempts to prolong his life. No rushing to the vet in the middle of the night. Pumpkin, probably the same as Felix, lived a good life. We buried him in my stand of ferns, but I know he's out running around in a better place.

Take care of Felix the best you can. Good comfort karma sending your way.

Posted by: 2zen2 at March 14, 2005 03:55 PM

Sending lots of good kitty mojo from me, Cody, and Midnight. One of my friends just had to have her dog put to sleep for kidney failure a few weeks ago.

Posted by: mike3k at March 14, 2005 03:57 PM

Haven't had a cat for years, but when I was a kid we used to have several, and I remember how tough it was to lose one of them. The toughest a completely black one we'd had since he was born (called "Svarten", Norwegian for "black one" more or less.. not very original :) )

We had his mom, and she was so mean to him, often hiding behind the curtains and hitting him hard with her paws as he passed by...

He was very affectionate, but he also ended up becoming the most cowardly cat I've ever known... He was even afraid of the rabbits and canary we had.

When he was 7-8 years old, he developed a kidney problem, and about a year later we had to have him put down.

What hurt most was that I was away, and didn't get to hear about it until a week later..

He was the last cat I had. Hopefully now that I have a reasonably sized house with a garden perhaps I'll be able to get a cat again soon...

Hope your cats get better, Wil.

Posted by: Vidar Hokstad at March 14, 2005 04:24 PM

New mojo coming your way for Felix. Continued mojo for Sketch, too, just for good measure. Best of luck. Be sure to let us know how they're doing.

Posted by: sonjaag at March 14, 2005 04:26 PM

I'm sorry Felix isn't getting better. We lost a cat to kidney failure and it does feel like you are just standing still, unable to do anything. I wish you, Felix and Anne hugs and prayers for strength.

Christina in GA

Posted by: crouton at March 14, 2005 04:36 PM

I hope your cat gets better and if not, I hope that you can come to terms with the fact that Felix will no longer be suffering and lived a good cat life.

Posted by: ryustar at March 14, 2005 04:40 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about Felix.

Just this morning I made an appointment to do the same thing to... for my cat, Tom. He has a cancerous growth on his tongue that couldn't be surgically removed and didn't respond to chemo. So basicially I just watch him, day by day, having a harder and harder time eating as the tumor grows, filling his mouth and making it more difficult for him to swallow and manipulate his tongue. Last week, he stopped eating dry food. Now he's having difficulty with food that has chunks in it. He's not in pain and he doesn't feel sick so it makes it harder for me to pick when. I guess my decision is to wait until he can barely eat.

I hope Felix will rally and you won't be faced with the decision for awhile but if he doesn't you might want to do what I've decided to do: get the vet to make house call. That way Felix can sit on your (or Anne's) lap or in his favorite spot for the procedure. There's no way it's not icky but it minimizes some of the stress for him and for you. I live in the Valley too and found Dr. Andrea Mullen who does house calls here [Phone number removed by Wil -- not everyone on the Internets is cool.]

Good thoughts and cat blessings,

Diane, Tom, Sam, Rascal, Mittens, Emily and Miss Hiss.

Posted by: Diane at March 14, 2005 04:42 PM

Poor Felix! :( I hate it when such beautiful, soft, and gentle creatures suffer so.

Just remember that you've given him a wonderful life, a life that could not have been better under anyone else's care. You have done everything you can and should only do your best to make him comfortable and to enjoy his company for whatever time he has left.

~R

Posted by: Robby at March 14, 2005 05:19 PM

Heapin' helpin's of mojo for Felix, and big hugs for the entire Wheaton family.

Posted by: Dave Westbay at March 14, 2005 05:34 PM

Truly sorry to hear about Felix and I more than empathize with you and your family.


During the summer of 2001 I was caring for my Kaia, who had lung cancer. She wasn't doing well but we had her on the best treatment possible. Then 9/11 came (I lost two cousins), two weeks later she passed, I suppose the strain of both events was just too much for me and her.


I hear a lot of this with my clients and no matter how many times I hear about these situations my heart breaks a little and I tear up.


I hope and pray for the best outcome for all of you. Felix knows he's more than well-loved and cared for, a comfort all beings need.

GirlNerfHerder

Posted by: GirlNerfHerder at March 14, 2005 05:55 PM

Here's sending lots of mojo to Felix and all the family.

Two years ago we had to put down our cat because of kidney problems et al, and it was one of the toughest things I've ever gone through. It took a long while for us to get another kitten, especially for me, since I had lived most of my life with our cat, Cody, around.

I know it's tough to go through it, and I'm sending my thoughts your way.

Posted by: RalFeeus at March 14, 2005 06:14 PM

Wishing good kitty health all around the Wheaton-[insert the boys' last name here] house.

Posted by: AT at March 14, 2005 06:14 PM

More kittymojo coming from Denver, Wil...in fact, I had Star on my lap as I read your words. (My laptop was resting on the chair arm; Star had come up to me and given me that look that says, "Why do you want a computer on your lap when you could have a kitty on your lap?")

Felix, don't get any worse, OK? Your people love you very much.

Posted by: Erbo at March 14, 2005 06:16 PM

Only other pet owners know the pain of losing a pet. They are a member of the family, like children. It's such a painful thing to see them suffer. I hope that you and Anne get through this, and that no matter what, Felix feels better.

Posted by: Celtic Mama at March 14, 2005 06:29 PM

Wil,

As a fellow cat lover my heart goes out to you and your family. You are all in my thoughts! I hope it all turns out for the best, whatever that may be. I have only ever had the two cats I have now (mostly because I am allergic to them, so it was a big move for me to get cats at all), so I don't yet know what you are going through. I can only imagine, and even that makes me teary.

Best wishes!
Kris

Posted by: kris at March 14, 2005 07:12 PM

I am so sorry to hear about your other cat.
My prayers are with your kitty.

Posted by: JenniferB at March 14, 2005 07:16 PM

Much mojo to you and Anne and Felix. I also have a tuxedo cat, also named Felix; he and his brother Oscar send mojo too.

Posted by: Jennifer at March 14, 2005 07:24 PM

Much love and mojo for The Bear. I know what you are going through, tell Anne and Felix that tons of mojo are going thier way from little old Hutchinson Kansas from me, my son and our cat Nessa. I hope that this gets better for him. And dont worry about putting the other things on hold, a love for a pet adds presidence to other things. Best wishes.
karla

Posted by: cilesmom at March 14, 2005 07:27 PM

First time poster, I only recently started coming to the site. It's good to see an actor I admired so much acting and being human.

I've been a pet owner since before I can remember. I know it's not easy. I'm sorry Felix is not doing well. Do what you can for the condition, but at the same time, don't make them stay for longer than they have to. My step-dad held on for as long as he could to Varmit ( a cat he didn't want in the first place! Crotchety old thing, scared the poop outta me everytime I went near him. God he was cool.)

If you don't mind, besides all the good vibes I'll be sending your way, I'll send Bianca too. She left us on the 14th of February. She's kind, loving, loves scritches, and is a good watcher. She watched over my baby boy while he grew up. She'll watch over Felix too, with your permission.

Take care, Wheatons.

Mickey in Canada

Posted by: MickeyW at March 14, 2005 07:40 PM

I'm so sorry about Felix! My heart and my thoughts go out to him, to Anne, and to you. I've lost some very special friends in the last few years and it always hurts so much. I know how much this sucks and I pray you and your family will be able to have Felix for a long time to come but if that's not possible, know that you gave him a home he loved and all the skritchies he could ever dream of.
Hugs!
Tracey in Santee, CA

Posted by: Tracey at March 14, 2005 08:12 PM

As a vet tech and a pet owner, this hurts my heart.

Cats wander in, and they ask for nothing more than food, shelter, and an occasional display of affection. In return, they teach us to never stop playing, to be utterly unconcerned about what others think, and the value of naps in the sun. They show us how to love unconditionally, and live without regret.

In a world that went mad long ago, cats teach us how to be still. We love them, and we hurt like hell when they have to leave, but God...how lucky we are, to be able to measure our lives in companions that true.

I hope Felix manages to pull through, Wil, and spend a little longer with you and your family. But if that's not in the cards, I'm grateful that he'll go on to whatever's next knowing how much he's loved.

Posted by: MtDewAddict at March 14, 2005 09:33 PM

All my prayers and hopes are with Felix and your wife.

I've looked at the pictures of The Bear, and he's one of the cutest cats I've seen... Please keep your hopes up. I know that all of us here will!!!

Posted by: Gizmo at March 14, 2005 09:45 PM

One huge dose of Neon Las Vegas Mojo comin' at you! It really sucks when you lose a pet, because it is like losing your best friend. Last time I moved it was cross country and we have to give away our cats, and losing them sucked and has made me not wanna get anymore for a long time until I'm settled I think.
Well, that was kinda rambling, and not quite the same, but I think you know what I think I mean.

Be Better Felix! *waves mojo bag around*

Posted by: Genesyn at March 14, 2005 09:50 PM

Life doesn't play favorites but I wish you the best of luck

Posted by: Senior at March 14, 2005 09:54 PM

from one cat owner to another, my thoughts, prayers, and well wishing are headed that way for Felix!

Posted by: Faith at March 14, 2005 09:58 PM

Deepest sympathies... I know where you're at. Our cat, also Felix, has been sick lately too... the doctor feared heart failure but it's turning out to be much less serious than that. Best wishes and hopes for a recovery!

Posted by: rayeverettchurch at March 14, 2005 10:24 PM

My best wishes and mojo to you all

Posted by: griff at March 14, 2005 10:33 PM

Wil, Anne and the family..........
I completely understand where you're at. I've been there and it's excruciating. But I would never trade the amazing time I've had with my cats. They're my life, love and purpose.

Sending lots of positive and healing vibes your way!!!!!

Good luck!

Scott

Posted by: Scott T at March 14, 2005 10:42 PM

Good mojo and empathy coming from Albuquerque....

I have had many kitties in my life, from age 5 or so, until now, and they have all had their share of troubles... I know that feeling when you have to go to the vet and have the talk.

Your cat knows you love him, and he knows you will do the right thing. Cats are incredibly intuitive and once they trust you, they trust and love you unconditionally and forever. I hope things turn out for the best, but if the unthinkable happens, know that you are helping Felix to a comfortable and dignified end, rather than enduring the pain of kidney failure.

I feel helpless regarding your cat, but hopeful that all of the love and mojo that everyone is sending your way will help.

Posted by: Diluted at March 14, 2005 10:45 PM

That's horrible to hear. A cat that I'd had since I was about 5 years old passed away in January. It was hard.

Posted by: Heccubus at March 14, 2005 10:55 PM

Ohhh he is such a cute kitty! I have a soft spot for the name Felix since I always loved the character Felix the Cat.

Poor little guy.

((Felix)) ((Anne))

My cat Domingo sends his special kitty mojo along as well.

Posted by: jenga at March 15, 2005 12:00 AM

Oh, Wil. Big hugs to you and the family. I'll add you and yours to The List, and speak with The Boss on your behalf. The Goddess' abilities are stretched rather thin at the moment, but I'm sure I'll be able to find a little mojo to spare somewhere. I'm sure if I look between the couch cushions and under the seats in my car there'll be some lying about. I'll send it c/o the Wheaton Clan.

Hang in there, you guys. When Wil pushes the Big Red Button, amazing things can happen. Hugs to everyone, especially you, Anne. And if the worst should happen, we'll all be here for you then, too. Keep the faith.

Herself,
TGoJaV

Posted by: Aylaleia at March 15, 2005 12:03 AM

My cat Loki and I will have a send our thoughts along. Actually, I'm not sure what he thinks about, other than the opportunity to claw my hand, but I like to think that he has a streak of altruism that's just eclipsed by his feral nature.

In any event, I know that you treat Felix and Sketch at least as well as I've treated Loki; I've always found comfort knowing that my furry family members have lived happy, full lives with me.

I'll say a prayer for your kitty, you, and your family (furry family members included.)

Posted by: phiber at March 15, 2005 12:07 AM

Wil, Anne,

It's always hard dealing with the fact that we will outlive our pets. No matter how much love we give, no matter how hard we try, we can't outsmart nature. All we can do is give these loving little creatures as much as a chance at a healthy, happy life as we can. In return we get unconditional love, gratitude, and a little more joy in our lives.

Sometimes, when one of my sick kitties is lying comfortably in my lap, I think that somehow, if I just love them enough, they'll get better, maybe live a little longer. But you know what? I have loved them enough! That's why they are in my life. They wouldn't have had a life if I didn't.

Both Sketch and Felix realize that they are very lucky to have both of you as their kitty parents. And when their job here on earth is done they'll let you know. Yes, it will be sad. Yes it will hurt a lot. But until then, just keep loving them like you always have and that will be more than enough for them.

kbj

Posted by: killerbobjr at March 15, 2005 12:15 AM

Oh, Wil... I can sympathize. I had to have my oldest kitty put to sleep a few weeks ago. Its such a terrible feeling. You feel like you should be doing more, but you can't. You feel like you're letting him down.

After Algernon was put to sleep, I felt like I had betrayed him. But, I (finally) know that I made my decision out of love. My big guy gave me so much love, I had to be there to make sure he didn't suffer. Remember... whatever happens, he definitely knows how much you and your family love him.

I will keep Felix and Anne (and the rest of your family) in my prayers. Keep your chin up, Wil. *huge hugs*

Posted by: LolaGabanna at March 15, 2005 12:17 AM

Big mojo to both Felix and Anne. I hope you don't have to make _that_ decision, but if you do, strength and love.

Posted by: Claire at March 15, 2005 01:03 AM

Hey Wil, prayers out to you, your kitties and your wife. I understand the pain, and the helplessness of it all.

Posted by: Greggy at March 15, 2005 01:09 AM

Mucho Feline Mojo to all your House !
Many HeadButts & Love to Kats & kreatures, boy kids, Will & Anne.
...may the situation pass as quickly and peacefully as possible...

Peaxe,
Rev. D.

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I wish there were simpler solutions to situations like this, but many times we must make decisions based more on what we feel, than on what physicians / vets / shrinks / etc. can tell us ~ in essence; being the master of our own destiny and IT IS A BiTcH. Period. The whole situation becomes much harder when other creatures, and humans, are involved... animals [cats, especially] don't really belong to a person but more to a house and that makes the involvement of others a vital part of what happens to them.

I have adopted and rescued a number of cats in a variety of situations from the "un-named" who had to be immediately put down and left me with twenty three stitches to "Old Mahn Cat" who lived probably another two years under the cautious care of me and my vet. The "un-named" had apparently been tortured by the horrible little children in the complex where I lived and once at the vet revealed lungs mostly full of transmission fluid and other horrors that meant it was time for him to leave the flesh; right then.

"Old Mahn Cat" wandered in from the semi-industrial waste park next to my old Tyler Durden style house, immediately made it known that he was going to live in the house and promptly moved on in > after some horrible scenes trying to trim the matts outta his coat and the vet telling me "the old Sot" was basically healthy but would need special care; I became his caretaker. Special horrible foods, keeping a space for him away from the other house creatures, etc. and IT WAS ALL WORTH IT to know that he didn't die in some ditch somewhere.

When he finally decided it was time to leave the flesh, I slept on the floor next to him for one last night and was at the Vet's when they opened; carrying a laundry basket full of blankets and cat [mostly blankets]. My vet knew it was time since I had called her the previous night and once they got the little place on his forearm shaved + did the injection, I began to cry fiercely and convulsively - the techs thought I was crying for the mean old bastard Cat that had invaded my life. I wasn't. I was crying for me, because, frankly, I was jealous as all hell that a little forearm shave was all he had to endure. That was ten years ago and I'm in tears now writing about his easy transition to whatever's next.

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Will, Anne, boys - all I can tell you is that if it comes to it [AND I SINCERELY HOPE IT DOES NOT]is to be there when the vet gives "the" shot and don't let the vet take the body away. Bring something to wrap up the body and have your own service for the little critter. He was one of your family, was he not, so why would you let his passing go without tears, joy and remembrance ?

Yeah - I've done this all more than once, or twice and was able to arrange cremation for "un-named" and Old Mahn Cat > Hell, I even cremated one or two lost little kitty souls myself when the opportunity presented itself and have done pet memorial services more than once.

They deserve it more than many humans.

Posted by: Reverend D. of Earth at March 15, 2005 03:15 AM

Hey Wil. I'm sending lots of mojo for Felix The Bear, for Anne and some for you too. You'll all be in my prayers.

Posted by: Ana Marylee at March 15, 2005 03:20 AM

I read about your kitty on the LiveJournal feed of your blog. I have no idea if you read over there, but I thought I'd pass this along.

If your doc hasn't put him on Science Diet's k/d formula kitty food, have him/her do it now! My 15 year old kitty was in the hospital with kidney failure, and when we brought her home, we had to give her fluids every other day. She's been on k/d now for over 8 months, and we only have to give her fluids about once a month or when she's looking a little punky and slow. This food has really, really been a quality of life enhancer for our little Samantha.

Posted by: ewbynum at March 15, 2005 03:27 AM

I'm going through the same thing, right now. Except not my cat. My dad is 82 years old and going downhill fast.

Family is family. I really do understand how it feels. I'm keeping my cellphone handy... expecting the call at any time...

Posted by: Mr. Lizard at March 15, 2005 03:58 AM

I have the same question as someone else did. When you say you're giving him fluids, are they subcutaneous fluids? You can give these at home once a day and it makes a huge difference. Some cats lives have been prolonged an extra 3 years or so with sub-Q fluids at home. -quality lives.

It's a little scary to give fluids at first but then it becomes very routine, and very much worth it. It's not like giving a shot or an IV. If you pinch a little bit of loose skin on your cat, the space under that is where put the fluids in. In that gap between that loose skin and... well.. and everything else underneath it! :)

There are some very good websites on cats with CRF (Chronic Renal Failure) that can walk you through giving your cats sub-q fluids at home (it'd be nice to have a vet walk you through it as well of course!). My best advice for anyone doing this: If you give your cat a treat during the process they'll probably sit still. Especially if it's something it takes a long time to eat or lick off. Like some kind of oil they like.

Of course if you're *already* giving sub-q fluids, just ignore everything I wrote above!

Posted by: SpaceCadette at March 15, 2005 03:58 AM

hi wil, much mojo coming your way right now! for you, anne, the family, and of course for Felix! i really hope he pulls through this one!

mojo mojo mojo mojo mojo mojo mojo mojo!

take care wil
rach

Posted by: rach at March 15, 2005 04:03 AM

A whole lotta mojo coming your way Wil. Hang in there man.

Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo Mojo

Posted by: drdrew at March 15, 2005 04:14 AM

Wil, some more mojo for felix, sketch and you.

Lets all hope that Wil doesn't have to make the "go to sleep" decision any time soon.

Posted by: D.P. at March 15, 2005 06:06 AM

Mucho mojo. We'll soon have to deal with this with our 14 year old dog.

It's humanity's fault for adopting animals that only live 10-15 years as house pets. If only our forefathers were thoughtful enough to popularize toritises and parrots instead of dogs and cats, we wouldn't have these problems.

Posted by: Mark Wade at March 15, 2005 06:47 AM

Hey Wil,
Listen we all know it's hard to put down a pet that you really care about. That pet has become a part of your family and we all know it's hard to loose a family member that we care about. I put it to you like this Wil. You are a very intellegent guy and you know as well as the rest of us we can't hold on to everything as much as we would like to. Now maybe and hopefully the bear will get better but, you have to ask yourself do you want to see the bear suffer which im sure you don't or do want him to be in a better place wherever that maybe. You can only do so much to keep someone or something you love around as long as you can but, time will eventually catch up. We can only hope and pray that the bear gets better. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers and hopefully things will get better. Take care!

Posted by: Siggy at March 15, 2005 07:05 AM

Tons of love and mojo heading your way for sure. I recently lost my beloved pet hamster, and given my situation right now (which isn't good as it is), it was just another blow to my psyche.

Anne and Felix are in my thoughts, and I'm sure little Mary Jane, while a rodent, is up there somewhere, sending her love as well...

Posted by: Eric in PA at March 15, 2005 07:38 AM

I have four English Toy Spaniels and one of them is very sick with mitral valve insufficiency. He's on three different heart medications, but over the last six months his condition has deteriorated. His muscle tone, in particular, is poor and as fluid builds up in his abdomen his appetite decreases and he loses weight. So, we're at that same point. When is it time to let go? My thoughts are with you and Anne and Felix and I hope you find your way through this.
-Crystal

Posted by: crystald at March 15, 2005 08:11 AM

Awwwwww, poor kitties! Sending lots of mojo your way. I know how it is to lose a pet that's really another member of your family. It hurts. I send hugs, butterflies, sparklies, and sunshine...

Posted by: MiladyGreenEyes at March 15, 2005 08:36 AM

HI Wil,
Caught you on CSI last week- very manic. Neat.
Sorry to hear about Felix- its tough when pets get sick. Alot of people just kind of blow it off saying "hell, its just a cat"- nope, its not JUST a cat, its a member of the family.

Just wanted to say thanks for the post, got me to thinking and inspired me to make a post regarding pets & the big sleep on my blog.
-Dan in NH

Posted by: Greyseasunder at March 15, 2005 08:47 AM

I can empathize.

Our cat died last November. Watching her slip away really hurt me. She was old, and I knew it was coming, but that doesn't help, does it? I wish you and yours the best.

On a brighter note... I enjoyed your appearance in CSI, Wil, and I hope to see more soon!

Posted by: snoproblem at March 15, 2005 09:06 AM

Best wishes Anne, Felix. Trans-atlantic mojo coming your way...

Posted by: masu at March 15, 2005 09:15 AM

Hey Wil,

My thoughts are with you and Anne. I completely know what you are going through b/c I went through the exact same thing a week ago today. I lost the matriarch of my family. My twenty year old cat Muffin. We also had to make that decision after talking to the vet about doing what was best for her. I know its of little comfort, but I found that the days leading up to it (we could see it coming) I spent as much time as I possibly could with her. Every moment I had with her I made sure I soaked into all of my senses so I could never say I wish I had done this or forgot to do that. It pained me so much see her in such a bad state but I knew I had to be with her. I only prayed that my being with her offered her some comfort at that time.

If I can offer one word of advise, don't feel badly if that decision has to be made. Know that Felix will not feel you love him any less b/c of a choice you make. I know it may sound crazy but after I had decided that it was best for her I felt better b/c I knew I was doing what was best for her. She was no longer going to have to suffer and I felt better knowing I could do that for her. I miss her terribly but I also know she is okay now where she is.

My thought are truly with you and your family

Posted by: Sudden at March 15, 2005 09:24 AM

Oh, honey.

I am so sorry.

Eleven months ago, you told us about your Bear. He was in the kitty ICU, fighting to get better. He's done so well, Wil, and he may rebound again. That long life is a testament to you and your good and gentle care. He's lived a long happy life with you and your family. As cat parents, all we can do it our best, and, baby, you have done so well by your furbabies.

You and your entire family are always with in my thoughts and are very much on the list of those that I am always wishing well. That is without end.

Oh, and PK sending comforting and healing purrs and lots of loose furr.

Hang in there, sweetie.

Posted by: Cookie at March 15, 2005 09:30 AM

Wil and Anne,
I am sorry that you are going through this. I have been where you are a few times. Felix will let you know what you need to do. He knows you love him and he loves and trusts you. You do what is in the best interest of the one you love. I am thinking of you both. And by the way, I only caught the tail end of CSI but I had someone tape it for me. You were great Wil. Especially your voice.

Posted by: Lorraine at March 15, 2005 09:31 AM

Aw, Wil. Much love and prayers to you and yours. I know what you're going through, and how tough it is.

Posted by: Briski at March 15, 2005 09:35 AM

Piling on more mojo from Des Moines and my cats Alex and Maggie join me. My heart aches for you and Anne and the boys. I will hope for the best for Felix and all of you.

Posted by: entwife002 at March 15, 2005 09:51 AM

Hey Wil,
My heart goes out to you and your wife. I've had to deal with this in my life. I had a pet with cancer and no matter what I just won't let pets suffer from incurable diseases. Good luck with it all. All the best.
XOXOXO

Posted by: 1cutebird at March 15, 2005 10:01 AM

Hey guys,

I'm really sorry about Felix. I went through the same thing with my Siamese. She died during my first week away at college. It sucked a lot because I couldn't even be there when she died. I also went through the "It looks like we have to put them to sleep," thing with my dogs. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. It sucks to lose a pet, but on the bright side, you always have all the memories to hang on to. Take care guys:)

Posted by: darkeowyn at March 15, 2005 10:05 AM

hey Wil, Anne, Nolan and Ryan;

Death is a part of life. That may be a really crappy thing to say but its true. Two years ago I had to put my cat down whom I had owned for twenty years. yeah it was devastating but I got through it and you guys will to.

"Did you know that the bible says in the midst of life we are in death?" - Quidacello's shop owner
Stand By Me
1986

(sorry about the reference but the film geek in me is never very far away)

Posted by: justintime181 at March 15, 2005 11:22 AM

i am so there with you... LITERALLY. i have been giving my bunny fluids for a few days now. i suck at doing it, too. poor widdle guy. anyway, i will add felix to my prayers about my little guy. we're doing the best we can. i keep trying to focus on all the love of the past five and a half years instead of the sadness of the past few days. hopefully, they'll both pull through. good luck to you.

Posted by: arifa at March 15, 2005 11:46 AM

It's always hard to lose a pet. I cried my head off over friend's dogs. I have yet to had to have the "what should i do?" talk with a vet.

i am definitely keeping a positive place in my heart and thoughts for everyone there... so are all my furries and scaley varmits.

Posted by: grshpr76 at March 15, 2005 12:07 PM

I am so sorry to hear that... it's always tough to loose a pet... they are less like the animal and become more like another child or tiny furred person. Please send on my best wishes...

Posted by: bookwormgrrl at March 15, 2005 12:08 PM

so sad to hear...your gonna make me cry...hopefully things get better

Posted by: jennifer reven at March 15, 2005 12:52 PM

so sad to hear...your gonna make me cry...hopefully things get better

Posted by: jennifer reven at March 15, 2005 12:53 PM

I am thinking of you, your family, and your pets as well.
I hope Felix gets better.
*hugs*

Posted by: Jeannette311 at March 15, 2005 01:00 PM

Damn, that's awful. I'm a cat person, even though we hadn't had one here (until recently) in quite a while. They really do become your babies. All our hearts ( and all the good mojo we can muster) go out to all of you, especially Felix.

Posted by: Spyderkl at March 15, 2005 01:02 PM

Wil,
This is my first post. I have been reading your blog for a while now. I love your work. I saw CSI, you were wonderful. Had me a little fricked out on how reallistic you acted and looked.

I know you love your "kids" (pets) with all your heart. I know that things are hard write now. I hope that they get better for them soom. I'm not a cat person per say. I have 3 loveable and wild kids my self ( 2 labs and a spaniel) They are my life. I'm have to deal with my Spaniel siezures because there is no way to stop them only manage them. So I know a little of what your going trough. I wanted to send you my thoughts and prayers.......

Posted by: dallasslayer at March 15, 2005 01:08 PM

Wil,
This is my first post. I have been reading your blog for a while now. I love your work. I saw CSI, you were wonderful. Had me a little fricked out on how reallistic you acted and looked.

I know you love your "kids" (pets) with all your heart. I know that things are hard write now. I hope that they get better for them soom. I'm not a cat person per say. I have 3 loveable and wild kids my self ( 2 labs and a spaniel) They are my life. I'm have to deal with my Spaniel siezures because there is no way to stop them only manage them. So I know a little of what your going through. I wanted to send you my thoughts and prayers.......

Posted by: dallasslayer at March 15, 2005 01:08 PM

Wil,

I am so sorry to hear about Felix! I so understand what you are going through. Felix, Anne, and you are in my thoughts and prayers!

Posted by: Sue R at March 15, 2005 01:12 PM

Whoa, the Wheaton house is like Kitty Hell! Poor kitties.

Posted by: caraewell at March 15, 2005 03:43 PM

As someone who works in an animal shelter, knowing that you are willing to face these end of life decisions just shows what a responsible pet owner you are. It is a selfless act to give that last gift when it becomes necessary. I would encourage you to please make sure you ask any questions about the process and feel comfortable with your decision. I know you are perfectly capable of searching the internet but here are a couple sites you might find helpful.

http://www.pet-loss.net/

many of resources to understand pet loss and grief

http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/rainbowb.htm

Some may see this as silly or corny but many find comfort in it.

Posted by: Sirelroka at March 15, 2005 04:02 PM

Oh Wil, I'm so sorry to hear about Felix. I went through a similar experience with my cat Boo Boo Kitty so I know exactly what you are going through. I'll keep you all in my thoughts.

Posted by: warcrygirl at March 15, 2005 04:22 PM

Wil, Anne and family...Just wanted to send my best wishes that Felix gets better really soon. I too know how difficult it can be to watch your pets go through pain. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
PS: I wanted to mention also that my dog is named Riley too. Your dog must be cool like mine. Riley sends his best wishes to Felix too.

Posted by: Beverly Grey at March 15, 2005 04:50 PM

Wil, Anne, and Felix,

I'll keep you in my thoughts. I know how hard it is to have a sick pet. We lost a puppy to parvo a couple of years ago.

Lots of love and mojo to you all!

Tina D

Posted by: Tina D at March 15, 2005 04:55 PM

Im so sorry to hear about Felix. My dogs are my babies! My heart goes out to you. We are thinking of you and yours. Best wishes and all my built up positive karma.

Love,
Tara, Kenobi and Anakin

Posted by: Kenobismom at March 15, 2005 06:35 PM

Ziggy, Juice, Gumby, Chowzer and I send our love.

Posted by: Azure at March 15, 2005 06:53 PM

(long comment. sorry.)

My family has always had cats. When I was born in 1969, there were 21 cats in the house. As an adult, I've always had cats and felt a special affinity for them.

When I was house-and-catsitting for my dad in Santa Barbara back in 1989, his favorite cat was as sick as yours appears to be, and it was clear that keeping her alive (which was probably only barely possible anyway) wasn't going to be any sort of favor to her. My dad was in Canada at the time, and I had to take her down to the vet. That day, I held her in a towel, my face buried in her belly, tears in my eyes. We had a long talk (with our eyes), she and I. I explained things to her, and asked her to forgive me. We remembered wonderful things from our life together. She smiled, purred, licked my chin. When she closed her eyes for the last time, she was still in my arms, and still purring.

I don't really believe in an afterlife. But if there is one, I pray that I see Woodrow again, the most perfect cat (except my current cat!) who ever lived. And I can't explain what it meant to have a vet who "got it", and let me be there at the end as the needle did its work.

We, people I mean, have a contract with our pets. We both get companionship, love, affection, perhaps even insight and wisdom from each other. We feed them, keep them warm and healthy; they remind us of things that matter. But when they're old and infirm, too many of us just discard them. That doesn't mean that it's not appropriate to let them go when keeping them going only leads to pain...it means that when it's time for that to happen, we owe it to them to be there with them. To be their best friend when it really matters, instead of just when its convenient.

Posted by: spincycle at March 15, 2005 07:07 PM

My cat is dying of kidney disease right now, too. Roosky (first Tiger, then Tigeroo, then Roo, then Roosky) is 16, older than my kids, and I saw him being born. Now, I guess I will see him passing away. He is the last of his litter, the first died of feline urological disease at age 5. I guess I've been lucky to have had him in my life for so long, but it still hurts. Basically, all I'm doing now is trying to make his last days the best I can. On the vets approval, I'm feeding him real chicken (boiled skinless thighs, cut up small), since he's now off all types of cat food, and once a day a little bit of milk to lap up. His 2 faves. I also cuddle with him whenever he's in the mood, especially in bed. I moved his litter box upstairs to the living room, which sounds gross but saves him using the stairs or going on the floor. The vet gave him sub-cutaneous fluids and I tried to give him an antibiotic pill every day, but it was too much like torture. Since it was prolonging the inevitable and adding to his suffering, I gave up. I didn't want his last days fraught with stress. The vet said it would be best if Roosky were able to pass away in the comfort of his home, if possible, so we are now playing the waiting game. If he appears to be in too much pain/discomfort, then I'll bring him in. But, he has actually perked up and appears to be really enjoying his chicken dinners and snuggles. He seems content, which is all I can hope for. I'll send Felix, Sketch, Riley and Ferris all mojo for you. Maybe send a bit back for my Roosk, if you have a chance. Thanks.

Posted by: AngieZ at March 15, 2005 07:49 PM

Sorry that Felix isn't feeling well. I hope his remaining days are many, and if they aren't, I hope they are filled with as much happiness as possible.

Lots of kitty mojo from Craig, Becky, Jasper, Pangur, and Ripley.

Posted by: Craig Steffen at March 15, 2005 08:46 PM

oh no, this is terrible! i cant believe first it was sketch and now felix! how awful to have two kitties break down on you at the same time! i'm so sorry.
on a non-connected note, have you noticed the increase in comments lately? somebody's popular...

Posted by: Jessie at March 15, 2005 08:53 PM

I lost one of my cats in about January 2000. Old age, we found Harriet under my mom's bed. Then the next year at about the same time, we lost my Great-Grandmother. In June that same year, my second cat Spooky showed serious signs of heart disease pretty much out of nowhere. He had to be put to sleep about a month after the first symptoms, and he was so miserable that my Mom didn't even have time to pick me up at school to take me with her to the vet. At least you'll have a chance to be there when it happens. I think it's important when you have to let your pet go anyway to be there.

Posted by: LadyKairuka at March 15, 2005 09:19 PM

So sorry to hear about your cat. Go to a specialist if things don't improve. I had a cat that was dying and took them to a specialist (before this, I didn't even know there were vet specialist) who saw something our regular vet hadn't caught, and was able to help Monster live a while longer. I'll send healing thoughts.

Posted by: Bhyl Hughes at March 15, 2005 09:40 PM

Feel your pain, Wil. We took our cat Treble in for exploritory surgery today. They found cancer and it was too late to do anything except put her to sleep. Pets dying sucks.

Posted by: StrobeAlific at March 15, 2005 11:40 PM

Having lost more than 4 cats in my lifetime through various reasons, I sympathise and spare more than a million thoughts for Felix, Sketch, yourself and your wife. *hugs* all around.

Posted by: gobbi at March 16, 2005 12:49 AM

Having lost more than 4 cats in my lifetime through various reasons, I sympathise and spare more than a million thoughts for Felix, Sketch, yourself and your wife. *hugs* all around.

Posted by: gobbi at March 16, 2005 12:50 AM

Charlie and I are sending major mojo your way. Wil my partner had to put his precious MainCoon/Tuxedo to sleep for the same thing. It was heart wrenching for him, because Gizmo was his and his only. So he knows what your wife is going through with "The Bear." We're sending all the mojo that way.

Morgan

P.S: Thanks to the person who had the CSI episode on here. I was able to take some pretty good screencaps off of Media Player using my PSP 9. Now I can make some icons with you as CRAZY WALTER.

Posted by: morgan at March 16, 2005 04:48 AM

Anne & Family (especially the little Bear),

We are all sending lots of love and kitty mojo your way!

Tim, Diane, Ping, Copper, Mr. Bojangles & Domino (from Nor Cal)

Posted by: TimCalif at March 16, 2005 07:49 AM

Wil as a pet owner I send you my best but it maybe his time and you may need to consider that what maybe the bet for him and you is to release him from his pain.

Posted by: Nick Notarangelo at March 16, 2005 09:13 AM

Lots and lots of good kitty JuJu coming your way!

From Tabby, Gizzy, and Kathy

Posted by: psycoma at March 16, 2005 09:38 AM

I'm sorry to hear about Felix. My mojo is flowing your way. My parents have two cats, they are like their children since me and my siblings moved out. It will be some hard times.

Posted by: JeremyJaySharp at March 16, 2005 10:16 AM

I've been lurking around your site for years, but this is my first comment. I'm so sorry about your kitty, which is weird since I know neither your nor your cat. It's interesting to me how the internet has fosted such a sense of community that we can send messages to complete strangers, people we aren't connected to except through a sense of shared experience, discovered through probably the most anonymous means possible.

Sorry to go all philosophical, but I'm constantly amazed at the outpouring of good will and good wishes between complete strangers that happens every day because of this tool. So add mine to the pile - good wishes to you, to Felix and to Anne (not to mention Sketch).

Posted by: Jennaratrix at March 16, 2005 12:31 PM

I've been lurking around your site for years, but this is my first comment. I'm so sorry about your kitty, which is weird since I know neither your nor your cat. It's interesting to me how the internet has fosted such a sense of community that we can send messages to complete strangers, people we aren't connected to except through a sense of shared experience, discovered through probably the most anonymous means possible.

Sorry to go all philosophical, but I'm constantly amazed at the outpouring of good will and good wishes between complete strangers that happens every day because of this tool. So add mine to the pile - good wishes to you, to Felix and to Anne (not to mention Sketch).

Posted by: Jennaratrix at March 16, 2005 12:31 PM

Hey Wil,

If you have access to a chiropracter, ask
him/her to give you a product called
'arginex' for your cat. It works wonders for
the kidneys.

If you don't then you can probably find it
on the web.

Posted by: jmiller2 at March 16, 2005 12:52 PM

Wil,
That is bad news about Felix. You have a lot to think about. It is to bad that death is a part of life.

FG

Posted by: FABIAN at March 16, 2005 09:16 PM