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June 07, 2005

driver 8

As an actor and writer, husband and father, I have two often-conflicting monkeys on my back: Monkey number one is Creative Monkey. He occasionally digs his claws into my brains, and refuses to let go until something wonderful comes out. I love him. Monkey number two is Pragmatic Monkey. He regularly wraps his prehensile tail around my neck and only eases his grip when I'm doing the things I need to do to support my family. I don't necessarily love him, but I'm glad he's here. From time to time, I can satiate both monkeys, like writing Games of Our Lives, working on CSI, or touring with Earnest Borg9. More often than not, though, I can only satisfy one monkey at a time, and when push comes to shove, Pragmatic Monkey always wins; with a family to support, I just don't have the luxury of turning my back on him. For the last few years, I've been luckily enough to to strike a Balance that makes both Monkeys happy . . . but for most of this year, Pragmatic Monkey has been squeezing the everlivingfuck out of me, and in an effort to make him happy, I've ended up taking on far too many responsibilities, and given away way far too much of myself to other people. I've rarely seen Creative Monkey, let alone felt his wonderful claws in my brains, and that's got to change. I miss him.

I believe that everything happens for a reason, and I believe that I didn't come down with a crippling case of mono that forced me to bring my life to a complete halt just because The Universe hit a two-outer on the River to take me down. So over the last couple of weeks, I've taken a very hard look at my life, and looked for The Lesson. After a lot of soul-searching, and long talks with the two most important women in my life (my wife and my mother) I've come to the following conclusion: I'm tired. Really, really tired. I guess it's appropriate that I got mono, because my body physically manifested what I've felt emotionally for a long time.

Call it what you want: over-extended, spread too thin, burned-out . . . the bottom line is, in an effort to put lots of irons in the fire, help some people out, and increase my opportunities to retire in style at the age of 25, I've given too much of myself to other people, and there hasn't been enough left over for me and the people I love. The scary thing is, if I hadn't had to cancel the Red Hat Summit appearance, I may not have realized it until it was too late. When I had to cancel the Red Hat Summit, I was shocked, that, rather than expressing compassion and understanding, I was called "unprofessional," and a lot of people got very upset with me, because my health prevented me from speaking at their precious conference, and it made them "look bad." I felt like I wasn't even a person anymore. I felt like I was an object, a commodity, a number. For months, something had been bothering me, and I couldn't put my finger on it. It was like seeing something out of the corner of my eye that vanished whenever I tried to look directly at it, but it suddenly came into focus: I have felt, for a very long time, like people wanted a piece of me, and I'd willingly given it up. I was filled with empty spaces. I had to take a step back, and redraw my boundaries. To quote my favorite TV show of all time: "I am not a number, I am a person."

There are so many things I want to do, and I haven't had time to do them. I want to plant a garden. I want to walk my dog every morning. I want to write fiction. I want to finish the two books I'm working on, so I can get into the third. I want to play more poker. I want to take my wife out on dates. Mostly, though, I don't want to miss out on what little time I have left with my stepkids before they fly right out of the nest in a couple of years. I was working my ass off to provide enough financial security to do all those things, but I had hardly anything to show for it. I was undervaluing myself and my work, and at the end of each day, I was emotionally exhausted and I couldn't even think about enjoying time with my family. All the while, these people who had gotten a small piece of me — some of them business associates, many of them random Internet readers — kept demanding more and more and more.

When I was so sick about ten days ago, I had a fever-induced epiphany: I needed to make several changes in my life. I needed to redefine some boundaries, and re-organize my priorities.

So let's get to it. The first thing I have to do is refocus my creative energy, which brings the following changes:

  1. I have written my last column for Dungeon. When I started, I was under the impression that I could write whatever I wanted, as long as it was related to gaming. So I wrote about games I love, like Illuminati and Car Wars. I wrote about playing Magic with Nolan, convention gaming, and playing True Dungeon at SoCal GenCon last year. I really enjoyed writing the columns, but the feedback I got was largely negative (it's really time to just get the fuck over Star Trek, nerds), so Erik Mona, my editor at Dungeon, asked me to write columns that were focused purely on D&D. I tried my best, but my life was just too full to put in the time that running or participating in a campaign requires. It was very hard to write a column about D&D when I couldn't play at least once a week, so I told Erik last week that I felt that I couldn't provide the quality and consistency that he and Dungeon readers deserve, and he graciously accepted my resignation. I loved working for Erik, who is a fantastic editor, and I will continue to read both Dungeon and Dragon, which I feel have improved tremendously under his leadership. I'm sad that I can't be part of it any longer.
  2. I've resigned from igrep. I like the people who created it very much, and I completely believe in their technology — if you're a developer, and you're not using igrep, you're wasting a lot of time — but it's clear to me that I can't provide the services that they need from a spokesman, and it's best for everyone if I invest my time and energy somewhere else.
  3. I am not doing any more conventions this year. I don't have anything new to offer in terms of creative content right now, and I'm not going to go out and rehash the same old shit. It's boring for me, and the audience deserves something better. So I'm taking the rest of the year off to work on new material.
Hopefully, these changes will allow me to reclaim a lot of time and energy that I can spend with my family, tending that garden, and writing.

I also need to make some fairly significant changes to my blog. I have to keep perspective and focus: I write this blog because it's fun and enjoyable, and ultimately I have to write it for me, and I have to write in a way that keeps me comfortable. There's this guy named Paul Phillips, who the poker pros call "Dot Com," because he made a megatillion quatloos during the dotcom boom. He retired in style, and became a seriously good poker player. He also writes one of the greatest blogs (actually a live journal) that I have ever read, and I don't say that with any hyperbole. He writes about poker, other players, technology, geeky things, and his baby girl with wonderful, honest, prose. But he's got his boundaries, which he makes very clear. His Live Journal helped me come to the conclusion that I could redefine my boundaries and still have a blog worth reading and writing. For example, his FAQ is unambiguous and makes it clear that he's not interested in any bullshit. It doesn't mean he's a dick, it just means that he knows what his boundaries are and that he'll defend them. I respect that more than I can possibly put into words, and I intend to follow his example. (Though I probably wouldn't have folded that Queen-high flush to TJ Cloutier at the Bike, when only two cards in the deck beat me ;). I've also read and thought about another blogger I respect, Tony Pierce. Tony recently wrote a great post about what happens when bloggers experience blogger burnout. At one time or another, I have been guilty of every single entry on his list, right up until today. Starting right now, I will change that. I don't think everyone is going to be happy with these changes, but I think that will say more about the individual than it does about me. In fact, if you see me as a fellow blogger, writer, stepparent, privacy advocate, spouse, pet owner, poker player, [whatever] aficionado, geek, or human being, I'm pretty sure you're going to understand all of these things. As a matter of fact, if these changes upset or offend you, you should probably not be reading WWdN in the first place, and I hope you'll leave.


  1. I hate Reality TV, and I feel like my blog is dangerously close to crossing the line from " this interesting thing happened to me" to "come with me while I take a shit in the woods." I need to tell more stories, and bear less soul. You know what I've learned about The Internets? It's full of freaks, and if a high-profile person bears too much soul, they really come out of the woodwork and latch on. It's a little creepy. So, I need to reclaim a lot of myself for myself and my friends and family. If that means people stop reading WWdN, I'm really okay with that. In fact, I hope it has a bit of a Darwin effect.
  2. When I get the redesign launched, there will be minimal advertising. I'm doing this because I believe I've found a tasteful and non-intrusive way to help support my family. I will never allow WWdN to become a billboard, and I will never allow my writing to be influenced by, or secondary to advertising or sponsorship. I do plan to enter a few affiliate programs, and if I ever link to something that could go through one of those programs, I'll do it. Again, I'm sure this won't sit well with everyone. Deal.
  3. As my blog has grown out of my control in the last year, and taken on a life of its own, I have self-censored several times. Mostly, it's when I want to rage about what a colossal fucking liar George W. Bush is, what a disgrace he is to my country, and how the mainstream corporate media have completely failed to hold him and his administration accountable for countless lies. I'm a passionate person, and I'm passionate about politics. I'm going to write about it, and I'm not going to pull any punches. It won't be my primary focus, and I will never be as great a political blog as The Moderate Voice, Josh Marshall or Atrios, but I've turned away from political posts for too long. If the world were a bar, America would currently be the angry drunk waving around a loaded gun. Yeah, the other people in the bar may be afraid of him, but they sure as hell don't respect him. And as soon as he drops that gun, he's going to get his ass handed to him. I'd rather my country be respected than feared, and I'm going to do whatever I can, however small, to make that happen.
  4. I will move most of my Los Angeles-specific content to blogging.la, including news about local readings, ACME performances, and the like. I estimate that there are less than one hundred local readers, so it makes more sense to put local stuff on a local site.
  5. Because I make my living by writing, I'm going to focus most of my time and energy on completing the books I've got in production, even if that means I write fewer blogs (though I have noticed that it's almost axiomatic that when a blogger says, "I'm going to blog less" that they actually blog more). However, I'm not going to keep material off my blog because I'm planning on including it in a future book. I've already written a successful book, Dancing Barefoot, that was entirely composed of previously-published material, and Just A Geek would have been even more successful if O'Reilly hadn't mis-marketed it so badly, against my wishes and advice. I'm not worried about losing book sales because some, most, or even all of the material is available on my blog. I believe 100% in the Long Tail, and I owe much of my success to it.
Still here? Not foaming at the mouth in anger and resentment? Cool. I'm happy, and I'd like to close by sharing a few very cool things that I'm adding to my life:
  • For the month of June, I am guest-editing the Technology section of the SuicideGirls newswire. (Newswire is Safe For Work, the rest of the site is not.) I will be putting up about three new technology stories every day this month.
  • I'm also guest-blogging for the poker blog pPlayer.com this month. I haven't posted anything at pPlayer, yet, but I plan on running some book reviews, as well as some interviews with well-known pros, poker bloggers, and authors. Both of these gigs allow the two Monkeys on my back to happily intersect: I get to write about things I love, and I get to support my family a little bit by doing it.
  • I'm putting the finishing touches on a podcast. I'm not going to go into any details, because several things are up in the air, but I think it's going to be pretty damn cool.
If you've gotten this far, I probably don't need to say this, but here it goes anyway: I love writing my blog, and I'm grateful beyond words that so many people have continued to read it through the feasts and famines over the past few years. By making these changes, and announcing them so bluntly, I don't intend to disrespect or take for granted any of the people who have come with me on the journey from Has-been to Hope-to-be. My need to pull back a little bit and keep a bit more of my life to myself also isn't intended to disrespect or insult any of the thousands of people who have commented or e-mailed their appreciation of my willingness to be open and honest. In fact, I will continue to be open and honest because that's the only way I know how to live an honorable and respectable life. (Ironically, it was that openness and honesty that earned me the "unprofessional" charge. Nice.) I just plan to be a little more selective in the things I choose to write about. Like I said, if you've gotten this far, I'm sure you understand.

I'd like to close with a little blast from the past . . . a thought for the day:

A small leak will sink a great ship
-Anonymous

Thanks for reading. :)

Posted by wil at June 7, 2005 05:06 PM
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Comments

Good for you! Do what you need to take care of you and the rest of the world will respect you for it. If anyone seems not to, then they shouldn't be part of your world anyway.

Oh, and with respect to #3, ROCK ON. I love reading (and writing) about the injustices going on. It means the word is getting around instead of being hidden by The Press/The Corporation.

Rest easy.

Posted by: jslicer [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:20 PM

Good for you Wil. You need to focus on what is best for you and your family. I look forward to reading more of your books. (Except poker, I don't do poker) It sounds like you feel better.

Lorraine

Posted by: Lorraine [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:21 PM

Wil,

You should know that the true "Friends of WWDNtm" are always behind your decisions, and we come here because we like the writing. Not because we are sitting in dark rooms in our underpants looking for ways to put down a character from a distant show we once worshipped solely to make ourselves feel better about our pathetic lives. Rather, we read because we like, we read because you write, and we read because you inspire us to experience our own tribulations as we share, however reservedly, in yours.

And remember: Those who hate, who spam, who demand, they are pitiable. They have to live with themselves 24-7

Posted by: DaFahq [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:26 PM

"I believe that everything happens for a reason" that's pretty cool. me and my friend wrote a book called "everything happens for a reason" (we didn't publish it yet) but the theme is that no matter what happens, everything happens for a reason. just thought i'd mention that because i thought it was cool.

Posted by: *Jamie* [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:29 PM

Fine... I like your writing. If you stay the same we will all get board. Good artists of all forms must evolve and change either in style, format or content. I am interested in your life as you seem to experience things in a similar way. (Our ages are close) Do what you need to do, I will read, anyone who doesnít.... well, they can do whatever they want.

Posted by: kellyc [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:33 PM

Congrats Wil. I like the sound of all the changes. I've stopped by your blog a few times over the last couple of years but this post really connected with me.

Looking forward to hearing some political rantings. Take care,

Connor

Posted by: Connor [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:33 PM

If people give you crap for your decision, I say let them get a life! What do most celebrities give to their fans? Faces hid from papparazzi, and their work- nothing else. Whatever you write, it's more than most everyone else and I say a huge THANK YOU that you take so much time to blog what you do. Personal- that's your choice to tell what you want. I enjoy any insight into living in California and the craziness of getting acting gigs and the frustration/joy of the writing process.

THANK YOU, WIL, FOR SHARING WHAT YOU DO! Don't worry about the creeps who demand more; they need to get a life!

Posted by: miskaffon [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:34 PM

If people give you crap for your decision, I say let them get a life! What do most celebrities give to their fans? Faces hid from papparazzi, and their work- nothing else. Whatever you write, it's more than most everyone else and I say a huge THANK YOU that you take so much time to blog what you do. Personal- that's your choice to tell what you want. I enjoy any insight into living in California and the craziness of getting acting gigs and the frustration/joy of the writing process.

THANK YOU, WIL, FOR SHARING WHAT YOU DO! Don't worry about the creeps who demand more; they need to get a life!

Posted by: miskaffon [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:36 PM

This is an excellent post, there's a lot here that will probably be helpful to other ambitious people who need to prioritize and get control of their obligations & personal strength.

Posted by: Alicia [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:37 PM

Wil, let me say that I *read* this blog because it's fun and enjoyable, and because you write it for you, about you. If you break "you" in the process of writing it, then no-one wins.


Example: I know nothing about Poker, and it is not an area I've ever been interested in, but from your writing I saw that there was something to it, so I had a go. Lost, of course, but I enjoyed losing. So learning poker goes on my "Someday/Maybe" list. Could you have done that as well if you'd been writing about something because you felt you had to?


Now, go write that next book, 99.99% 'cos you are a good writer and want to, and 0.01% 'cos I'll feel cheap if you ever come over to the UK and I have to ask you to sign my copies of JAG and DB without buying something new.

Posted by: BigLig [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:38 PM

It's only right that you keep something of yourself for you and for your family - i'm only sorry you had to find out the hard way. I know you SAY that you don't care what the maniacs will say when they read about the changes, but i have a sneaking suspision that you will mind, just a little. well, let me be the first to say *expletive* them up the *expletive epxpletive*. you have been an inspiration to me as as a writer since i started reading your blog a year ago and espcially since i read Just a Geek. oh, and a brother in arms as an actor :-)...i find myself crossing my fingers for you whenever you go to an audition and yeah, quite probably as an act of good karma! your true fans will support you in this new endeavor because, you see, we are not crazy and don't believe you belong to us because we read a damn blog. we're your on-line very distant and in no way related family of fellow artists, poker players and work dodgers. we'll love you no matter what. no, i take that back. i'd leave you in disgust if you turned out to be a closet Bushie, but i gather from the bit about no longer holding back on political opinions that probably isn't the case. ;-)

Posted by: Ellephant [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:39 PM

Wil, glad to know I'm not the only one who's had a similar epiphany. I used to work for an international IT company in a big city. Like you, I realized I was giving far too much of myself to the company and not getting enough in return - neither financially or on a professional or personal level. The final straw was when management asked me to attend an important meeting and a training session - at the same time. I quit a few months later, and I haven't looked back. The irony is that I'm more financially secure (and happier) in my new "smaller" job than I was in my old one.

Good luck with your new endeavours, and I look forward to seeing more of your work in the future.

Posted by: Spacehamster [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:40 PM


Wil,

Your entry and plans are spot on! Your post could have been mine about five years ago when I found myself in a similar situation and needed to make things right in my life. I'm proud of you (for what it's worth) and happy you've come to this point with such wonderful resolve. I can't wait to see what you do next!

Be well and my best to Anne and the boys.

spacewriter

Posted by: spacewriter [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:44 PM

Wil,
I am glad your making these changes because it sounds like your posts will become more interesting. As for those who rant about being a loser, unprofessional, etc...criticising what you say in a rational fashion is acceptable and should at least be looked at but being insulted and put down, especially when you're sick, need only be ignored. Regarding politics and the behavior of our gubbimint I can't wait to read what you have to say. (If I was a right wing knee jerk I'm sure I would disagree but if they don't like it they can change the URL)

Posted by: ikalvan [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:44 PM

I've been reading your blog for a few years now and just wanted to comment on how much your writing has meant to me. My life has been on somewhat of a rollercoaster over the last few years and I've gone through some bad times and seemed to have sacrificed a lot in order to pursue a 'dream' of what I want to do in life. Anyway, in 2 weeks time I have an interview with a prestigious film school in London, and I truly believe that this will be an important turning point in my life, and will make all the hard work and dreaming pay off. Reading your blog has helped me, and so I, for one, wish to thank you for the contribution you have made to my life, and to the lives of thousands of readers across the world. Thank you.

Posted by: doc2005 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:45 PM

The changes to your blog sound great. I'm excited that you're going to censor yourself less, and honestly I'm glad that there will be less LA stuff since I'm on the other coast. I look forward to reading many more great posts of yours!

Posted by: lauralaylin [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:47 PM

Two years ago I had a massive kidney hiccup that left me virtually comatose for about half a year. Hurt like hell, kept me from doing anything productive, and I re-thought life. Your list is completely different than mine, but the gist is the same. All I can say is: you're dead-on, and don't doubt it. About a month after I started to recover, I had trouble sleeping at night because I was sure I'd buggered my entire life up, and I started putting useless energy into trying to fix mistakes that didn't exist. Keep your post like a mission statement and don't second guess yourself.

Furthermore: write fiction, cause I really want to know what kind of fiction comes out of a mind like yours...

Posted by: mrandrews [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:48 PM

I pretty much enjoy reading whatever you write here, so write whatever you want. :)

And definitely play more poker. Just don't play like I have been lately.

Posted by: alan [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:50 PM

"To thine own self be true." wrote that immortal bard dude so very long ago... and no more succinct or truer words have ever been written.

Doing anything outside the boundries of that statement is pretty much cow pats.

Good for you, Wil.

Don't ever let the cow pats take over your field of dreams.

Posted by: Nyarl [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:51 PM

doc2005: I hope you come back and read this. I've learned something about auditions like the one you're about to have: you should do everything you can to ENJOY the experience. You'll be focused on every moment, rather than the hoped-for outcome, and no matter what happens, it will be a memorable experience.

Break a leg :)

Posted by: Wil [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:56 PM

Wil,
I read your blog because you're an excellent writer - the same reason I bought your books. I'm hanging around.
And I agree with Connor. I can't wait to read more political postings.

Posted by: frecklebeach [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:57 PM

Hey Wil,

So glad to have you back writing. Your blog actually inspired me to blog, I know not as great as retiring at 25 but I'm glad I came across your site.

I think it's awesome that you're a gamer (me too, and yet we both manage to have significant others!) and I wish I'd been aware that you were a writer for Dungeon! I guess I'll have to order a few back issues!

Well it seems you have chosen a path that will bring you peace and I'm glad you aren't dropping the blog as I feared a few days ago.

Thanks for the inspiration,
Jeremy

Posted by: jhjanuary [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 05:57 PM

Wil,

I think all the changes listed above are outstanding if you think its what's best for you. I've been an avid reader of your site for a couple of years and hope that it will continue for years to come. Your site has inspired me to attempt a blog of my own, and I always look to WWdN as an example of a successful blog. Glad to hear your illness led to something positive and glad to hear you're feeling better.

Posted by: Tony Santos [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:00 PM

Bravo, Wil. It takes a strong, intelligent person to realize-- and make changes-- when they have over-extended themself. I admire and applaud your dedication to your family. I've found that in this day and age it is sadly a rare thing.

Good luck with your personal re-org. Have fun in your garden. Time on this Earth is much too short and before you know it we look back and say "Man, I wish I would have spent more time..."

From a self-imposed stay-at-home Mom who knows...

Posted by: KimAbshire [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:02 PM

Good luck, Wil. I do fear for where you say you'll bear less soul -- although you write well, the uniqueness of your posts has often been the courage you've displayed in sharing your emotions through moments of joy and moments of tragedy in your life. It's what pulled me in and made me pay attention to you, frankly. At the same time, I do understand and respect that you don't like making yourself vulnerable to unbalanced people out there on the 'Net. I just hope you'll be able to strike a happy medium between the two. But despite my trepidations, it sounds like you've charted yourself a course for the future in expert fashion, and I wish you luck for it.

Posted by: Mike [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:03 PM

I read your blog for your writing, I love it (though not always understand - I read the poker stuff with a dictionary open ;), so whatever you want to write is fine with me. It's a *gift* to us anyway, so fuck anyone who tries to demand anything. Take your life back. Live it. Be happy. Anything else can wait.

Posted by: Jessica [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:07 PM

Hi Wil, I'm glad that you are feeling a bit better. I think that the reorganization of your life is a great idea. There are so many beautiful things in our lives that quickly slip away...like spending time with family. Best of luck in your new path. I'm looking forward to the changes!

Posted by: Aylanah [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:09 PM

To Wil:
Rock on. I didn't come here to live vicariously through you, relive my past by reading about 'that actor who used to play Crusher', or because its what the cool geeks do. I read what you write because I enjoy that you aren't some mouthpiece, that even though I dont agree with you on a lot, that you seem to have a firm grasp that America isn't about agreeing, its about discourse and, yeah, some arguments if need be.
That further confirmed it. Suh weet.
Respectfully,
Sarah C

Posted by: Solsra [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:10 PM

Wil -- I can certainly understand the need to reevaluate one's life. We all do it, regularly if we're lucky, or when circumstances force us to do so (Remember: The unexamined life is not worth living).

I hope you link the LA blog to your main site. I'm not really 'local' since I'm from San Diego, but I've been tempted to drive up, and trying to keep track of 2 blogs may be taxing. maybe not.

best of luck, and I think we're all glad you're feeling better. People who claim illness is unprofessional deserve respect (we all deserve that) but should not be taken seriously. Illness is not a moral failing, though American culture treats it as such.

Posted by: Margaret [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:14 PM

Isn't the quote:
"I am not a number, I am a free man"?

Posted by: medge [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:15 PM

Good onya, mate!
There's a fine line between helping folks out, and having the marrow sucked from your bones.

Be seeing you.
(a Prisoner ref, not some psycho stalker bullshit)
(It's sad I needed to explain that, but there you go.)

Posted by: h3adlin3 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:24 PM

When I first opened the plastic of the Stand By Me Deluxe Edition DVD, I wondered to myself, why in the world does Wil Wheaton get top billing for this movie? Wasn't he just that hack kid on one of those Star Trek shows? Isn't he just a joke? Why would he be billed over acting greats like Dreyfuss, Keifer Sutherland, and John Cusack?

For years I had heard about your website, but had ignored it, continuing to separate myself from anything related to Star Trek, having despised both the original and cartoon. I never watched your series, and dismissed you for the only thing I had ever known you to do. How wrong I was.

After watching Stand By Me, I've come to the realization that you are more than just "some kid on Star Trek." In that movie, you did more than act, you brought Gordie to life. Stephen King may have created the character, but you personalized him. When Gordie laughed, I laughed. When Gordie winced, I winced. When Gordie fainted, I thought that I was going to. And when Gordie cried, I cried, too.

I cannot say why I had been so quick to judge you, especially upon unfounded notions. For that, I apologize (though I never did so in a way that could have discredited you). Now, I know better than to form an opinion of you based upon one movie, as I had done so based upon one television show; instead, I am going to make up my own mind based upon fact.

I find it ironic that I would watch your movie and first visit your site on a day when you have come forward to express your decision to change a few things about your life and your blog. I, too, have been in a state of contemplation since November and I still haven't figured everything out. I'm glad that you are on that path, and can agree one hundred percent that your family is the most important thing in your life. I applaud you for loving your stepkids like you do. Few people in this world are graced with an outstanding father, and those who have the chance to be one often do not realize their riches.

You are a lucky person. You have a family, you have a broad career, and you have the opportunity to make your dreams come true. Isn't it also ironic that the little boy who played the aspiring writer would grow up to be one himself? I hope that you make the most of the opportunities afforded you and wish you the best of success. It might be a little late for you to retire at 25, but then again, who wants to retire anyway? Retired people go to Florida and never find the Fountain of Youth; working people have a reason to live. If the only work you do from now until the end is write, then maybe you will succeed in making yourself a happy person. Take a page from Stephen King's book and write yourself into old age. Don't care whether you make a fortune off of it or not. Remember, some authors have written shelves full of books never meant to see print, though they are now held up as classics and taught in school as examples of the craft.

Whatever you do, whether it is writing, or blogging, acting, or simply horsing around in the backyard with your kids, do it for the one true purpose in life -- to bring pleasure to yourself and those around you. If you are appreciated for it in your lifetime, then the world has recognized your talent and work; if you are appreciated for it posthumously, then those who come after us are wiser than we were; and if you are never appreciated for it, then it is a loss suffered by society, but not you.

I hope you do not mind my attempts at offering advice. I'm just a guy with a few too many words to fit in his size seven-and-three-quarters head, and I often look for creative places to deposit them. I hope you understand that I am only posting in support of your career, past and present, and your choices, present and future.

Posted by: Brad Johnson [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:30 PM

Wil,

You probably won't read this post since there are so many that have similar or identical content, however...

If you need to do something just do it, don't let anyone but you and the people you love influence your life. I'm ecstatic that you are going to make the changes in your professional, personal, and online life to help make yourself not only happy mentally but physically. Not to mention make your family happy since they will actually have you around every now and again ^_^.

I have been reading your blog for about 5 months now and have come to enjoy your down to earth presence despite most people's immediate associaton with you and your "shadow." And to think you've been actually censoring your own posts is sorta shocking too, however, I'm very happy that you aren't going to censor yourself anymore. This is your blog, say what you want and feel.

With your comments on the Media/Bush/Congress etc. I have actually been motivated to push my congressmen/women as well as my states senators to oppose everything that the Bush Administration and their political "kneecapping" have done or will continue to do to our country.

In your sick and somewhat feverish state know this one thing, you are influencing people. And I hope that it means as much to you as it does to me that you speak your mind.

Keep up the wonderful work, keep getting better.

Humble Regards,

Sean

Posted by: SeanSands [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:31 PM

Good for you! I grew up watching Trek in all forms. I began to visit this site for that reason. I stayed around because of your progressive political views since I am very much a grassroots progressive.
I hope to read many more of your political views in the future. I am anticipating rational, well-researched blogs about the fate of our country and ways that we, as common citizens (unless you are a multimillionaire, a corporate CEO or a politician you are a common citizen) can promote a better future. Good luck to you and I look forward to reading a blog that I hope can be passed on to other political forums.

Posted by: xmas74 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:31 PM

Wil-

Wow.... I've been "lurking" here for awhile, but I'm now moved to post. I found your website while researching Los Angeles happenings, culture, etc. I'm planning on moving to LA in the next couple of months, primarily to be closer to family, but also for career considerations (film/TV editor).

Your post has really helped me put my anxieties into perspective, and I'm inspired to remain true to myself, whatever the obstacles may be.

I'm officially a fan, Wil. You're a gifted writer, and I'm going to buy your books (although perhaps not the future poker books - I'm a chessplayer).

Thank you.

Posted by: [email protected] [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:36 PM

good choices, thanks for sharing and thanks for everything. You're OK.

Posted by: TerryH [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:36 PM

You know we love you.
And those of us who care about you as a person are going to understand, and those who don't understand...fuck 'em. You have all the love and support you need right there in your happy home. The rest of us are just gravy. :-)

But you know that. And that's what makes you cool.
So fret not, we still love you.

Posted by: Saraphina [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:37 PM

All I have to say is: Good for you Wil. I'll still be a loyal reader regardless and I think you're making a move in the right direction.

Posted by: =^) [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:39 PM

i've been reading for a long time, and i know that i for one simply enjoy your writing, not necessarily what you write about. thanks so much for everything that you do, and know that i'll not be leaving anytime soon.

i'm one of those kids who was watching Star Trek when we were even younger than Wesley, and trust me, a lot of us look up to you. you're a great guy, and i'm glad you've had one of those 'what's it all mean?!' moments - after all, it makes us college kids (who do it every other week) feel a lot better. ^^

Posted by: la joie simple de soleil [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:42 PM

Wil,
I'll jump on the "We heart Wil" bandwagon, and add that in the end, only YOU know what's best for you: not your agent, your clients, or your fans. I think the majority of your readers will support you in whatever you try to do, just as you support your family and friends. I wish you the best of luck in your retrenching.

Posted by: muddgirl [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:52 PM

Good for you, Wil. Glad you're feeling better.

Posted by: Evan [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:55 PM

Do whatever you feel is best for your family and for yourself. Don't worry about what other people think--if they don't like what you have to say then they don't have to read it. I hope your feeling better.

Posted by: Tamara [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 06:59 PM

I have been reading your blog so long now I don't even remember how long it has been. I don't comment often, but always have enjoyed your blog whether or not I always agree, but usually I do. I sincerely RESPECT your choice to pull back some. And for whatever strange reason that made me more emotional in a good way than any other blog entry I have read. I have always enjoyed your acting even when you didn't believe in the final project sometimes I still did, and now I have come to enjoy your blog, so whatever you write about and no matter how often, I will still be here as I imagine a lot of other people will.

Posted by: Marie A. [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:00 PM

First of all, Brad Johnson, welcome! I've been reading this blog for almost three years. It's my homepage, and has been almost ever since I found out about WWDN. You're in for a treat!

Wil- Whew! I was really worried that you were going to pull the plug on WWDN. I should have known better. I have always appreciated your candor and openness here, and I continue to do so even as you say you are going to pull back a little.

Regarding politics, it's about freakin' time, man! With the lack of fair and balanced political newscoverage in mainstream American media, the internet has turned into the only source for any real news. Because of this self-imposed gag order by the corporate media, we all have a responsibility to talk about what the Bush administration is and has been doing. Americans must politicize their thoughts and take action now if they want to avoid another Vietnam, not to mention the continued loss of our personal liberties. Strangely, I find myself a strong supporter of states' rights nowadays.

Wil, I look forward to hearing what you have to say. I hope you get some people to think, just think, about what's going on in our country.

Take care, and continue to get healthy.

Posted by: Keri [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:02 PM

Wil:
So glad to see you are feeling better. Everyone must evaluate their priorities from time to time. Sometimes, we do it willingly, and other times, well, we get smacked upside the head. If we're lucky, we can say, "Ah-HA! I get it now." :)

Your honesty, passion, and integrity are only three of the qualities that have lead so many people to follow your work. And we will continue to follow your career because you do have an undeniable talent. Making the changes to your life and career that are necessary only reinforce those qualities which we admire in you. Best of luck!
- MollyB

Posted by: MollyB [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:03 PM

Wil,
I'm Glad your feeling better. The most important thing is Your Love... For family, friends, and ever in what you do. Love To You and From you makes the human spirit soar!! Spread your wings! And don't worry about a few ruffled feathers.
I'm new to blogs and found yours interesting to follow thru the archives...sheesh I didn't know you had a book out nevermind 2! I better get on the ball here!!
It's your site Its Your Style DUDE..ITS YOU!
All My Love to You and your family.
(ps. I'm sorry for your recent loss of your belove pet. In your heart never forgotten.)

Posted by: namrog [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:07 PM

Glad you're feeling better. Being sick (especially THAT sick), sucks. And I'm going to keep reading. I read your stuff because I think you're an extraordinary person, pretending to be just one of the regularfolks. :)

Posted by: Uriel [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:14 PM

More political posts? Right on, it's about friggin' time (even though I don't always agree with their content). Fewer weird creepy stalker types would also be very cool. All in all, I suspect that I will like the changes you implement on your blog (I don't read Dungeon, I'm not a developer, and I usually avoid conventions because of Smelly Gamer Syndrome, so the other things you're cutting out don't really affect me).

Posted by: Kevin M. [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:20 PM

Great post, Wil. This post is an excellent example of current practices of blog etiquette and guidelines. Thank you for leading.

Is 'driver 8' a reference to Dale Earnhardt, Jr?

Posted by: applecore [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:22 PM

*Enthusiastic and emphatic applause* for the re-focussing; I think you're wise.
Also: Thank you for your decision to be more open with your political opinions. Way too many high-profile people are keeping their disgust and dismay to themselves when we all need to stand up and shout our horrow at what that unelected moron is doing to our world.

Posted by: Marsha M [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:25 PM

Wil,

I will miss the family stories, as it has made you more of a "real" person in my eyes, but I am dying to read some of your political rantings.

Go get em' brother, and always, ALWAYS, do what is best for you and your family. Bugger the discontents they suck anyway.

Posted by: Eric [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:27 PM

applecore: It's an REM song. It came on while I was writing this post, and I felt it was especially (and eerily) appropriate:

And the train conductor says
"Take a break Driver 8, Driver 8 take a break
We can reach our destination, but we're still a ways away"
But we're still a ways away

Posted by: Wil [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:28 PM

I read your blog thru a feed on live journal. This is the first time I have come to your page to comment had to join typekey. I felt it was important enough to do so I could comment. I applaud your bluntness and the desire to refocus your life. I was appalled at the way you described being treated because of having to cancel an engagement because you got mono. I have had mono and it is not fun.

-A new commenter and fairly new reader-
Denise/ Demariana on LJ

Posted by: Demariana [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:32 PM

Wil, it's always a good thing to find the important things and focus on them, and put the rest in proper perspective. I'll wager that your physical health will benefit from these adjustments as much as your mental and spiritual health will.

I have one concern, though. After such a well-thought-out and (let's face it) LONG post, you must be exhausted. Be sure and get plenty of rest now so you can be fully charged for your newly prioritized agenda. You still need to take good care of yourself, for your sake and your family's.

Posted by: Dave Westbay [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:37 PM

Wil, I have enjoyed your acting, your blog and your books. What I say to myself with remarkable frequency is that I hope you write novels. Your gift for descriptive prose would make nearly anything interesting.

To write well (or really, any creative activity) you need need to do these things. Do them.

Posted by: Byron [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:46 PM

Hi Wil,

This was well written, and it makes a lot of sense.

This place and this industry are all about boundaries. Noone is going to set them for you, and whether they show it or not, the way you get respect is to set them and hold them.

Looking forward to reading more, as always. Glad you're feeling better. :)

Cheers,

Liz

Posted by: lizriz [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:48 PM

I almost didn't comment because everyone else has said such wonderful things, but then I remembered that it takes like ten compliments to erase one insult and since I don't know what is being emailed directly to you, I decided to err on the side of safety.

While I won't agree with everything you write about politics and don't really care reading about poker, I enjoy your writing. I am glad that you are taking steps to protect yourself. I'm looking forward to reading more stories from you. I don't attend conventions, so it doesn't bother me at all that you aren't going to anymore this year.

Write what you need to write. I know of other WWdN readers who like reading your blog even when they don't agree with you politically. I seriously doubt any of them will stop reading you. You're entitled to your own opinion. Doesn't take much effort to scroll past a rant and you write too much good stuff to let that get in the way.

Also, there are many who do agree with you and that's cool too. We're not the Borg and I personally would be scared to hell if we all thought alike.

Hang in there and get well.

Posted by: MamaSlyth [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:51 PM

Best of luck to you Wil. You just need to remember that there are two different versions of Wil... there is a (for want of a better term) product called Wil, and it is supplied by the Person called Wil.

Wil the person has to come first, and only sign up to deliver so much of Wil the product during any time period.

Take the time you need to enjoy your life, and the people in it, and you will probably find that the work stuff is more enjoyable as well.

And I agree with what several others have said, if you feel the need to rant on your (no, I'm not American) president or his policies, then rant away...you have as much of a right to as anybody else.

A long time reader

Posted by: Calishar [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:53 PM

hey wil,
i'm happy you're happy with the switch. i love reading your posts. they always brighten my day because i know someone else is enjoying it... or at least seeing something i'm not seeing. while i won't always agree with your political posts (conservative republican and proud!), i always appreciate your point of view. besides, at the very least, maybe a post of something contrary to my opinion will challenge me, make me think about it instead of spouting pure rhetoric as we've all been trained to do. but of course you know that. i'm happy for you, wil, and i'm looking forward to more great and pesonal posts like this one.

Posted by: Lewis [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 07:54 PM

Oh, hey, and for what it's worth, I'm blogging because of you.

I LEARNED BY [reading] YOU!

LOL :D

Posted by: lizriz [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:01 PM

Bravo Wil! Sounds like you're back in the driver's seat. All your changes in focus sound wise and welcome - except the part about changing all your local posts to blogging.la. I live behind the Orange Curtain, but was still looking forward to catching one of your performances someday. Of course, someday may be very far away since I would have to convince the hubby to watch the 3 year-old so I could run off to LA and have a night on the town with friends. Ah well.

I really look forward to an increase in political posts, since a post to Daily Kos was what brought me to your blog in the first place, if I remember correctly.

I had to giggle at your description of the Internet freeks and how they latch on. Having been born without the celebrity worship gene that seems rampant in society these days, I find the whole thing, well, weird. I once worked at a store in Beverly Hills, and if I didn't know it when I started, I sure learned quick that celebrities of all kinds are just people, plain and simple. Some are wonderful, and some are c***suckers. So why get excited about a person just because you've seen them 10 feet tall on a screen at the movie theater? I appreciate and enjoy your talent as both a writer and an actor, but it's your perspective on the world and your humanity that I read your blog for.

Hope you find some more time for yourself with all the changes!

Posted by: rachel h [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:01 PM

Wil - it's your site, your journal, and your life. Write what you will, maintain your boundaries to keep your focus things that are important in your life, and screw anyone who has an issue with that.

Do what you need to do, and people who don't like it can find someone else to latch on to. In other words, joke 'em if they can't take a fsck.

I'll still be here.

-yet another LJ feed reader

Posted by: Toni [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:09 PM

Hey Wil-
I'm rethinking my goals as well. Your post made me think of Naomi Wolf's new book The Treehouse
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0743249771/qid=1118199810/sr=8-1/ref=pd_csp_1/102-6644653-1608102?v=glance&s=books&n=507846
which describes the imperative of nurturing each person's unique creative impulse. I think all of your changes will actually strengthen your voice.
Take care.

Posted by: claire [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:09 PM

Wil Wheaton,
You have been a role model for me over my years of being a student. It all started with my motherís obsession of Star Trek The Next Generation. I looked at Wesley Crusher as a young boy like myself striving for excellence. No matter what sacrifices needed to be mad he did what needed to be done when needed to be done. I have strive over the years to do what I could when I could no matter the sacrifice. Iíve realized through reading your blog that you are doing the same. You do what needs to be done when you can do it. Rather that be for your family and friends and the fans who have stuck with you over they years. You Wil Wheaton have also been a role model for me. Though Wesley was a created character you and him both have inspired me to do the things that Iíve done in life along with other role models. I donít care what decisions you decide to make for the better of yourself and your family because honestly your family come first. Hell Wil some actors wouldnít even have the courage to stand up and tell his fans what he needs to do for his family. Thatís what I admire most about you is your honesty, and ability to talk to everyone instead of some of those actors who walk around like their shit donít stink and could give a rats ass about the other people. I just want you to know Wil that I will continue you to read your blog because, it not only inspires me but, because itís fun to read. Do what you have to do Wil. I am sure your true fans understand what you need to do.

Posted by: Siggy [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:14 PM

Good for you, Wil. I know it's hard to admit to yourself that you can't do everything. I think you're doing exactly the right things to make you and your family happier and healthier.

I'll keep reading your blog and whatever else you write, as long as you keep writing them.

Posted by: cerebus19 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:15 PM

After that preamble, I expected to hear read some pretty drastic things! Instead I read nothing but completely sensible, logical, and completely understandable things. [thumbs up]

Posted by: Heath Allyn [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:18 PM

Well, it's great to see all the support for your future plans - no more than I expected from the "Friends of Wil" who post here. One thing that popped up over and over was the wish to read a full length work of fiction from the mighty Wheaton pen, and I realized I wanted to add my voice (and vote) for that. And if that means blogging less, well I guess I can live with that. Just keep us posted on the general state of your little family (furry members included). You all kinda feel like family now. Not like "Wow, celeb guy" but "Our neighbors across the street, the Wheatons". And I'm sure we ALL feel that way!

Posted by: Momcat [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:18 PM

Well, it's great to see all the support for your future plans - no more than I expected from the "Friends of Wil" who post here. One thing that popped up over and over was the wish to read a full length work of fiction from the mighty Wheaton pen, and I realized I wanted to add my voice (and vote) for that. And if that means blogging less, well I guess I can live with that. Just keep us posted on the general state of your little family (furry members included). You all kinda feel like family now. Not like "Wow, celeb guy" but "Our neighbors across the street, the Wheatons". And I'm sure we ALL feel that way!

Posted by: Momcat [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:19 PM

Hi Wil,

Long time reader, second time commenter.

They say, and I believe it true, that everything, good or bad, happens for a reason. I wish you didn't get mono, but this has given you the chance to make positive changes in your life that will be for the better. Congratulations!

Write all the attacks on GWB that you want. He has to go, and as a Canadian, I hope it happens. Difficult, but not impossible. He should be impeached and tried for war crimes.

Posted by: Stephen [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:33 PM

Wil,

I must admit that I started reading WWdN in large part because I knew who you were beforehand. Wait, that's not entirely true. I started reading because I had seen an actor named Wil Wheaton playing characters with whom I could identify. (I hate to admit just how close I was to the character of Wesley Crusher, though I was not nearly as bright!)

I continued reading not because you were SuperWil, defender of all that is good, but because you are a person who has to deal with many of the same issues as I do. No, I am not an actor/writer, though I did once play an angst-ridden hedge. Rather, I am a married father of two, approaching middle age (38 and holding), and I'll be damned if anyone is going to tell me that they take priority over my family!

You do what you need to do to feel good about yourself. We don't own you. I thank you for sharing your rationale for the changes but, quite frankly, you don't owe us anything. You have already given us something more important: you have shared your life with us.
To quote the great philosopher Viv Savage: "Have a Good Time, All the Time!"

Posted by: Jason [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:36 PM

When I was a kid, my dad taught school, went to grad school and served in the National Guard. He did all that to provide for us. What's funny is that I don't remember the "stuff" he provided, I just remember things like...he wasn't home for my 9th birthday. Nor my 11th. The providing thing is important, but being there...really being there in the moment with your wife and kids- that's the payoff.

As for less intimate blogging, well, good for you. I admit that I first wandered in because it was a name I recognized. What I found, however, was something entirely unpretentious and totally cool. I've had a great time reading so far, and I'm sure that the changes aren't gonna make it suck, so don't worry about it. And I'm glad you're feeling better.

Posted by: TheSingah [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:38 PM

I'm a long-time reader who has only posted a couple of comments previously.


Wil, I'm very happy to hear about the changes going on in your life. I was shocked to read that some people reacted so disgustingly to your illness, saying that you're unprofessional and the like. Remove them from your life like the festering cancer they are.


I'm also surprised you thought your post would rub some people the wrong way. There are a lot of people who, despite knowing you only through your blog, like and respect you tremendously, including myself. You should never have to feel the need to self-censor here. Everyone has haters and enemies, but know that you have friends here; many of whom you've never met and never will.


I'm overjoyed for you that you're making positive changes in your life and your blog, and I look forward to reading it for years to come.

Posted by: Matt [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:39 PM

i am looking forward to whatever new things will soon be happening in this place.

i have wondered for quite some time now how long you would keep WWDN going...i'm pleased to hear it's not ending now...but do i understand the inevitability of change...alot of what you were seeking here you have found...and who knows what direction your heart will point you in the future?...whatever happens...i'd just like to thank you...for sharing with all of us...this documentation of some of the most interesting days of your life...i think the future will be far more interesting than this...all of these troubles that have come before are the cornerstone of whatever future we're bound for...here's hoping your time is well spent...in a way that has meaning for you and your family.

Posted by: d. burr [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:42 PM

Hazzah! applause! ovation!!!

HOW are you ever going to know the seeds you plant here? Causual comments played in passing?

For instance, soties you shared about your impact with your step children - influenced me to take on step children (ie highschoolers) for a safety class taught on adult dimentions. For 28 years, only teaching adults, YOUR stories moved to to take a deep breath and accept the challenge offered to make a difference to them in future work environments.

Everything had to be restrucured in the program - everything. They have no work experience to speak of so I speak of events, of losses that are close and personal to them... look for that light in their eye that says they "get it", they'll make a different choice, the sadness of a grief and the trust to share. You planted the seeds that showed me a way to reach that with them. For what they carry forth from my seeds , will they keep an eye? Will They leave a workplace that treats them like one more piece of meat? Will they say something to a friend, a sibling or even a grandparent that will keep an accident from happening? Was it your first story you told? ~ the fifth or tenth that finially put the pieces together for me clearly enough for correct action, which in turn has changed so many other lives that YOU will never know?

Today, I fight with every tool I can find to shift the tide for both my furbabies with cancers, spending evry spare moment with them thanking god for each hourly gift I get and the chance to make a diffence in their lives. More inspired by your own efforts with your furbabies to just try, in the face of the inevidable.

Today, I said to my mentor who just went through cancer surgery, that the only things that mattered were relationships. I gave up a chance to be named nationally recognized trainer to sit with him during the process, something years ago I would have done about anything for. and it doesnt matter - because NOthing is as important as relationships and the moments to cherish them.

Today he said how sad he was that no one from his family was there for him. I asked him - how did they know how to? All these years and he has always given given given and never let anyone give back to him in any meaningful ways.

For example 4 years ago, I was terrified to pay a house bill because Dad had only medicare with no drug coverage. So how could I pay a bill if tomorrow he needed medication that would cost $800 just to stay alive? Lon made work for me to do at home so I could keep an eye on Dad, get some cash, then he would walk the bill though the city (terrible payers - they DONT care) and drive it over to me to deposit that day.

One of the things I had said to him when he shared with me the discover of his tumor, was to ask if he really wanted to live or was this his honorable out. The only thing we really own is our live and I feel stronly that one one else has the right to decide for us when it is enough.(No comments on this necessary, group)

I said that if he was really done, then we could help him live the rest of his limited days the best way he could, but if there was more, then he needed to decide what it was and get off the pot, no more denial! I shared my own insight that at 50 - I have done everything I have ever wanted to do, manifested anything - as an individual. So for the second half, the ONLY thing that would generate interest or passion would be doing this with others, in relationships. (Not that I wouldnt get up each day if I had to wake up, meant people still had to be taught, chores to be done and would be with a smile until released by the guy upstairs).

This was my chance to payback (or on), to help open doors, to show his family how they could come in. But ~

Do you understand that YOUR blog planted the seeds I passed on to him? He got it-hard, he saw it clear - because YOU set the stage - I just stepped into the part~ People dont know how to give, unless you show them how by being willing to recieve, and be willing to ask for needs and desires!

So, Johnnie Appleseed, keep on, keepen on! As my gypsie niece says - "just kick the trash to the curb cause there is plenty of good just Waitin' to come on in!

Ya on de right track and the relationships ya care about are showin ya if ya'll listen! Remember, ya goota breathing in (be receptive) before you can breath out (get active!)

Posted by: Kirimaku [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:48 PM

So glad to see you're feeling better. And glad to hear of the positive changes you're making in your life. Although this means slightly less Wil for the WWdN monkeys, it's all good in the long run.

No worries! :D Take care.

Posted by: lomara [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:53 PM

Phew. What a load off. I was worried about you, Wil. You were sounding more tired and sick and drained with every post. I hope these major changes will let you become a fulfilled, happy, healthy person again! Your posse is still behind you!

Posted by: Code Pirate [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:53 PM

Y'know, Wil, when ST:TNG first came out, I loved it.

I kinda grooved on the fact that I shared a name with one of the characters.

It was only later I found out about the Wesley haters. Fools and ne'er-do-wells, if'n ya ask me.

I've grooved on the blog from the day I discovered it.

Do whatever you have to do to keep yourself in the game. You have a unique and exciting voice as a writer, and you should never let go of that.

And don't back down from the political stuff for one second. It's your right, and we appreciate it.

WF

Posted by: Wes F in Cincinnati [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:56 PM

Hey Wil,
It's your blog, do whatever the hell you want.
Though I do like hearing about your cats. Best for you and yours,
Mike

Posted by: Michael B. [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 08:57 PM

Well, everyone has said it before me but I'll add my little voice to the pile.

I haven't commented on a post in forever but I feel moved to comment. I know I keep coming back for the writing and because I respect you as a writer/everything else you are and not because I get a creepy fix. So many of us do. So if you need to pull back somethings because that's best for you then by all means do it. We understand.

Yes, do tell more stories. Not that getting the uber intimate look into your life hasn't been... interesting. But you're right, perhaps sometimes we don't need to know everything. We know you care about the readers/fans. =)

Aw, sad that you aren't doing more conventions this year but we all totally totally understand. Perhaps you'll have to plan a big tour someday. =)

I now go back to general WWdN lurking.

cheers!

Posted by: angie k [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:00 PM

We all do what we have to do to get by in this crazy game called life!
Those who "get" it will stay with you and continue to read whatever you decide to share...those who don't?...That is their choice....
I choose to stay...
By the way...glad you are feeling better!

Posted by: rileymom [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:03 PM

Wil, you have my complete respect. My wife and I would love to hear you read from your work some day, but by all means do it on your own terms. If that takes a year, or two, or five -- that's just going to mean that you've been able to spend the most important time with family (and by family I include your precious animals and closest true friends), and you will be an even better person for it.


Neil Young may have said "It's better to burn out than to fade away", but the notion of burnout of the last few decades has been much more akin to brutal family-rending overwork that grinds you down to dust. And that's no good; no good at all (to quote Lou Reed).


You'll get nothing but positive vibes from this corner, man.

Posted by: Dan [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:03 PM

Just a side comment, really .. I have been enjoying your postings as a lurker for a while now....

~~~~~~~~~~~~

To quote my favorite TV show of all time: "I am not a number, I am a person."

~~~~~~~~~~~~

Actually, the quote was ..

"I am not a number, I am a free man"

I used to love that show. Even though I am a 1963 model, I remember it wasn't until the mid-80's when I ~was allowed to stay up after my bedtime~ to watch the shows. And, I believe it was at something like 3am on CBC LateNight. Naturally, I would stay up to watch each show even though I was recording each episode on .... BETA!

Yah. I'll have to add that DVD to my wish list. Thanks for the suggestion! :-D

Hey! Take care, eh?

HART

Posted by: HART [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:03 PM

We're always here for you, Wil. Feel better and do what is necessary for you and your family. We're not going anywhere :-)

Posted by: tim [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:07 PM

Well, in the opening of The Prisoner, Number Six yells, "I am not a number, I am a free man!" Number Two asnwers by laughing.

But in the first episode, Arrival, when Number 2 is interrogating Number 6, Number 6 tells him, "I am not a number, I am a person." Right before he says, "I've resigned. I will not be pushed, filed, stamped, briefed, debriefed, or numbered! My life is my own."

Trust me. I'm a über nerd for The Prisoner. I quoted all that from memory. Nyahh.

Posted by: Wil [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:12 PM

Hi Wil. I hope you feel better soon. I had mono my first year of university, and it was not much fun. It was the complete opposite of fun, especially falling asleep in classes all the time. I agree that it might be a 'sign' to literally slow down. I'm annoyed that people think you can't get sick or have a private life. Like, wtf. Makes them 'look bad?' Sometimes, people suck.

This is your blog. Write whatever you want. Or post stupid pictures drawn badly. Or stupid pictures of sidewalks or clouds or feet or garbage cans.

It's not necessary to defend how or what you want to write, although I think I understand why you feel defensive ... because the next freakazoid who latches on is going to get it, right? Yeah. Be careful on these here internets. There are some spooky people floating about. Amost every blogger I know has gone through similar drama where some readers get too pushy and expect too much and it gets stupid and/or ugly. Don't explain anything. Be sarcastic. Enjoy writing, as long as it's for you, not for an audience. If people like it, they will come back. If they don't, then whatever. Page hits/comment counts don't matter, at all.

Oh, and enjoy the family, while they are all still at home. I'm sure you'll figure out the angles. I'd say random hug attacks are good for a start.

Take care, and feel better!

Posted by: nalathil [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:13 PM

Oh, and I think he may say "indexed" in there, too. And I realize that I misspelled "answers."

But I'm actually having a nice evening, catching up on poker blogs, seeing that Paul Phillips mentioned me in his Live Journal, and watching the Dodgers blow a lead to the Tigers.

The Tigers! For Fuck's Sake!

Posted by: Wil [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:15 PM

Well done. Remember to stay strong and mind the little disciplines that are the backbone of changes like this.

These kinds of changes really will make for a better blog, and hopefully some more bound printed matter from you before too long--both of which are good news!

Anyone who minds any of that, well, I can't imagine that they would have been "fan enough" to have tuned in long enough to notice the difference.

I know you've been a man at a mark far too often over your careers. You know how to guard yourself. Let 'em go, and good riddance and all that. Turning out new, quality work will bring in a new wave of public support and fans.

Posted by: naiah christine earhart [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:15 PM

I think it's awesome that you have decided to go back to basic's. It's good for grounding yourself. In Hawai'i, staring out at the ocean for hours at a time, just listening to the waves crashing and seeing the water ripple, it was so relaxing and so mind filling at the same time. I bet I thought up seven more stories while I was there.

*wink* It's a good thing, this change. Roll with the waves. They always reach the shore.

Posted by: VeronicaKnight [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:16 PM

Wil;
Whose life is it? Whose blog is it? YOURS. You have the freedom to say what's on your mind. There will always be a few disgruntled viewers, but that's true for many things. And in time, they tend to move on when they realize no one is interested in their negativity.

None of us has the right to demand anything of you, or behave immaturely when we perceive having been "shortchanged". The only people who have the right to expect anything of you are your family and friends.

What we all consider to be special are the parts of yourself that you *choose* to share with us. Whatever form that takes; here online, or in print, or in person. The point of us all being here, on this planet, is the connections we experience between ourselves.

Be well. Live your days fully.

~caoil

Posted by: caoil [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:17 PM

I don't normally bother to comment if I'm basically going to ditto what was already said, but truthfully, maybe it helps to hear it from a lot of people. Yes, lots of people are attracted to your blog initially because of your celebrity. That isn't enough to hold people if the writing is bad or extremely infrequently updated. I've looked at other celebrity blogs, and frankly, none of them hold a candle to yours. Why? Because you have a real blog, not just some web mouthpiece for your latest project that mostly gets ignored. Your blog is good because it doesn't pretend to be some fansite. It's a blog. A good blog.

Posted by: Dana Huff [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:17 PM

hey wil,

unlike all those OTHER PEOPLE, who say they wish you well, but are SHALLOW and only lurk here in the secret, dark hope that you're probed by ALIENS and appear frothing at the mouth on conan o'brien some night, so that they can say to their friends, "that's wil, i read his BLOG and was THIS CLOSE to bearing his child", i'd like to say welcome.

p.s. stand a little to the left. no, that's good.

Posted by: drow [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:19 PM

Wil, I totally respect your position! My husband and I've enjoyed your writing so much, and we'd far rather see you slow down than burn out. :-)

You know, all the kitty trauma of the past year is probably taking its toll, too. It's hard to have to work and work when you really need the time to grieve. Our society doesn't encourage the acceptance of the loss of a pet as the loss of a loved one, but of course anyone who has ever lost a cherished animal companion knows full well that it is. You spoke of feeling like pieces of you were missing, and this is definitely a missing piece of your heart that needs time to heal.

Take care of yourself, enjoy your family, ignore all jerks, and nurture your own creative garden while you tend that outdoor one!

Melissa Gay

Posted by: MelissaGay [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:22 PM

Good for you! You're human. Nobody owns you. As for the people at the Red Hat Summit, they can go f*** themselves.

Posted by: mike3k [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:27 PM

I have to put my two cents to say the following:

I went to a Gift of Gab, (intended to be anyway)
show in SJSU recently but the man cancelled because well, he was ill.

So Lightsabrs (sp.?) did the small hip hop show. which was cool. People said... "awww" when told the man couldn't make it. For goodness sake, even performers such as the Gift himself who can let loose words faster than I type in his style, need a break.

All I can say is when people say its "rude and unprofessional", tell them things I can't otherwise write here which will sound terrible to you guys but I rather am fond of cussing (at common enemies or people who ask me to cover for them one too many times).

Its better to slow down than wind up much worse. The great heydey of conventions is over it appears, I was in high school, I was too "poor". I'm still broke. The church mouse budget is too much sometimes, but well, as far as reality TV goes, people's tension can be released by watching films of Mother Teresa taking care of the REALLY-genuinely poor, but it would be better if it wasn't all just b.s. drama.

The real World was full of that. They think apparently that cooperation, a decent human endeavor to put in a water system that works in an African village for example is a bad idea for reality TV and won't make money unless people don't get along. What getting along with life/coworkers doesn't make for keeping people from getting sick? I don't get the whole keep going no matter what mentality in American society, I mean, good grief, there is also a total lack of sympathy in the world for anybody.

There are too many people in business and other professions that express a lack of compassion and understanding. Just look at our health care system for goodness sake and that's another rant entirely for my Live Journal. working on CSI must be cool, but Live Journal can feature many quirky commentary on that and other subjects as my account rests there on which I often rant and rave.

Yes, Life has responsibilities for all of us. We can't all be creating but that certainly takes the brunt off of b.s., I want to double major in cinema and writing because I confess to a desire to break into the 'Wood someday and write for the Idiot Box myself but write decent stuff. I will be branded a geek too I suppose as much as I hate the label (there is that word again, hate), I hate having to use the word hate because I hate hate. But well, I can't expect perfection. But from undergrad to grad MFA in writing to Law school to hopefully saving the world from itself. Oh I'm just getting myself together right now though.

More importantly though I write to tell you Wil to tell off those who expect you to overwork, its not good for you or for anybody. I'm rabidly for building a society where people don't feel like they have to overwork like that, because that guilt trip people put on people who get sick is so stupid.

Posted by: Alcira [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:28 PM

Not only do I understand, but I agree 100% with every decision you've listed, and my respect for you, which was already at level 3948344564 (this is according to the scoring in my own little world, naturally), has just skyrocketed. I honestly think you're among the coolest bloggers out there, and I am grateful for all the time you put into this site. It's a bummer about the convention, since I was looking forward to seeing you (!) but again, I understand, and actually, anyone who DOESN'T understand just sucks.

Posted by: Ericka [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:30 PM

Wil:

I understand and agree with you 100%. Thanks for taking the time to explain your reasons and letting us know of the changes in store. I've been reading your blog for almost 3 years and will continue to do so as long as you keep writing. You are a talented, gifted writer. As long as you keep writing, we'll keep reading. To tell you the truth, I miss the stories. :)

Whatever changes you make, in your life, your blog, your site: those of us who have gotten to know you through your writting will stay with you through this journey, no matter which path it takes.

Ana Marylee =)
San Juan, PR

Posted by: Ana Marylee [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 09:59 PM

Dearest Wil,
You are an inspiration to me for many many years now. Your site/blog has shown how much you have grown as a man and a writer. I will continue to read everything you say for as long as I can.
Thank you for all of your sharing,insights, love, writing, tears, joys etc etc etc.

Luv,
Cat
>*.*

Posted by: cat [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:10 PM

Hey Will,
Just found your site and I'd like to say I admire your writing and am enjoying your blog. I have a lot of respect for what you had to say in your post. Way to stick to your guns (kisses bicep ;-).
-Mike

Posted by: Mike Fullerton [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:10 PM

I've been reading your blog for a couple years now, and have always enjoyed it. I love the way you write, and I'm sure I will still love it after you've made your changes. I am one fan who will be sticking around.

Posted by: LolaGabanna [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:25 PM

Wil,

Another long time reader, never poster here.

As I read through this entry this evening, I kept saying to myself, "Yes!" "Right!" "ABSOLUTELY!!"

Yes, there will be people that aren't happy about the changes you're making - screw 'em. The rest of us (and I suspect the vast majority of the rest of us) appreciate and enjoy your writing and your principles.

I think you can talk to any creatve person - and even those of us a little less gifted - and find that a lot of us feel the need to burn the candle at all 17 ends. It's an amazingly freeing thing to discover the ability to say "NO" when you have to - it took me nearly 20 years to do that.

I for one will continue to look forward to new WWDN entries popping up in my RSS reader. Even if they're a little less frequent and even more now knowing that you're finding a renewed spark to write what you really feel and to try not fall prey to the self censorship that can plague every writer.

You've got your priorities in order. Everything else follows naturally from there.

Best wishes, sir.

Posted by: Ed [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:27 PM

Apologies if this has already been said, I don't feel like reading through almost a hundred posts. If you don't take care of yourself the way you need to take care of yourself, you'll end up not being any good to anybody. It's a fucking annoying "Dr. Phil-ism", I know, but it remains true just the same.

Those people who give you grief from their lack of proper perspective are probably ultimately a good thing. If you can tell them they need to deal whenever they pop up, that keeps in good shape your ability to maintain your new boundaries. It's like how getting nasty colds every now and then helps keep your immune system in shape for dealing with more serious threats to your health.

I'm glad you will be less self-censoring in political posts. Liberals and progressives need to speak out now more than ever. In fact, my first inkling that a something seriously fucked up was underway in the national body politic was when your blog was invaded by nazi redneck trolls back in early 2003 when you spoke out against the Iraq clusterfuck that is now worse than ever.

You haven't gotten your garden started yet? If you lived in the northern Midwest, it would be almost too late to start one by now. Around here, you need to get started in April or May (May if you live very near one of the Great Lakes because it stays cold for so much longer), the first week of June at the latest.

Posted by: Loveandlight [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:31 PM

BTW, here's a relatively new and better way to garden that you might appreciate hearing about:

http://www.squarefootgardening.com/

Posted by: Loveandlight [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:35 PM

I'll just refer this comment to the post "at June 7, 2005 09:12 PM"

I stand corrected :-D

Have a good one.

Posted by: HART [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:40 PM

Wil:
Boy! This sounds really great! It's so easy to lose yourself to everyone else in this town. In this country, in fact. You do need to do what is best for you, your family and your life. I'm behind you 100%!

Wow! You must be getting well at lighting speed! I would have thought that you were drained after just 25% of this entry! I'm glad that things are getting better. REMEMBER THE DOCTOR'S WARNING ABOUT YOUR SPLEEN!!!!!

:)

Scott

Posted by: Scott T [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:41 PM

Dontcha love how the universe still will kick ya in the head every so often?

Most of the time, the universe is right, though.

Glad you're getting your priorities in line. :)

Posted by: :: jozjozjoz.com :: [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:42 PM

I'm really sorry to hear you're giving up the Dungeon gig, Wil. I'm surprised that you got negative feedback, as I've never heard anything but praise for the column. I'm a very critical person, and I've enjoyed every Wil Save.

(For what it's worth, I've never been a Star Trek fan, so I never had the chance to develop and transfer any Wesley Hate. My knowledge of you and your work is basically "Stand By Me," in which you were great, and your writing, which, as I said, I've enjoyed.)

I'm pleased to hear you're going to turn some of your creativity toward political commentary; I completely agree with everything you posted in the above entry, and while (perhaps because) I'm far too lazy to blog, I love to see the non-neocon viewpoint expressed articulately and passionately, and I believe you're up to the task.

Finally, I'm also into poker (and obviously gaming). I've been playing semi-professionally at low- to mid-limits for 10 years ... since well before the poker explosion. Ironically, I was beginning to think the games were getting too tough to make them worthwhile, but the influx of dead money has me back up in the 6+ BB/hour range. I hope your own results are just as good.

Posted by: Jeff Wilder [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:44 PM

First I would like to apologize for hogging megamounts of bandwidth from your site during the last week. I came upon your site by accident and the first thing I read was,,, ďHoly mother of shit. I hit the trifectaĒ and I instantly started looking for the archives,,, to sate the appetite that was only going to be tamed by the 12 to 14 hours a day of reading that I did. I consumed every last bit of manuscript that I could find on your site.
Yeah, I cried with you, and it felt good. I laughed till I fell out of my chair and my sides hurt, (that felt good too !). I read about genuine compassion, and caring, that could only come from some one with intelligence and personal integrity. (and a wicked sense of humor).
With Sadness, I read your post, today. Wondering how much longer we will be entertained by this wonderful writer, in this up close and personal environment? (all the while thinking, Heís gonna pull the plug). I for one will be here to read what Uncle Willie presents. And later,, when someone asks me if I have ever read anything by Wil Wheaton, I can honestly say,,,,, Hell Ya !!


ďSo I got that going for me, which is niceĒ


Good Luck in all that you have planned for yourself and your family

Posted by: papasaun [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 10:45 PM

The more I read of what you've written, the more I like you. Or rather, what you choose to reveal.

I have that same tendency of soul-baring that I've had to pull back from, and I feel better for having done so. We regulars might be sad to see less of you, but man, do I respect that decision.

Posted by: Stacey [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:06 PM

Hi, Wil--

It's been a while since I commented, but this blog was worth the small added step of signing up for TypeKey in order to congratulate you on your decisions.

A bit over a year ago, I was so frustrated over the state of my job, and my deteriorating relationship with my department head, that I actually took three days off work to sit at home and cry about it. On the first of those days, I called said department head to find out what was going on, and in the course of that conversation, I realized several things.

The job itself was never going to change. Oh, the technology would, but the nuts-&-bolts of the job wouldn't. And my dissatisfaction? Well, I was in the midst of something cyclical; every time I went through the cycle, I went further down (i.e., was more depressed) than the time before, stayed at the bottom of the cycle longer, and never returned to the previous "high"--and it seemed likely that in one more cycle, maybe two, I'd be in heavy therapy and probably on Prozac or something similar. And I really didn't like that idea.

Three choices occured to me: I could continue on my current path, being the employee that employers love to hate (one who doesn't do any more than the bare minimum but never screws up badly enough to get canned); I could change myself to like the job again; or I could quit.

So I did. And although I still haven't figured out what I really want to do when I grow up, I've never looked back. I admire the fact that you have evaluated your life--never an easy thing at the best of times--and decided to change.

Stick with your decisions. Those of us who enjoy your work will remain, the rest can look for someone more tractable for their entertainment. If I get a vote re: what you choose to do with your time, I too would love to see what kind of fiction you might create, but I'm pretty much gonna be here regardless!

My best to you, Anne & the family, including the furpeople. Take care, and be well.

Syd

Posted by: Syd [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:08 PM

Good for you.

Family and happiness are way more important than what a bunch of people "think" you should do.

Take care.

Posted by: Fidosax [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:19 PM

I really hope Wil doesn't get all political here.

Posted by: Tom Bissell [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:22 PM

I only discovered your blog a few months ago. My first time I read your blog I found myself hugging my cat and crying. Then I realized, "Damn, this is what makes the internet worth it." Since then I have read every day, even when I don't understand what the heck you're talking about (honestly, I'm more of a nerd groupie/wanna be nerd than actually nerd, and I don't know enough about poker). I've told everyone I know to read your blog as it is one of the few examples of someone our age actually being, well...so fucking great. Reading what you have written about your family (human or not), or feelings about acting and writing, or just your random thoughts for that day gives me hope that there are still good people out there. I'll admit that an old crush I had so many years ago when your pictures were torn out of magazines and posted on my bedroom walls came back. You are an amazing, beautiful, funny, smart, and I love reading whatever you feel like writing about.
That said, I say do what makes your heart sing Wil. Although I will miss hearing about the tender moments in your life (the entry about understanding a missed moment with your stepson brought me to tears and reminded me to take my head out of my ass with my own kids), it's way more important that you are able to create those moments in your life in the first place. When you die, yes, this blog will be mentioned in every newspaper article about you, but it is your family that will share stories about you forever. So, thank you for everything you have shared with us so far, and I know that I'll keeping reading and keep buying your books. As far as the more political blogs go, I say: BRING IT ON!! That guy is pure evil. I never thought that I would go grow up to be ashamed of the country that I live in. I love this country, but I'm scared shitless about where we're heading.

Posted by: crushme [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:23 PM

Bravo,

First I just started visiting WWdN and reading your blog, I think I had stumbled upon it a few years ago but skipped over it on my way to somewhere. So forgive me if I don't sound like a typical commentator to you writings. It all began because of a ditzy "Hooters" Waitress? Whatever.

RE:driver 8 post
Love the monkey imagery, more creative than the stereotype Guardian Angel/Devil on the shoulder. Also glad you too hate Reality TV. Actually I did enjoy Spike TVs "The Joe Schmo Show" (both seasons) since it poked fun at the reality TV shows. I think I am one of only a handful of people that can't get into that crap, who the hell cares about who won the Million on "Survivor" or Who the "Bachelor" is going to divorce in 6 months. I also really don't care Which Whitney Houston Wanna-be Simon thinks sucks or if Paula Abdul had an affair with that Loser or not. Last comment on Reality TV shows, why do people eat that crap and crawly things on Fear FActor? UGH!

In your new-life make over. The important thing to remember is your family should come first. Of course whatever your spirtial/religious beliefs are they would say that family comes second. Too many people put themselves or their jobs first then their family and look what happens, next thing they know they are looking for a new job, new home, hiring lawyers oh it's a mess.

Looking forward to the NO-ADDs redesign. Adds are ruining the internet and keep people from reading the real content of websites.

Wondering if Mr. Wheaton will ever find his mind? I Hope so, mindless people are a bore.

Posted by: klandersen [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:31 PM

"I hate Reality TV...I need to tell more stories, and bear less soul. You know what I've learned about The Internets? It's full of freaks, and if a high-profile person bears too much soul, they really come out of the woodwork and latch on. It's a little creepy. So, I need to reclaim a lot of myself for myself and my friends and family...."

Interesting that I should read this today, when I was just discussing this very thing with an acquaintance this morning. Though by our very nature humans are morbidly fascinated with the actions of others, America is a nation of voyeurs; "reality" (or "train-wreck" as Hubby and I call it) TV caters to these people. So many people don't have lives of their own that they have to immerse themselves in other people's. And "reality" TV couldn't be further from reality anyway. *gags* And I thought soap operas were bad....

I turned off the idiot-box nearly three years ago and never looked back. I don't regret the decision. Television sucks all the creativity from my soul, and I *hate* being told what to think, and that's all TV seems to do anymore. But I digress....

Urf...how can I say this without sounding like one of the above-mentioned freaks...?

When you bear your soul, Wil, it makes you human. Yes, you may be a "high-profile person", but you're still a person, and you express your humanity so eloquently that people just can't help but want to share your pain, your sorrow, your happiness and your joy. Take a look at nearly all the comments above, and you'll see what I mean.

Someone I love dearly once told me that the only people who truly matter are the ones who know who you really are, and love you anyway. I've got news for you...we, your loyal posse, know who you really are.... Whether you pull back from your "soul-bearing" or not, we still know The Real Wil, so it changes nothing.

A writer bears their soul, Wil. It's why we write. Those aren't just words on a page for us...those words *are* us, whether we intend it or not.

Quote for you: "The pen is mightier than the sword." - Edward Bulwer-Lytton

Granted, Bulwer-Lytton wasn't the best of writers, having also coined the dread phrase "It was a dark and stormy night...", but you get the idea.

Write what you want. If you want to share stories, share stories, but we don't mind a little soul-bearing now and then. And yes, there are "freaks" out there...*points to herself and grins proudly*...but most of us are harmless. And how could anyone not offer to help you when you're hurting? You are so very, awesomely human, Wil...and it's what makes you an awesome writer. You're the kind of human that everyone ought to be, if they weren't so busy watching Jerry Springer.

There are some parts of us that we need to keep for ourselves and our loved ones, but as writers we are the ones putting on the peep-show for the voyeurs. I could say something about acting being in the same class (Hubby is an actor, so I can rip on the Freudian connotations between acting and voyeurism all I want!) but I think I've rambled on long enough.

I admit I haven't been reading your blog as often as I would like, but I do amble by on occasion when I'm taking a break from my own writing and have a more than a minute to actually sit and enjoy what you have to say, instead of skimming it quickly and going "Oh, that's nice."

Life happens to everyone, and it looks as though it's happened by the metric shitton for you lately. Hang in there, and do what you have to. I'll put in a word to The Boss about your health. I've got connections.

One of the Freaks out on the 'Nets Herself,
Aylaleia - Goddess of Justice and Vengeance

Posted by: Aylaleia [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:43 PM

Wil, sounds like you made the right decision. Life's too short for needless crap. Good for you.

Posted by: skeezer [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:43 PM

Couldn't help but add....

"I'll take Penis Mightiers for $500, Alex...."

I did watch TV once upon a time, and SNL's "Celebrity Jeopardy" was one of my faves...especially when they spoofed Sean Connery....

Alex: "That's THE PEN IS MIGHTIER, Mr. Connery!"

Sean: "I don't care what you call it, Trebek! What matters is, does it work?"

Ayla

Posted by: Aylaleia [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:53 PM

I'm a local, Wil. Can't be just one of a 100, though. I'm special, but not that special, lol. There's gotta be more than that within driving distance.

It's a free country, do whatcha want as long as yer not hurting anyone, yourself, or breaking a law. Joke 'em if they can't take a f***. [What? I can't say 'frog'???]

Take care of yourself and your loved ones. I'll still be reading, regardless of the changes. I like your writing.

Posted by: EdwoodCA [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:54 PM

Wil,

I'm happy for you that you have been able to pinpoint areas in your life that you are able to cut back on, change, rearrage, and enrich. I believe that in itself is a great accomplishment, so many people stumble through their days wanting to know what they can do to regain control.

I hope that the changes you are making in your life WILL allow you to spend more time with your family and your writing. I know that sometimes, the more time you have, the more time you need. Nature abhors a vacuum and all that stuff.

I think it is probably a good thing that you are choosing to pull back on the more personal 'soul baring' posts - although it makes you feel more like a friend to me - even though you wouldn't know me if you tripped over me in the street. But then, as you say, all the freaks come out of the woodwork, and only you and yours know what torments these maniacs have put you through.

Anyway, like everyone else, I want to say that what ever your decisions, I support them - and I guess its good to have some prior warning. :)

Posted by: Porfyria [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:55 PM

Aylaleia: that is the second funniest skit in the last 15 years of SNL! LOVE IT! [1st is Schweddy Balls with Alec Baldwin.]
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Mr. Bissell, I don't like to assume things [make an ass outta myself this way, lol], but perhaps you've read Wil's blog during this past year where it's gotten away from what he started out doing? I've only read for about 2 yrs. And there's no seniority/ranking system here, so length of time means nothing. But FYI, Wil's always been very political. As he said, he's been self-censoring as of late. I don't agree with Wil on several things, but it's all good. This is America, after all.
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Just like parenting a child [or ones self], if you don't like what's on the TV/screen/radio/WWdN/etc... don't watch/read it. Very simple. [Too simple for those that ragged on you for cancelling that appearance, apparently. Yeesh!]

Posted by: EdwoodCA [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 7, 2005 11:59 PM

Let me just congratulate you on coming to a very tough realization. I'm a coder, video editor, CG artist and musician, and I do all those things because I love them, not because of the money.

I find that when you work your ass off and get very good at something, there's an endless parade of people who expect you to work for free...well...because you "love it and don't do it for the money".

Unfortunately I've allowed my passions to become my fast track to bitchhood.

It's funny that when I charge serious money for my services, the arrangement always goes well. But when I *GIVE* my services away, somehow I always come off the asshole.

For instance, last year I donoated $32,000 of my professional time to a "friend", building a networking layer, logic layer and a few game implementations for a massively multiplayer game framework that would work with PCs, consoles and cell phones at the same time. I built a first revision, had some great breakthroughs, and delivered him a sweet-ass demo of a racing game and blackjack game that worked with a Direct3D client, a Java client, and a Palm cell phone client. All he had to do was demo for investors and raise money. When I told him I was quickly running out of money and needed to do PAID work, he revoked all my shares and smeared my name around town as an unreliable deserter...STILL BAFFLED AT THAT ONE.

It really is my fault though, so screw 'em all. I'm not bending over anymore, and there's something very gratifying about knowing that it happens to other people who work their asses off to become good at what they do.

Thanks for posting this...

Posted by: Rjak [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 12:07 AM

I think it is wonderful that you are going to put your family and yourself first. I have enjoyed your blog and am grateful that you have graced us with your wonderful talent but, I totally understand and support your decision. Good for you. I look forward to more books by you and wish you all the success in the world.
Also, I don't always agree with you politically, but I do always respect your opinions. I hope to see more of them "uncensored". I hope you recover from your illness swiftly. Thanks again.

Posted by: froggielove [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 12:42 AM

I think it is wonderful that you are going to put your family and yourself first. I have enjoyed your blog and am grateful that you have graced us with your wonderful talent but, I totally understand and support your decision. Good for you. I look forward to more books by you and wish you all the success in the world.
Also, I don't always agree with you politically, but I do always respect your opinions. I hope to see more of them "uncensored". I hope you recover from your illness swiftly. Thanks again.

Posted by: froggielove [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 12:43 AM

Well, we're 120 comments in, and I'm going to go ahead and be redundantly redundant. Fuck the whiners. I've been in a situation where it's either your health or you life, i.e. stop what you're doing and take care of your health or keep going and drop dead in a week. Anyone who calls you unprofessional or complains in ANY way abot you taking YOUR LIFE more seriously than THEIR ENTERTAINMENT is a complete and total fuckwad. I made the very same decisions this winter when my health was dangeroulsly low and I found myself doing stuff thta just made me worse to try to keep the money coming in. I realized some clients are just not worth the toll they extract from me, regardless of the pay. Sometimes you have to fire your boss/client.


And you made the right decision. I come here because I find you to be a cool guy with some interesting things to say when you feel like sharing them, not because I demand a daily performance. If you have to blog less to increase the quality of your life, do it. If you feel you're not adding anything to conventions, and feel drained by them, drop them. If people bitch and moan about your column, then you just have the wrong audience, that's all, so take it where it's APPRECIATED.


Not too long ago, I had a potential customer call me up, and ask various legit questions, and I did my best to answer them. Then I got a hum-dinger: "How do I know you're not a scam?" That stopped me dead in my tracks. I replied, "Frankly, ma'am, you don't." She replied, "Can I talk to other customers of yours?" With my new attitude of 'me first, not last', I said, "No, you can't. I have a number of clients who are very happy with me because I provide them with the services they need without pretense or bloated bills, I'm honest, and I don't bug them or annoy them. I'm not about to let them be bothered on my behalf just to gain one more. You wouldn't like it if I let potential customers call you every day to grill you, and neither do my current customers. If you feel you want the best service in the area for the best prices, call me back. But I'm not going to risk what I've earned so far to calm your nerves. That's something you'll have to get on your own. Thanks for calling," and hung up. I never heard from her again. But Friday two of my customers contacted me nearly at the same time, both wanting my services, and both needs haev led to them wanting more than they originally did, which is good for them and me. I am glad I turned her away, because I don't have any unhappy customers, and I don't have a potential timebomb of a nutcase waiting to go off and damage my name and hurt my customers.


You have the same thing. Several good opportunities you like, and that can also support you, without added stresses of trying to please everybody, which no one can do. usually when bloggers have epiphanies, they're lame. Yours was a true life-realization moment. You're a better, healthier, happier person for it, and so far, hundreds of commenters are better prople for you having shared it. Thanks.

Posted by: Grey Hodge [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 12:44 AM

Welcome back to Your Life™, Good Sir. Please make yourself at home. I hope you enjoy your stay :)

Posted by: Lemi4 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 02:56 AM

Alright, I was thinking of sending one of these to you c/o acme, but I wasn't sure the proprieter would appreciate it.

Plus, with all the massive hate mail you're probably getting and don't deserve I figured it'd might be better to send a URL.

http://www.giantmicrobes.com/maladies/kissingdisease.html


It's a plush mononucleosis.

Just in case you want a huggable reminder of your recent epiphany.

Cheers Wil.

Posted by: Merrick ap'Milandra [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 03:01 AM

Three cheers for self awareness...ummmmm, and three more for one of the greatest TV shows of all time...

...I will not be pushed, filed, stamped, indexed, briefed, debriefed or numbered. My life is my own...

That's about 70% true in my case...the U.S. Air Force dictates quite a bit of what I do with my time ;)

Posted by: M.A. Durkee [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 03:11 AM

Go Will!
good luck with the MonkeyMerge.
I'll still be reading.

Cheers from Holland

Posted by: dumpon [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 03:27 AM

*hug* *slaps back of your head* About freakin' time, Wheaton! ;-)

Rock on! *metal* & get your Life on! *big cheezy grin*

As for the haters: isn't it nice how they reveal themselves in your time of need? Makes clean-up easier. *gives 'em the boot* Besides, didn't you figure out the dark side of the net from the monkeybox? tsk. You must've forgotten! :-P Anyway, as I'm sure others have said: the creative monkey & pragmatic monkey are really one & the same; letting creative monkey "go wild" periodically helps pragmatic monkey do his duties. You're a writer, remember? ;-) Enjoy!

p.s. you need to take that "kind of" out of your blog heading. You *are* a writer!

Posted by: frogger [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 03:53 AM

Speaking of monkeys, did you know there was a "Wil Wheaton' link over at TotalFark the other day? It didn't get greenlighted. Shame. Here's the link:

http://www.joeandmonkey.com/index.php?pageNum_Recordset2=281&totalRows_Recordset2=283

Posted by: FNRThomas [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:01 AM

After quitting my stressful high-tech job because it had seeped into my every waking moment, I definitely understand the need for a clean slate and a reset on what it is you're spending time on. After a couple months off, I'm back in the same field now, but with major boundaries, the ability to say no to assignments, and the ability to not check my email in evenings and on weekends. Is this something we all have to learn in our early 30's? :)

The only thing I have to say is, stop appologizing for it! You write like you're upset about how we're going to be disappointed. So what? Any good person should be happy that you'll be able to have a better life and write more good stuff for us to read. Any other person should go take a flying leap and find somebody else to obsess over.

The only thing I would have been sad about is if you stopped blogging altogether. But even that would have been completely selfish because your stuff is just fun to read, and if you weren't getting anything out of it, I'd say you should stop that, too.

Good for you!

Posted by: Rebecca in NH [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:07 AM

Wil, I'm glad you're feeling better, and I don't have any problem with the decisions you're making (and it wouldn't matter a whit if I did). Best of luck reorganizing.

And I'm very, very impressed with the way you casually used "bears" and "shit in the woods" in the same paragraph like that. Very slick. Almost looked accidental. ;-)

Posted by: zadig [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:30 AM

Anyone that could possibly be offended by anything you've said here seriously needs to FOAD, or at least get a freaking life. Do what you need to do, for those you love that love you. Anyone that doesn't get that is just a prop.

Posted by: Sandi [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:05 AM

I'm glad you're back.

Posted by: orion23 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:11 AM

You are doing the right thing, Wil. Ignore the naysayers. Those of us worth listening to are behind you. :)

Posted by: Mikosama [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:14 AM

As I read this entry I can totally see why the changes you are making NEED to be made, Wil. I look forward to the stories, as a fellow writer I depend on reading real works from professionals so that I can learn more. I can also see what you mean about the blog turning into a personal account of your daily life, but to be honest, sometimes we write those things because we need to purge that info for a reason. Embrase it when you feel the need to be personal, and keep it personal when needed. We all love a little "personal" from you sometimes, just ignore the freaks that emerge. :)

As far as your family, mainly your stepsons, you are totally right to fight for more time with them. They will be flying out of the nest soon enough, and you do not want to miss a thing right now. Be happy in what you do, and many kudos for realizing how to make yourself, and your family, happier. You are obviously a devoted Husband and Father. :) I wish you much peace happiness.

Posted by: Quincey [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:19 AM

just in case you're really incredibly bored or in case you're hoping this is another in a set of 10 to erase one of those negative emails --

about damn time, dude.

wil, man, i love your blog. i loved just a geek. you know what? i love your work as aqualad, as gordie and i loved your work as wesley too.
but you know what? that doesn't really matter all that much. i'm one monkey among many - and for your life, you're the monkey that matters.

dude, every one of the things you wrote in this post was spot on. this is your blog and you should be doing what you want with it.

sure, i've been getting a massive dose of wheaton every day by reading the archives and i'm gonna be sad that now that i'm almost caught up, the current-time postings are probably going to be coming slower. but so what? you don't write this blog expressly for my happiness any more than i write my blog expressly for anyone else's happiness.

dude, you rawk. please take care of yourself, and, as someone else said when you announced the trifecta, good god, man, don't pull a jim henson.

enjoy ryan. enjoy nolan. enjoy anne. enjoy ferris. enjoy your frickin' life, man, and screw anyone who tells you otherwise.

think about this: you posted this last night and by 7 a.m. central time there were well over 100 posts encouraging you and congratulating you. that's a lot of good monkey mojo. that's a lot of affirmation that you're on the right track. and you know your monkeys might just be tempted to remind you to stick to your guns, man. :)

meanwhile -- i was wondering where the political posts were, man. bring 'em on. i ABSOLUTELY love what you say about if life were a bar, the U.S. would be a drunk waving a loaded gun. (but don't forget that most of lation america and canada get pissy when the U.S. tries to 'claim' all of america . . . somewhere, one of my former students is probably reading this comment and snickering loudly).

\M/
rawk on

peace,
ender

Posted by: enderFP [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:20 AM

Personally, I've missed your political musings.

btw, have you considered contacting The Huffington Post to see if you can be a contributing columnist?

I think you'd do great there!

Posted by: ShelaghC [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:23 AM

oh fer cryin' out loud - lation america??? when did laos become part of the americas?
*sigh* i meant latin america. grrrr. argh.

this is what i get for 'correcting' anyone, especially wil.

Posted by: enderFP [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:24 AM

Welcome back, Wil.

Posted by: JSc [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:25 AM

Hi Wil. Long-time reader, first-time caller...

There's not a lot I can add to the comments already posted other than to say be strong. Never lose sight of the destination.

Add another vote for more political rantiness, please.

Be well.

MJE

Posted by: Markham Eggleton [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:26 AM

I could just say "ditto," but I'm never so brief.

Anyway, it's your blog, your time, your life. You do what you need to do to keep yourself and your family happy and healthy, and we'll be happy for you and for whatever you decide to share with us.

Glad you're feeling better.

Posted by: AGlowingMind [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:29 AM

Wil,

I get up and walk my dog EVERY morning and the best part of my day is the time I spend with my husband and my daughter. I think its great that you want to reclaim a piece of your life as your own. If people don't get that, screw 'em. You deserve your privacy and time just like the rest of us!

Sandra

Posted by: swl-mom2Bryn [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:38 AM

Yay for the return of Political Wil! And don't mind the Trolls, if you were here to impress everyone you'd be a ClearChannel affiliate. Looking forward to whatever, and whenever you post - and the future writings that will come from it. :)

Posted by: Elyssa [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:52 AM

Yay for the return of Political Wil! And don't mind the Trolls, if you were here to impress everyone you'd be a ClearChannel affiliate. Looking forward to whatever, and whenever you post - and the future writings that will come from it. :)

Posted by: Elyssa [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:52 AM

Way to go, Will! I'm glad to hear that you've recovered from your illness. It certainly sounds like you've been putting the time that you were out of commission to good use by getting your priorities in order.

I always enjoy reading your blog, and can't wait to see what you've got coming up. Make sure that you continue to keep both monkeys (sex and cash) happy.

Posted by: KYChris [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:00 AM

I just wanted to say thank you for the honesty. I think you are very wise Wil, to do what you need to do. Life is too short to not be true to yourself. Not that you need any validation from me...a complete stranger, but good on ya!

Posted by: Bagelcat [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:08 AM

BRAVO.

And I'm looking forward to your frank thoughts on Our Asshat President.

Posted by: karmelrio [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:11 AM

More power to you -- and it sounds like that's exactly what you'll be getting. Thanks for giving us a taste of what's to come.



Feel good, man.



"Happiness is equilibrium. Shift your weight. Equilibrium is pragmatic. You have to get everything into proportion. You compensate, rebalance yourself so that you maintain your angle to the world. When the world shifts, you shift." --Tom Stoppard



(Also from Stoppard, perhaps relevant -- "It is a defect of God's humor that he directs our hearts everywhere but to those who have a right to them.")

Posted by: Mark Bourne [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:13 AM

Best wishes...May you find the peace and equilibrium you seek.

Regardless, I'll keep reading...

Posted by: Kalimar [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:28 AM

*STANDING O*

This is exactly why I started reading you.

Isn't it amazing that if you ignore the Universe long enough she will literally punch you in the face hard enough to knock you on your ass as if to say "Hey asshole! Pay attention!"

Welcome back to "you" Uncle Willy.

Posted by: Sharfa [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:31 AM

Bravo Wil! Personally, I had been thinking for a while that you were really getting naked out there on the inet with what you were writing, and wondered how you were able to do it. I kept thinking that it would be nice to start a blog myself, but not if I had to bare my soul like WW did. It's good to see you are going to set boundaries, I think you need them. Keep some mystery about you, otherwise, what else is there? Would love to see more political posts as well as fictional writing. As for those hateful people who won't understand, *^#@ 'em anyway.

Posted by: macchelle [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:32 AM

I've been reading your blog for what seems like years (probably is), I'd never even considered signing up to post a comment before, that is until I read this entry.

Good for you Wil.

Spending time with my family and friends keeps me sane in my mundane life.

Posted by: stocker [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:38 AM

A wise and well-considered post. Wil, I was fortunate enough to run into you in Disneyland last December. You and Anne were exceedingly kind to a blushing and stammering fan of your work (and my husband) and you told me of several writing projects you were working on, including a novel. You also spoke passionately about our dire political straits in a way that gave me hope at a time when the election had crushed my spirit to no small degree. You're a natural born storyteller and a thoughtful man and writer, so whatever you choose to share with us is a gift to us and we appreciate it. I for one also appreciate the way you generously guide us through your decision process so we can understand and relate to whatever changes are ahead--although you owe us nothing. We couldn't ask for anything more. Thanks Wil, and good luck getting it all on the right track.

Posted by: maycomb [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:40 AM

Wil
congratulations on being smart enough, and brave enough, to take the look inside and see what's going on - and actually acting on it.

the distance Reiki (concentrated mojo) is still flowing for you. Enjoy your transition back to health!

Posted by: sparky1234 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:41 AM

So glad that you are feeling better, Wil!!!!!! :) Hang in there, take care of yourself, and remember that there are lots of people who care about you!!!

I think it's our age (33), but I went through a similar epiphany this spring, and am devoting much more time to my son. I thought that I needed to put work first, because I am the only source of income for my family. After finally volunteering to chaperone a field trip, it suddenly occurred to me that I had not done so since my son was in first grade - he just finished 5th. I knew only two of the parents!!!! It was a huge wake-up call. Elementary school is over, and I missed a lot of the experience. I have 385 vacation hours saved up from work. 385! It's time I used them.

Posted by: genesis [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:41 AM

Oh, and when are you going to take up PP on his home poker tournament challenge? I think you could get some poker bloggers to make the trip pretty easily...
Prolly want to wait 'til you're a bit more rested though. :)

Posted by: sparky1234 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:43 AM

Hey, man, you gotta do what you gotta do. Thanks for letting us know, it was really considerate, but you didn't have to. Your blog, like a diary, is for you first, us last.

Best wishes.

Posted by: Tasha [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:51 AM

Wil. I must applaud you for standing up. You know I believe that our bodies will let us know how far physically and psychologically we can go. Don't sell your self short on anything. You and your family should come first and then everything else should fall into place. Just remember it is YOUR life. Screw everyone else that can see what you are doing. It matters none for them. Keep your head up and keep getting better. Good thoughts going your way. *peace*

Posted by: Shauna [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:52 AM

Hi Wil,

You have all my respect for making these decisions. And have you considered taking off the option of getting comments to your blog posts? It seems that this is one of the places where the real freaks come out. I enjoy reading your blog, and I could do without the peanut gallery posts (like this one that I'm writing!) and it might save you some added stress, as well.

Posted by: Liza [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:03 AM

Well said, Wil. I couldn't agree more with your decisions. I've fought the battle before of "hwo much do I say, especially about politics" when I found out my grandmother knew about my blog. But like you, I wouldn't be myself if I wasn't passionate about politics so I do it anyway.

Take care of yourself and I'm looking forward to the redesing of wwdn and the new stuff down the line.

Will you post links to your blogging.la entries when you write there, at least? Even though I'm not in LA I love reading about your ACME performances and all.

Posted by: Jason (xtra-rant.com) [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:16 AM

I'm well past 30, but spent Memorial Day weekend with friends at a con and came to the same conclusion as you, Wil -- too much work, not enough time to be with friends and have a life where I enjoy the things I do. I've begun to take a few small steps to enable me to get back to enjoying my life (including fiction writing, inspiration for which somehow disappeared about 4-5 years ago). Your post is just an affirmation that I need to make it happen for me even more than I thought.

I read your blog because you have a wonderful way with words and I love the stories you share here. Consider this comment a espresso shot of positive mojo for your decision, and may good things come of change [for both of us]. The universe rewards growth.

Posted by: Pat G [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:19 AM

I'm here for the writing, Wil, because you're very, very good at it. Given the number of comments posted that support you, I know I'm not alone. You have the ability to put us "in the moment" and I would be grieved to see that end.

I'm sorry that the whack-jobs and soul-suckers have exacted such a toll on you.
"Sometimes, a baby's gotta do what a baby's gotta do." -- Tommy, the Rugrats

So go do it, baby.

Posted by: Ignatz [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:21 AM

Wil, my favorite resolution is that you want to tell more stories. In my opinion, that is one of your greatest talents. You sure can tell a story. Good Luck.

Phil

Posted by: PhilMPU [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:22 AM

Check out http://www.enworld.org/showthread.php?t=135222 - a thread I started about your dropping the Dungeon column. ENWorld is the largest collection of 3E fans outside of Wizards own boards, and the responses are largely on the 'Damn, I wish he was still doing it' side.

I always enjoyed 'Wil Save' even when it was not specifically about D&D - it was what it was suppossed to be: a clever and witty writer who also happens to game, revealing bits about The Gaming Life, as it were.

I hope when things settle down and you get back some time for your personal life that you might reconsider another column for eithe Dungeon or Dragon.

Posted by: Wayne [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:22 AM

Wil, I haven't been commenting much here lately. I still drop by when I can, as I enjoy reading what you write. Life has just been too hectic and full of stuff to deal with. We had to put down one of our older cats this week, and it was very difficult. She'd been fighting an incurable respiratory illness for 3 years now, and then a new complication came along forcing us to make the decision we had been putting off.

Anyway, I just wanted to say that I'm still reading your blog, and will continue to do so. Change can be good. Go for it. :)

Posted by: Sue R [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:24 AM

Good for you. Your genuineness and dedication to your values is what keeps me reading.

Posted by: Tina [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:25 AM

As a long time blogger myself, I hear you on many levels. You are right to prioritize. I look forward to what that monkey pulls out of your brains when you and he get yourselves organized!

Write On!

Posted by: sillytilly [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:27 AM

Crapfark Wheaton is the lovefest enough? Not that you don't deserve it or anything, but I didn't see a single negative comment. You da man and all, and I hope you get everything as sorted as you wrote.

Still the best blog going man. Change what you want, but keep your soul in it and we'll be here.

Posted by: mcsey [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:32 AM

Wil, thank you for all you have shared with us via WWDN. Also, thank you for taking the time to think through what you need to do to take care of yourself and your family. If you don't take care of yourself, those of us who truly enjoy reading your writing won't have anything to read! So, in a purely selfish way, Thanks!

Posted by: DeNae [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:41 AM

Kudos to you -- actor, writer, husband, father. Now, go say hello to Creative Monkey. More than the Internets want to read what you have to create ...

Posted by: Lis [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:48 AM

Wil, I give you props. While I find your blog highly entertaining and informative, I totally understand about needs to put out substance without blood, and really prioritizing whats important to you. You are not a dancing monkey, but I appreciate that you do what so many of us can't or won't, and thats put yourself out there day after day for public consumption.

Keep it real, and keep yourself healthy and sane.

Posted by: akreventlov [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:57 AM

Will, you are awesome. While I don't necessarily agree with everything you plan to do with the "new" blog, I'm glad you're doing it for you. I think everyone needs to step back once in a while and see if their life is really where they want it to be. It's great that you're taking the time to do this now. It's one the things I respect most about you, because if memory serves me correctly, you've done this before. Maybe not in the same way, but a reassessment there was.

Anyway, not to freak you out, but last night I dreamed I was lost in a mall and you gave me directions to the movie theater. (I swear it's because one of the last things I saw before logging off last night was that you'd posted a new post and I fell asleep thinking I needed to read it in the morning.) But the whole giving direction thing seems to have come through, as you've reminded me to do something I've needed to do for a few months now. So thanks again for being honest and for being you. I wish you LOTS of mojo on this new road!

Posted by: bruingrl [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 08:00 AM

I'll try to stop chortling with glee long enough to type my me, too, too. It's just that I'm sitting over here in the "when I realized what I was doing to myself I had to change my life, and I don't give a flying fuck what you think about my leaving that 'good'-for-everyone-but-me work for this less-good-for-you-but-it-*is*-me work" section. And over here, we dance with delight when a newbie joins the ranks, or when a recidivist rejoins.

Don't take this the wrong way, please, but I am so very glad you got sick. And even happier that you're making yourself well again.

This is going to be fun. At least, when it isn't majorly painful...

Five years free, and still walking the edges, one monkey on each shoulder, both pulling my hair,

Honeycomb

Posted by: honeycomb [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 08:15 AM

Wil,

I have been lurking (and reading) your posts for probably the past year, and have enjoyed _most_ of what you have to say. From what I've read, I have surmised that you and I are probably on two ends of the social spectrum (although we are probably kindred souls in more ways than just the surface would indicate). I am a born-again Christian and while I tend to lean right politically, my ideology is probably more socialistic/libertarian (many people, including _Christians_ I have encountered, don't really seem to understand that Jesus was not a conservative, capitalist, but actually more of a socialist. If you have the desire, check out this passage from Acts to see what I mean: Acts 4:32-35).

Anyway, our differences, as I mentioned above, are probably more alike than not. This most recent post gave me a lot of insight into the man (and husband, father) that you are and has provided me with the motivation I need to set my priorities in order as well. I recently embarked on an exercise (through my church!) that challenged me to examine the story of my life and write that story down. We all have a story to tell, and it was through that process that I was awakened to where I had been, who'd I'd become and how I got where am I today (and provided me the opportunity to change what I dislike in myself). You mentioned in your post your desire to keep more of you for yourself and your family (and I applaud that effort). I am taking a bit of different approach, at least initially, in that I am expanding that story of mine with a plan to share it with family and friends in an effort to become more real both to myself and those around me. It is also my intention to have that story be the beginning for my own blog, to serve as an introduction to the world or who I am and how I came to this point in my life.

All that to say that I will continue to read, and be influenced by, the things you have to say. I look forward to continuing to get to know you a little better and hope to reveal more of myself through future comments on your site. Stay strong bro and know that there is a radical, born-again, bible-believing Jesus Freak out in the world praying for you and your family!!

Steve

Posted by: sps2003 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 08:16 AM

Wil,

I have all of about 15 regular readers of my blog, since it is really new and really only my friends read it. I was recently hit with the whole "definition of boundaries" problem on my blog. I have no personal problem with expressing my deepest emotions and thoughts in a public venue, and it is fairly invigorating to do such a thing. I also feel that people keep way too many things secret and to themselves. To quote a very unsettling line from Star Gate SG1, "That which whithers in the light of day, but thrives in darkness does not belong on the vine". However, there is also the measure of professionalism and public image. As I finish up my graduate career and move forward into the world of neurological research, I find that I need to be careful of what my public image is and how people perceive me. If you Google me, you get my website, which contains my blog. If future employers start reading about my motivation problems relating to the completion of my Ph.D., they may think twice about hiring me in the future. Anyway, I've had to change the way I blog. I've begun to password protect the posts that I want only my friends to read, and the rest is of a "professional" nature.

The bottom line of this long post, is that I agree with your decisions and I think it is by far the best thing for you. As much as people like us want to bear our souls so that others can learn from our experiences, it is still socially unacceptable to be so publicly open and it creates an air of unprofessionalism. Playing the game is a necessary evil in our society, and there is no escaping the necessity to conform for the good of you and your family. Many people support you Wil, and will continue to support you. The ultra phreaks that have latched onto your site because they need to live a vicarious life through you will go find another victim. My guess is that you will lose the phreak readership and gain more readership from the normalcy category. Do what is best for you, and the right people will support you. Thanks for blogging!

--Ari

Posted by: bermanism [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 08:27 AM

way to go, Wil!

Posted by: allie [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 08:59 AM

Good on ya, Wil!

I remember how much mono sucks and you deserve the rest, man! Get better!

905

Posted by: 905 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 09:09 AM

I've been involved in a couple of online ventures over the years, and I've had to pull the plug on each of them in due time. I know you're not pulling the plug, but the lesson I learned is the one that I think you're learning. You don't owe anyone who reads this blog a thing, and if readers think you do, that's they're problem and not yours.


I'm a casual reader of your blog, but this post reminded me of how cool it is to run something that people really relate to, but how lame it is that they feel like they're more a part of it than they really are. And how you somehow feel responsible for that.


Write what you want, make yourself happy - that's why you're doing this, right?

Posted by: foley [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 09:11 AM

Great post Wil...you laid it out there. I respect you...you Go Boy!!

Posted by: lois [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 09:11 AM

Hi Wil,
I have only commented on your site for about a year now. I am proud of you for putting yourself out there and sharing what you have of yourself and your family but if you need more privacy I don't blame you for taking it. We all need to draw the line on how far we can stretch in our lives. I know my limits and don't push myself. I am glad to read your blog and appreciate whatever it is you chose to share. So go out and garden, and walk the dog and live a "normal" life if that's what makes you happy. Those who care about you, your family and friends, will always be there to support you. As I don't know you personally I can only offer you my internet "buddy" support.
You have it.
Rosemary

Posted by: 1cutebird [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 09:23 AM

Nothing like a cleansing post on someone else's blog to remind you how much your own blog, job, family, side projects and other activities are burning you out.

I'm running LAVoice.org.
I'm holding down a day job, which ends with the grant supporting it in 5 weeks.
I'm jobhunting like mad.
I'm freelancing to support one of the jobs I'm pursuing.
I'm raising my 2 kids (mister mom from 5:30 until my wife gets home at 8:30, and then again in the a.m.)
I'm overseeing minor, but naggingly long-running home renovations.
I'm working feverishly on a side project that just had the friggin' afterburners lit on it.


I'm ... slowly losing my mind. Unfortunately, I don't yet have the luxury of pulling in *any* of these tentacles.

Good on ya, Wil. Pare it down to what really matters.

best,

mack

Posted by: factoid [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 09:26 AM

Gosh, I'm the bazillionth commenter, but maybe you'll get to this one.

When I first started reading your blog, I wasn't all that blog savvy, or internet savvy for that matter, but the following statement from this post is almost precisely what I thought:

"You know what I've learned about The Internets? It's full of freaks, and if a high-profile person bears too much soul, they really come out of the woodwork and latch on. It's a little creepy."

I thought this by just reading how often and personal some of the comments were regarding your posts.

It's wonderful that you are redirecting your energies towards your family. I can't say I wasn't bummed you aren't doing anymore conventions though, I was hoping to get my book signed at the SD ComicCon. :P That's okay, such is life.

Hope you get back to 100% soon.

Posted by: Sunflower [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 09:49 AM

Wil,
I strive not to be one of the freaks that come out of the wood work to creep you out (lucky for you that you live so far away hehe).

Seriously...you know you didn't start this blog caring about what others think about you,right. so that only thing that will remove you from my favorites list if i even suspect you are not being true to yourself....
Why not pull a Dave Chapelle and leave the country to reprioritize and define your direction. ( I recommend somewhere tropical instead of South Africa).

Heather

Posted by: heather [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 09:49 AM

Hi, Wil. Fantastic posting. My pragmatic monkey has been kicking my creative monkey's ass for several years now. The creative one creeps out now and then and tries for some more attention, but hasn't really gained much ground until about a month ago. I've started blogging, and like to think that I'm getting my 'voice' back, and also getting my writing back to where it used to (and should) be. I love that I can share stories and thoughts with people, and also that it keeps my creative juices flowing. There's also something to be said for feeling like part of a 'community'. As in, bloggers.

That said, I've already thought a bit about boundaries - and how those boundaries will impact what I'm posting - and it was great to read your thoughts on the same. Also, I'm trying to get into writing more and although I'm not nearly as project-heavy as you are, my head was going that way and it was good to be reminded of how it feels to be mentally worn out.

Finally...I had mono last year, and I feel for you. It took me quite a while to feel totally normal again, and be warned - you might feel a lot more tired than normal for quite a while. Get better and keep writing. I'll keep reading.

Posted by: Sandra [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 09:52 AM

Maybe your example will help some of us rethink our own overextensions. I hope so!

Posted by: namck [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 09:52 AM

Wil,
Us Monkeys were worried about you! I am so glad to see that you are feeling better. Your blog is like your home so you need to make it a comfortable place for you to rest. We are all just flies on the wall getting a little peek into your thoughts. I, for one, look forward to your political posts and poker too. You have a unique ability to write in a way that makes one care more about things because of your passion for the subject. You are a joy to read...what ever you decide to share. Now go back to bed and rest. YOu must be exhausted from that long post!

Posted by: Victoria [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 10:13 AM

Thanks Wil for everything. Congratulations on the new sense of awareness, it's amazing what happens when it hits you (and frankly I wish it would come to more people). You've got a lot of caring fans, and I think, if anything, that number is going to grow as a result of this post.



A-f'in-'men!


-jason

Posted by: jason [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 10:19 AM

I've just started reading your site, Wil. Good on you for standing up for yourself and for your family. Anyone who does not recognize that for the honorable thing it is should be promptly ignored.

Posted by: DigitalHamster [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 10:36 AM

Take the helm, Mr. Wheaton.

Posted by: Alex7000 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 10:37 AM

Wil - Great post. Your paragraph that starts with "There are so many things I want to do, and I havenít had time to do them." hits the nail on the head. I'm in the same boat and hate it...at least I'm not the only one fealing that way :)

Posted by: ericbrown97 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 10:48 AM

Wil - I wanted to express my support for your decision but found my own words were inadequate. Fortunately I found a quote that summed it up nicely.

Decisions are a way of defining ourselves. There comes a time in life when there is nothing else to do but go your own way. Where you are headed there are no trails, no paths, just your own instincts. --Sergio Bambaren

Posted by: MCCOWAN [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 10:58 AM

Amen

I have been following your blog for a long time, and it's always seemed like on certain issues you were holding back... It'll be good to see you let loose...

I hope this leads to more enjoyment of your blog, as at the end of the day, that's what it's there for.

Posted by: kris.browne [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 10:59 AM

Getting sick was one the best things that ever happened to me - I hope it can be for you too... I was out of action for about six months with Gallstones and subsequent surgery and liver complications. While I laid low - I completely reassessed my life and I am far more focused and clear thinking as a result, it was at this time that I read Just a Geek. Your journey through the "prove to everyone" phase was inspirational to me.

I would pay subscription to read this, screw people who say the ads are selling out - you owe them nothing. No-one owns you Wil, you are just one man with one hell of a blog...

Posted by: Joanna Neon [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 11:09 AM

I applaud your efforts to redefine your boundaries, I think it is important that we all take a step back on occasion and take an objective look at where we are and where we are headed and make the adjustments that we need to make.

As someone who has been profoundly touched by your openness and honesty I can say that I am greatful for your blog and your passions. Durring the painful time that you lost two dear family friends, believe it or not reading your words of remembrance helped me to finally mourn the loss of one of my pets as well. Something that for reasons I will not go into because of my limits, had not happened until I read your post almost two years later... I have never cried at something I have read like this. And I want to thank you because it gave me closure.

Also speaking as someone who is attempting to run their own blog in between life and living I am greatful to hear that you will be voicing your views and helping to get the truth and news out to the world. It seems that it is left up to the public and their talents to get the news out since the news has been cancled by the 5 leaders of the new orginizations. I too have been attempting to do so. Though as of late not with much success, life just seems to prevent it.

I look forward to seeing your new evolution, and am here to stay. Strange or not, crazy or not, I feel like I have connected to a digital friend, one who understands reality and honesty and life, and I like to think that I am correct in calling you a fellow blogger friend. I highly respect your work and appreciate your beliefes and goals. I want to wish you the best of luck and to say keep it up. I look forward to your continuing creativity and intelect.

Alex

Posted by: TNAlphaGeek1982 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 11:31 AM

Wil, I'm glad to hear you're feeling better. My pragmatic monkey (which, BTW, sounds like a kick ass name for a band!) has been all over my back lately too. Creativity has taken a backseat to "get the job done".

In any case, how can I resent the need someone else feels to take care of their family above other priorities? Please... if you were out running around and left Anne and the kids to fend for themselves - *then* I'd open the can of whoop ass on ya.

Family comes first, and rightly so. Don't let other short-sighted and arrogant people try to dissuade you otherwise. At the end of the day, your regrets aren't going to be "I really wish I'd gone to that convention", but "Damn, I really wish I'd been around more when the kids were still kids...."

You are a kick-ass writer, a kick-ass actor and a totally kick-ass dad.

Posted by: GeminiLove [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 11:34 AM

Awesome. Another thought is to do what Dooce.com has done. She's turned off comments altogether and I know her site continues to get new readers daily. It's easier to filter email, and you have a way to track people who contact you. Dooce.com also makes money from ads, but they are so unobtrusive that you hardly notice them. It's classy.

Set your hard boundries. I bet you'll find that it really helps de-clutter your mind. Best of luck. I'll be back, regardless.

Posted by: Almost Lucid (Brad) [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 11:47 AM

I'm not sure if a lot of us go through this particular change because it has something to do with being in our 30s or just possibly tuning into whatever message the universe is broadcasting, but I know a lot of people who are having similar epiphanies at this moment. I think people are starting to really want to just slow down, to refocus on the important things in life. The fact that you're refocusing your life is just another step on the path that we're all walking. People who don't understand that just aren't there yet.

Some of us do 'get it,' Wil. We'll be here.

Posted by: Crystal Sarakas [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 11:51 AM

I am so proud of you.

Do what is best for you and your family, baby. I'm not going anywhere, but you knew that.

Remeber that is it your blog and you get to do and say whatever you want in it because it is yours.

Posted by: Cookie [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 11:56 AM

Good for you Wil! Focus on what's important in your life and keep to your boundries. Those of us who understand you are a human being will still be here to read what you have to say. The rest of the creeps aren't worth your time. ;>

Posted by: kriss [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 11:58 AM

Thank you for letting us know and letting us into your life. It was a mild curious notion that led me here but your honesty and passion for things has kept me an avid reader.

The best to your family, yourself and the monkey boys. :)

Posted by: Squeki [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 12:00 PM

Gee, and I thought your Blog couldn't get any better! I wait with anticipation! As for the cause? Sometimes it takes a major happening to come to these understandings. It can happen to anyone... Let a beast grow beyond control and no-one wins. Glad to hear you are worrying about yourself and your family... the rest of us can simpy enjoy what you share, and really, we have no right to ask for more.

Posted by: Glyn Evans [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 12:03 PM

You go Wil.

As a father who also struggles at times, I understand where you are coming from. Partly because I understand you so much through your writing, I can understand why you need to pull back or reorganize. There is part of me that feels melancholy and that we are losing access to part of you, but I understand.

BTW, I think it's hilarious that all these years I've followed you in your journey away from Wesley, you've finally been able to say it so clearly:

"it's really time to just get the fuck over Star Trek, nerds"

Posted by: Tom [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 12:06 PM

Wil,

Do what ya need to man... I ain't going nowhere. :)

-Gregory

Posted by: Gregory [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 12:37 PM

We were raised by television to believe that we'd be millionaires and movie gods and rock stars -- but we won't. And we're learning that fact.

I've discovered that the chance of becoming fabulously rich by working insanely hard is similar to hitting the lottery. The chances are better than most lotteries but the ticket price is very expensive. I still think it is worth giving it a shot when you are young, but it that ticket price isn't worth damage to your family or health. At some point you just have to settle into the long slow steady game.

Slide.

Don't jump into your newly reduced obligations too quickly. You aren't well yet even though you may feel better. We don't want to you to relapse.

Posted by: Alan [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 12:39 PM

I've enjoyed reading your blog for the short time I've known about it and I will continue to do so. You can get burnt out doing anything; it's especially bad when you get burnt out doing something you enjoy... you stop enjoying it. Enjoy your life, post when you can and we'll still be around to read it.

Posted by: Tank [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 12:55 PM

GO FOR IT!!!

Can't wait to read the political stuff with no punches pulled -- that should be great.

Absolutely the right decisions on all counts, and I would especially go for the "dates with your wife part."

Good luck and best wishes.


Charlie L
Portland, Oregon
[email protected]

The Days of Decision are coming: We are frogs begin slow-cooked, and by the time we realize the water is boiling, we won't have the strength to jump out of the pot. Keep an eye out for your "jumping moment" and we'll all jump together. FROG FREEDOM!!!

The Republicans in power have lied and innocent people died.
The Republicans in power have stolen and given to their rich friends, leaving just an IOU for our kids to pay off.
The Republicans in power have cheated and claim they are the "moral" ones.
We must flush all Republicans out of power in '06 and '08.
Take back American Democracy. Don't vote Republican.

Posted by: CyberChas [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 01:03 PM

Wil, I'm happy for you and your family, and I totally understand, respect and appreciate that you have found out something about yourself that will make your life better. As well as those around you.

I love reading your blog, and I'd love to read any fiction you may possibly write.

It's really cool, because you're so honest, and it makes me connect with what you say on a whole different level.

If only the world could be more honest... *sigh*

Best wishes to you, Wil.

Posted by: Final_Frontier [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 01:24 PM

Write what you can (and what you love) when you can, Wil. And if you don't feel comfortable writing about family stuff here, I hope you'll include at least a few bits about it in your books from time to time.

Because I've got to say, some of the stuff you've shared here about your kids, and your relationship with your wife, has been among the best stuff I've read online. Anywhere. It reminds me that 100% of the people in the world are not complete dorks, jerks, assholes, or Republicans. (No matter how much they might like us to believe otherwise.)

Posted by: Michael [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 01:33 PM

Bravo! I went through a similar epiphany, when realized that many of the "great opportunities" in life were usually just the chance to use my sweat and tears to help someone else achieve their dreams, at the expense of my own. I decided I want my son to grow up seeing a man who lives for his dreams, and who works to keep both the Creative Monkey and the Pragmatic Monkey working hard and playing well together.

Posted by: dansroka [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 01:35 PM

You're the best, Wil. Thank you for doing what is right for you and reminding me why I enjoy reading your blog. It's not just interesting, it's a picture of someone doing this life thing right- maybe not 24/7, but you always seem to get things back on track.

Good luck and take care.
Indy

Posted by: indyjane [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 01:37 PM

As a long-time reader and infrequent commenter, I for one applaud your decision. Your family and your self have to come first. Having you share of yourself is a privilege we enjoy, not a right, and anyone who thinks differently is an ass, plain and simple.

As Polonius said "And this above all else: to thine own self be true." Good advice (there's another Will/Wil who had a way with words...).

Posted by: RobertS [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 01:39 PM

I echo all the good sentiments above and below my post. Read the negative, contemplate if there's any truth, if not, toss it. If there is then you are all the more better for being teachable.

I've just recently found and started reading your site. I don't really have that much different to say than what most people write already. I just wanted to let you know that you have one more person supporting you. Hell, I like George W. and I still read your site.

It's taken awhile for you to get where you are. It will take awhile to get to where you want to be.

:It's all about the baby steps." :)

Posted by: Tenga [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 01:48 PM

Wil,

I have been a lurker for a long time and have enjoyed your writing. In fact, your personal viewpoint has helped me a couple of times. My eldest son just finished kindergarten and your remembrance of the first day of school of one of your kids helped me overcome the apprehension I had as I watched him drive off on the bus that first day. And I lost my 16 year-old cat, Feynman, about a year ago and empathized with you over your difficulties.

I do not always agree with you but I appreciate the passion and thought you give to your positions. I just wanted to thank you for them and second the sentiment of a majority of the comments posted here: Do what you must for yourself and your family. If you can share some of your talent with us, great. But if you can't, don't think twice about it. Those kiddos and your wife are the priority, as is your well being.

Kindest Regards,

Michael B.

Posted by: starmanmwb [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 01:56 PM

Woo-hoo, go Wil! You're doing what you need to do and I applaud you. Best wishes.

-Laura

Posted by: Laura [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 02:13 PM

As a first time poster and a fan of Wil's non-TV ventures I have to say reading this blog was nice. Stigma is such a pain sometimes. It's great that you are cutting back. The game industry and the fans can be so thankless at times. Probably why I focus on my family more these days than writing RPGs. Kudos!

Posted by: DarkForce [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 02:20 PM

Cool Beans.

Posted by: [OGzr]Talon [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 02:49 PM

Hi Wil, I totally support your decision to spend more time with your family and do the things that make you happy. I only have a minor little whine. I hope you won't really move all your Los Angeles specific stuff to blogger.la. I live in San Diego and I really appreciate hearing about your plays and booksignings, even though I can't usually attend. At least knowing about them gives me the option. I have limited time each day on the internet and it would be really nice to go to one source to find out not only what you're blogging about but what you're doing locally. I hope you'll reconsider this decision. Thanks! Tracey in Santee (San Diego)

Posted by: Tracey [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 02:53 PM

Gotta say I love the message today. As someone who has the same two monkeys battling in my brain (currently my creative monkey is beating the everloving shit out of my pragmatic monkey), I can definitely sympathize with the struggle.

Posted by: TheMonkey [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 03:37 PM

Sorry to hear that you're leaving behind the Dungeon writing. I was actually contemplating writing previously asking if the articles could be added to your blog...if that was at all possible. And now it is too late.

First, I want you to know that within my D&D group, your column was the best thing about Dungeon and it was the first page we turned to as soon as we pulled it off the shelf at the newsagency. Actually, if it wasn't for the rather cool posters of late, we probably wouldn't have bothered buying it at all, your articles made it worth the purchase price.

Secondly, anyone who bitched about you cancelling your obligations due to glandular fever(infectious mononucleosis) are ignorant individuals who have no idea what this illness can do if not treated seriously. Check it out people, do a google search, check out the medical database on your local library's website, it will tell you that if ignored this illness will kill. Is that what you want for a man we supposedly love and respect??

Thirdly, I want to assure you that the whole Internet communities are not loonies. The Internet does give those that will normally sit in dark rooms cutting letters out of newspapers and magazines for annoymous correspondence a whole world to vent their spleen in, but they are not even the majority of those out there. Ironically, I believe the Internet makes Lurkers out of the normal person and makes bold and outgoing the weirdos.

Oh, and before my boss yells that I better be doing some work....have you noticed that Piazo are selling poker kits? I'm wondering if old D&D players don't become poker players??

Good luck on the new focus and I look forward to reading your blog in the future.


Posted by: miztres [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 03:45 PM

Thank you for saying what you feel, Wil. I honestly was hoping, while you were sick and saying that you wanted to re-evaluate, that you would post this series of conclusions. Isn't it ironic that it takes NOT doing some things to realize that you are NOT OBLIGATED in any universal sense to doing those things? You are a real person, with a real life, with a real family and soul to nourish. I'm so happy for you! Let the critics go the way of the dodo ;)

Posted by: Running2Ks [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:10 PM

This is a good blog, Wil. It's been fun reading for the last few years. I hope the 'new' incarnation of wwdn will be equally entertaining - but if not, so what? You don't owe any of us anything, man. Good luck to you.

Posted by: ThePuppetHead [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:11 PM

More power to ya Uncle Willie!

The cool people will understand. The ones who don't understand can go get fornicated.

We don't want to read your blog if you have to wade through shit or become somebody else's bitch in order to pay the bills or provide entertainment for internet wierdos.

We like a Happy Willie who gives us Sage advice, not a burnt out Willie. Nobody needs a burnt Willie.

You cant keep everybody happy. If the people that you are trying to keep happy are Jerkoffs who don't appriciate your efforts and think you belong to them, then Kick 'em to the curb.
You gotta keep you and your family happy first.


I read your blog because I think you are a cool guy and a great writer with a nice perspective on the world. I don't read because you used to be that young guy on StarTrek who owes me something because he's a celebrity.

Posted by: Dingo_Dorg [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:12 PM

It's about fucking time WIL!

You give give give without the realization that eventually, over time, it takes a personal toll in some way, shape or form. In this case, it was your health. You have to put YOU first. And I'm glad you figured that out before it was too late.

You should never have to compromise your opinions or beliefs either. Who gives a shit what others say about it. Do what you have to do, say what you have to say. And never feel bad about it.

You know in your heart what the right path for your life is. I've always felt everything happens for a reason. Each of us are destined for our own level of greatness. And "greatness" is in the eye of the beholder. What one person sees as great, may not be great at all, but it only matters what YOU think, not what the masses think.

I feel like I'm rehashing shit here, but I hope you read it anyhow.

I think that we read your blog because you are a WHOLE person. Very real, intelligent and genuine without all the bullshit. SERIOUSLY... Where else can you find that on the "cold, heartless internet" but right here, at WWdN????

Wil, you have no idea what you mean to us. Speaking for myself, you've been a part of my life since I was 13 years old. I'll be 33 next month (days before your 33 B-Day). That's 20 years of Mr. Wil Wheaton somewhere in my brain. I think that's pretty cool. (You may think it sounds wacko, in a way, I agree, IT IS!!!)

But this blog gives people like myself a way to THANK YOU for what you've given to us. Your lifes work has personally given me alot to think about (i.e. what I really want from my life), and that's the gift that keeps on giving. You can't put a price on something like that. And YOU did that, even if you don't realize it.

That "weird ass" dream I had the other night starring Mr. Wheaton showed me how truly happy you are. You have a wonderful life Wil, and I think you know how lucky you truly are. Most of us in this world are searching for what you have, and I'm grateful you've found a way to share a glimpse of that with us, here. SO THANK YOU WIL!

Thank you for creating this blog Wil. I know it won't last forever, as nothing ever does. So we will read and enjoy, and contribute for as long as we can. Live for today, and not for tomorrow.

:) Kel

Posted by: kelsquatch [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:24 PM

Iíll resist the temptation to make the appropriate comment from Misery, because I do know there are quite a few strange people out here in Internetland...Christ Iím out here and they donít tend to come much stranger than me.

Anyhow, good luck, but donít try to hard with the not baring your soul aspect of this revamp. Paul Philips might be the beeís knees when it comes to business, he might be the best poker player since Doc Holliday, but Iíve never heard of him as a writer. Thatís what good writers do; they bare their soul and tell things to strangers that they would never tell a loved one. This might make you vulnerable in so many ways, not least to the pain of a cutting word, but it can also be your strength.


Phil

Posted by: Phil_B [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:33 PM

Good for you! We all need to re-evaluate our priorities and our lives once in a while. Keeps us growing and evolving.

I for one am looking forward to reading more political posts. I read several in the archives when I first started coming here, and I typically agree 100% with your views. But you have a way of expressing those views much better than I can. Plus you do a better job of keeping up with what's going on in the political arena than I do, so I always learn something from you.

I'll miss the more personal stuff, as I think those were some of the most moving and eloquent posts (especially the actor vs. the writer audition entry). But I completely respect and understand your reasons for pulling away from those.

I'll even miss the local stuff even though I'm in the East. I liked hearing how the ACME shows were going, so I guess I'll be visiting blogging.la more often.

But as so many others have already stated, it doesn't matter what I want you to post, this is your blog and you have every right to say whatever you want to say on it. That's what freedom of speech is all about, so enjoy it while it lasts!

I do hope you won't turn off comments, though, because even if you never read what I comment, I like knowing that I've gotten to applaud your writing, or ask a question about a post. And I like hearing what others think. I've followed many of their links and found several other blogs I like because of your comments section. You've helped build a real community, one that represents all that the internet could and should be. Thanks for that.

Didn't mean to take up so much space, especially when all I really wanted to say was I respect your decision and I'll definitely keep being a loyal reader and posse member.

Posted by: sonjaag [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:34 PM

All the changes you're planning are great and
I am very happy to hear more about your political views.
How can you hold back? you shouldn't.
I really enjoy when you do actually say something about the shit that's going on.
Please do not hold back on that sort of stuff!

Great blog always.

Posted by: Kjarka [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:36 PM

Wow !!! Wil, if you're reading this, that is the most heartfelt blog entry I've seen in a long time (by anyone!! EVER!!!!). I'm very impressed! Bravo on the soulsearching, babe! I won't say I told you so (lol) but.... (just teasing) I actually had the same epiphany last year and can relate. Yaye, I have something in common with a celeb: stranger than fiction!

Anyhoo, welcome to the self-awareness side of the world. The group of so-called hippy-dippy people who have learned to be in touch with themselves. Cause after all: if you lose yourself, you are nothing. You can quote me on that one. hahaha ;-)

As for people getting pissed at you? Well... I am personally just as blunt as you are (mind you: I have more of a potty mouth... lol), and wasn't offended by any of that rant. I completely understand..... So you're stuck with me as a reader. Sorry. haha :-p But if people are pissed? Let 'em be pissed. Some people out there just wander around SEARCHING for reasons to be pissed, really. But they'll never find happiness.

But I think you just did!!! :-) Way to go!

Posted by: Veggie_gurl [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:55 PM

Hey Wil,

Good for you.

Not to knock the personal stuff that you blogged in recent times, but I miss the stories, the politics, etc.

We all need our personal space and I know from personal experience how hard it is to work through.

You are doing the right thing, but it's a journey and you need to make sure you are keeping on the right track at regular intervals or you find yourself right back where you were when the mono hit. Again, personal experience talking.

You are doing the right thing.

Posted by: David Sandey [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 04:56 PM

Dear Wil,
It took me nearly 50 years of my life to realize what you have discovered in your thirties. God bless you and your family and as our Irish ancesters would say...good on ya.

John Gregory

Posted by: johnboy [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:02 PM

It's always funny to read political ramblings, especially from Americans. I look forward to much laughing. And thanks for talking poker so much, you inspired me to learn how to play. I'd love to play against you one day.

Good luck with everything Wil. I'll always be here to watch your next adventure unfold.

Posted by: Zkid [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:05 PM

Good for you! I read your blog every once in a while just to see what's up with a person whose acting I enjoy, but this is the first time I've ever commented. If people do get angry and end up leaving, you are right that they are not the type of people you want hanging around your blog obsessing over you.

Congrats on getting your life and priorities in order for yourself! Also, just my humble opinion here, but I don't think you're a "has-been" at all. I think you are a very talented young man, both in your writing and your acting. I still expect to see you again up on the big screen and on the small one.

All the best,

~Shane

Posted by: Shane_S [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:47 PM

Ain't it odd how people can be horny hounds at the gate? Sometimes, you gotta tell people to kiss the underside of your taint. I'm glad you finally did.

Posted by: Kam [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 05:59 PM

Good for you. 'nuff said.

Posted by: darla8855 [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:05 PM

Sounds like you're doing well, Wil.

Shepherding your energies is good.
Keep a light hand on the stick, don't expect to be able to change everything at once. Just take it easy, mate. Drift it, and forgive yourself for when you lapse.

Hang in there, mate. We're rooting for you.

Posted by: Bog [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:13 PM

This is the best blog post that I have read in ages! - and I don't always read long posts :D

Posted by: Slightly Off Kilter [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:26 PM

God, do I know those monkeys. Only mine have wings, and blue faces, like in Oz.

Posted by: Karl Elvis MacRae [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:42 PM

God, do I know those monkeys. Only mine have wings, and blue faces, like in Oz.

Posted by: Karl Elvis MacRae [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:42 PM

Wil,
Good luck to you as you reorganize your life. I think we all can understand what you are going through. My thoughts and prayers are with your family always. Your fans will stick behind you no matter what.

Jennifer Oestreich
www.cowbeverly.com

Posted by: Cowbeverly [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 06:59 PM

You deserve the best in life. Taking care of your family, nurturing your creativity and health are the most important; forget the small minded people who only think of "appearances" or "what others think of them". You came to Austin, Texas and attended Linucon and did a talk at the Alamo Drafthouse. You are gracious, giving, kind, and obviously love your wife and family. Thanks for coming to our city and giving of yourself. Now, take time for those that matter most. The memories you left here are imprinted on the hearts and minds of your fans, who, if they are true fans, will wish you good fortune in whatever you choose to do.
P.S. You ran out of "Just a Geek" at the Alamo, so all who wanted to didn't get a book. I would love to help with the fundraiser and would buy several copies if you have any left, at the fundraiser price. Good luck.

Posted by: Scioli [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:07 PM

I'm very proud of you, Wil. It's like watching one of my kids grow up--I hope that doesn't sound patronizing because I don't mean it to be. You make me smile. You go, Wil!

Posted by: magdala [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 07:12 PM

Good luck to you, Will. You deserve it after all you have worked for in your life.
I will admit my husband and I will miss reading your wonderful columns in Dungeon. To be honest your column was one of the reasons we resubscribed to the magazine again, we thought it was a great column by the way.
I wish you continued luck on your writting and acting. I hope to see you in something that is fitting to your talent.
So before I go picking up my living room that has D&D Mini's attaking Transformer toys, I want to thank you for shareing your thoughts on the 'net

Posted by: Lady Arcane [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 08:19 PM


You're making the right moves.

You sound like you know it in your gut.

Let me know when the podcast is ready and I will promote it and air it... gladly.

--AJ

Posted by: AJ [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 08:44 PM

Mr Wheaton,

I understand and fully support your decision. Though I don't necessarily agree with you in everything you write I do respect it and respect the fact you can be open and honest about who you are and what you think.

I've recently had the same look inside myself and realized that my life was also out of my hands and I needed to get it back. It usually does take something drastic to make you see, which can be scary as well as life affirming.

So anyone that has a problem with what you have to do I have to agree with you that it's on them. The only real way to stay true to yourself is do the things you feel you need to do not what everyone else wants or thinks or feels you need to do. They don't walk in your shoes so they have no right or room to judge.

With that said, I will continue to read your blog and say in advance a big thank you for being you.

Posted by: itty bitty [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 09:30 PM

Umm, I have been grappling with this all day and I have decided that I should post my feelings. First off, I don't mean any disrespect but after 243 some odd "we love you man" posts I feel that there should be at least one counterpoint post.

First off, I have been reading your blog for over a year. Can I be TOTALLY honest for a second?? I think you complain a little too much about being overworked. We all work and most of us get up at 5 or 6am and don't get home until 6 or 7pm. We have no time to "start a garden" or any of those things you mentioned, either. It's just called being in your 30-40's and paying the mortgage. I didn't see my sons first steps, hear his first words or get to go to his kindergarten graduation. I was working.

Who else our age gets to play poker all of the time and go to conventions where people clamour for a chance to meet us and get our autograph? Sounds like a terrible life.

Could we being seeing a little of the same attitude that you write about when you were younger and having some success on TV and in films? It just seems to me (and again, I mean no disrespect) that just as soon as you get a little money in your pocket and some notoriety, you start backing away from doing what got you there. May I make a suggestion? I say, redouble your efforts! Strike when the iron is hot! This is what you have been working so hard for for the last few years and you're finally seeing some fruit for all of your work. Post MORE on the blog. Write MORE columns. Do MORE conventions. Don't back away now or you run the risk of losing it again.

Again, I wouldn't be here if I didn't love your writing and I didn't think you were worth my time to write this opinion. This is exactly the advice that I would give a good buddy that had worked hard for his masters degree and was hesitating when it was time to take the big promotion. This is what you've worked for....go get it!

Posted by: ignatz [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 10:47 PM

Silly RedHat geeks, thinking they're the center of the universe. I mean, you had MONO for heaven's sake!

I enjoy your stories, and while I've enjoyed reading what you've shared about your personal life I am COMPLETELY respectful (and understanding!) of your desire for more privacy. I usually read via livejournal, came in to it after your "early" stints on TechTV's Screen Savers--yeah, yeah: "long time reader, first time commenter " blah blah blah ;)--and just want to let you know that I'll enjoy reading whatever you care to share, 'cuz my enjoyment is as much (if not more!) in how you tell us things as in what it is specifically that you're telling. :)

Who knows, now that I "broke down" and registered in typekey I might even comment again someday. ;)

Posted by: Kuroshii [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 10:57 PM

Hey, Will. As one of your LA readers (come on, only 100?), I want to let you know that there are a lot of people who car about you and would rather see you healthy and happy than burnt out.


I really don't want to sound like one of those weird people, I'm just an aspiring actor who has appreciated your work on screen since I was a kid, and on the page (virtual and paper) more recently. Sometimes I feel like that weird guy, though, because I know more about your life than some of my friends, though you've never heard of me. I loved seeing you on stage at ACME. When I can afford to, I want to start taking classes there. I was playing poker before I read about it on your site, but now I want to play at a secret underground tournament, and maybe with The Wil himself someday.


My point is simple. You inspire people. You've done more with your life than most people twice your age, and you've shared your successes (and tragedies) with the world.


Thanks. Feel better, and take care of yourself and your family first.


TR

Posted by: Travis Richey [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 11:29 PM

I liked you when you played Gordie and Wesley way too many years ago for my liking (I'm 33 going on 80). I've come to love you reading your blog - getting to know you through WWdN, I feel like you're one of the buds I used to drink with back in my 20s (except that, no offense, they were all Young Republicans). You're a mensch.

This is easily the best blog post I've read anywhere in the last month. Your new priorities are right and true (especially in the knowing that you need them validated by no one but yourself).

"A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do"
John Wayne

Posted by: ExHack [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 8, 2005 11:44 PM

This is my first visit here, but i read that entire entry.
I like to read blogs on the internet to find out what other people in the world enjoy, dislike, think about, experience, etc. People interest me, but I don't expect anything from them just because I read their blog. And people shouldn't from you either.
If they get upset, f**k 'em. Live your life, enjoy your family, do what's best for you.

After reading that one entry I will come back and read again. You're articulate and interesting... and I look forward to your political views being expressed. It seems like most of America felt/feels the need to censor themself from saying anything against the President and his administration, but more need to speak out. I am also worried, angered, frustrated by things right now. I love your analogy of America at a bar... perfect!

Posted by: stormcloud [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 12:02 AM

"We can't tear out a single page of our lives, but we can throw the whole book in the fire." -George Sand

"Life is a merry-go-round, by going around in circles, we find stuff we missed the first time around." - 'The Woodsman'

Posted by: emily [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 12:30 AM

Speaking your mind is what makes you human Wil and makes reading your blog fun to read. Even if the posts are going to be a bit shorter, who cares? Just keep it real and speak your mind like you've alyays have. You deserve a time out. Get back to being YOU, and frak all those who think it's all about them.

Just my 2-cents

Posted by: MacBros [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 04:42 AM

Good on ya, Wil!

To say I disagree with your political leaning would be an understatement, but I respect you as an intelligent person and believe you have the right to say what you want to.

Posted by: Thomas [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 04:56 AM

I don't comment much, but I can understand every bit of what you're saying. I have the opposite problem and have decided to rectify the situation by being more creative and giving. The point of this post is, however, to say that I understand and support you. I read this blog because I feel like we could be friends if we knew each other. I like that there is someone out there with a similar head on his shoulders, and I particularly like that you have decided to stop pulling punches! I don't like what Bush is doing either and look forward to reading your opinion. Good luck.

P.S.- There is a trading card game out there called Vs., if you haven't seen it. It uses characters from both Marvel and DC comics and uses multiple cards based on the different incarnations of said characters. Its a lot of fun and makes for a lot of cool conversation with younger people who may not have ever seen Sinestro as a member of the Green Lantern Corp. What I'm getting at is that it might be a good bonding game if your kids like comic books.

Posted by: Christopher Arthur [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 05:20 AM

Wil,

I'm glad you did a little house cleaning to clear the plate a little bit. It becomes difficult to be the type of father and husband that you obviously desire to be if stretched too thin.
I would like to tell you one thing about your blog you did not know; how it affected me.
I read your site for about a year, checking in daily, not in some perverted desire to cyber-stalk, but because I saw a guy about my own age trying to develope as a writer, something I've always wanted to do. Seeing you struggle and succeed at it gave me the motivation to write my first screenplay, which I did send to your agent, as you were the inspiration behind the lead character. Although the funding fell through on that project, I continued to write and am now working on the third, which is pre-sold to a young director/producer here in Houston. Without your guideance, it may never have happened.
Even though we disagree politically, I'm glad you're the you that you are; keep it up.

Posted by: jayep [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 06:10 AM

Sounds like a practical approach that will serve you and your fans. A suggestion: James Lileks (www.lileks.com) has a similar blend of family and politics (he leans with you own the former, opposite you on the latter), with as many tangents and categories as you have, and he's created something called a "screedblog" to go with his family/pop-culture/general-interest blog. Permits selective browsing. That structure may hold some value for you as well.

Keep getting better, ignore the idiots, hone your craft, take care of your family. The rest will settle into place.

Posted by: AccordionDad [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 06:51 AM

Go for it Wil!

I always enjoy reading any entry that shows up in my feed reader.

Posted by: spi [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 06:58 AM

Wil,

I liked your columns in Dungeon, and I spoke up for you on the paizo messageboards (when so many others did not)...I'll be sorry to see you go.

Having said that, I hope you don't mind overly much that I voted for GWB...twice. Would do so again if it were constitutionally permissible. Alas. Your God-given right to disagree is fully respected, though. Cherish your ideals. Best wishes for you, your career, and your family.

LG

Posted by: GILDERSLEEVE [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 07:21 AM

Great blog, Wil. Ya, it's tough to set boundaries and stay out of the "come watch me take a shit" mode. It's liberating to go online and say whatever you want, whether it's about politics, personal stuff, or whatever, to people you know you're never going to meet IRL. But I'm not a celebrity like you are, dude.

Keep those posts coming!

Posted by: Randy [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 07:50 AM

Wil

As Oscar Wilde said, "the first duty in life is to oneself."

For what it's worth you have my support in whatever you do and I'll still have this site on my bookmarks.:-)

Posted by: latinobloke [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 08:17 AM

Good for you Wil!
I've been lurking on your blog for what seems like ages. I thought you would like to hear my support. Family always comes first.

Jason

Posted by: C.Monty [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 09:22 AM

Good for you Wil!
I've been lurking on your blog for what seems like ages. I thought you would like to hear my support. Family always comes first.

Jason

Posted by: C.Monty [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 09:22 AM

I think the first thing you need to do is buy some tranquilizers for those damned monkeys. Monkeys can be the suck sometimes, especially if you are getting squeezed by both of them.

Take back your life, and feed your monkeys some bad dates.

Seriously, though, good for you.
You need to take charge. It is, after all, your life.

Jorge

Posted by: Jorge [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 09:32 AM

good for you wil,
i will still be readig your site(smile)
i doint see how people can be so needy
clawing grabbing poking until you just wish
flanders was dead.
i do not expect anything from you. i am
geratful when you chose to make thoughts
and experienes availible to us in a written media.
anything you chose to do, youll have my good thoughts sent your way.
ROCK!
C.

Posted by: carthies [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 09:39 AM

You really do give too much of yourself away on this site. Good luck in everything you do!

Posted by: DeeDee [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 11:10 AM

Wil,

All I have to say is good for you. I'm very happy for you that this illness provided you with the necessary time to step back and take a breath. I've been reading your blog for years now and the one thing that I've always respected about you is your candidness and your honesty. You provide hope to other artists and geeks that anything is possible. Your level-headed and in no way a "dick." Don't worry about the shmucks in the world that get mad because you didn't kiss their ass today. There are many more fans like me that respect what you do and appreciate you sharing your life. Take care and God bless.

Jeff

Posted by: Jeff [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 11:12 AM

Wil,
As 200 other people have already said, this is your blog; write whatever you are comfortable with. I've always enjoyed the stuff about your personal life, but on the other hand, I've been thinking for a while now that someone needs to talk to you about boundaries. Sorry about slipping into jargon. I'm a caseworker with a mental health agency.

I would love to read more political posts. I would also like to read about your gaming experiences as in the Wil Save column.

Take care of yourself and your family.

Lee

Posted by: kc_gamer [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 12:27 PM

Hey Wil,

I have been lucky enough to own a computer so I can be a part of your website. I have always been proud to be what you could say a member of WWDN. After what I just read I have never been more proud to be part of it. I have said this before, and I will say it again, you are one damn good guy! Actually, I believe I said it a little different last time, but the way my memory has been latley, I'll be dang if I can remember it. I enjoy reading your website more than you will ever know.

When I first found out who you were from your movie "Stand By Me", I said to myself that is one hell of a kid. You took the floor with that movie. I watch that movie every chance I get, which isn't hard for me to do because I own two copies of it. It is over all my favorite movie of any. If people are so blind to see you are a human just like the rest of us, then I say to hell with them.

To know where you stand is one thing that will get you through life much easier. Whatever changes you make to this website is your business and if there are people who have a problem with that, they need to stand in line to get a one way ticket out of here. I respect your boundries 100% and you can rest asure whatever you do I will be here for the long haul. You are # 1 Wil, and do not ever let anyone make you think any different. I hope you are feeling much better! I've kept you in my thoughts every day. The best kind of best to You, Anne, Ryan, and Nolan!! Oh yeah, The best to Ferris also....which might I add if one good looking dog!

Posted by: JCade [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 12:40 PM

Wil -

You gotta do what you gotta do. I'll certainly keep reading.

Posted by: Moop [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 12:44 PM

Rock on dude and

Fire for effect!

Posted by: Banzai [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 12:46 PM

That's great Wil. Whatever you need to do is fine, we'll all keep reading. If people have a problem with that then screw 'em.

And about the political stuff. thats wonderful. We need more passionate people like you to be letting their voices be heard. Every little rant can potentially help. If we can get a even a dozen people to speak their minds then maybe just maybe we can save our country.

Best wishes to you and your family.
-Cara

Posted by: Cara [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 01:04 PM

Hey wil...

Priorities are important (even if I don't agree with all of them **cough** pollitics **cough**), and setting them always helps.

The WPBT thanks you for the well-wishes during our crazy weekend in Vegas. You'll have to join us for the next one. What's better than 70 poker-playing bloggers in Sin City!?!?!? I suppose you've been reading just some of the insanity.

And remember, there's a standing offer to join the list on contributors over at Up For Poker :-)

Posted by: CJ [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 01:10 PM

*delurks*

I'll echo the sentiments of "Good for you."

Do what you thinks best, and people will either follow or not. Either way it doesn't matter, because this is your place and yours alone. What you say goes, and if people expect more than that, well they can kiss your ass, and mine, too. ;)

Posted by: Nayir [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 01:15 PM

To Ignatz: Cat Stevens sang a song about you. It wasn't complimentary.

To Wil: Remember Polonius's advice to Laertes. Feel free to ignore those whose priorities are different from your own.

Posted by: magdala [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 02:10 PM

Just one comment in a million. Kudos Wil. Do whatever you like and to hell with anyone else. It's your life.

Posted by: Jackie [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 02:49 PM


Do what ya gotta do, Wil.

Some of your best writing comes from baring your soul, it's like writing assembly instead of C++.
I'll miss it when it's gone, but if the freaks are
coming out of the Spooky Woods trying to steal your life/identity/whateva, definately time to defend yourself!

Posted by: technofiend [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 03:42 PM

i highly encourage you to rant AND rave about the lunatic "running" our country (right into the ground). here's a bit of frightening fuel for the fire: http://www.dailykos.com/story/2005/6/8/1955/65617

it is so orwellian in design and execution. i can't help but to think that THAT was intentional.

/$.02

Posted by: crabcake [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 03:56 PM

Wil,
I fully understand and support your decision.

As someone who has received what you've given, I must thank you. The wonderful nuggets you put out there are wonderful to receive.

Your entry reminds me of something a counselor once told me. I mentioned an english proverb "A full cup must be carried steadily." She responded I don't think its a cup, its more like a bunch of shot glasses in your hand.

Its a metaphor that has stuck with me and I think is apt. If you feel the need pitch a shot glass that doesn't fit in your hand.

Take care of yourself Wil. Self-care is one of the most important skills you can learn.

Posted by: nickb [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 05:37 PM

Haven't read all of the other comments, hope I'm not the only one to say this.

>

Please at least announce them once in a while. I don't live in LA and would not have known of and planned for your delightful DANCING BAREFOOT reading if it weren't for the blog.

Gilder in San Antonio, TX

Posted by: Gilder [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 05:40 PM

Duh. Being a non-geek, I posted the above as a knee-jerk reaction, then reviewed the "Appearances" page. Please disregard...except for the "delightful" part!

Gilder
*slapping herself*

Posted by: Gilder [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 05:45 PM

Wil-
Looks like you got your bounce back. Good to hear!

I've never started a blog because I haven't felt comfortable exposing so much of myself, my family, and friends. I've actually always appreciated that while you share some of your personal and business, it's really mainly an illusion.

Your personal life is your own. I enjoy your reveries. No, I don't agree with all of them, but you always write about them in an interesting way.

We'll take what we can get. We totally support your choices.

Keep taking care of yourself. Glad you're better.

Anne

Posted by: anniehay [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 07:35 PM

Wil -

You've just described every frustration every artist has ever felt. The forces in the universe that pull us to put food on our tables and the ones that pull us to create something that our souls need. There are a few lucky ones that can combine both. I'm not a computer geek, I don't play poker and I'm not into gaming. I don't understand what the hell you're talking about half the time, but I still go to read your blog every night before I go to bed. Just makes me smile and I'm comforted knowing that someone who has had fame has normal problems just like me. Sometimes I feel so creatively stagnant it's suffocating. There's just something in your writing that speaks to the human condition. The thing we all need - a connection to other humans. Don't apologize for anything - do what you need. Because at the end of the day, it doesn't really matter what anyone who reads your site thinks. Rock on, my friend...

Melissa - Atlanta, GA

Posted by: Melissa Bugg [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 07:41 PM

I just finished reading Just A Geek this evening. I thoroughly enjoyed it. I linked to your post because I find that I have been experiencing blogger burnout myself. I started it as a lark, kept it going to keep in touch with friends and family when I 'lived' in Germany and maintain it because it is sortof like breathing now. But I find myself disgusted with my own content (or lack thereof). I am still formulating thoughts as to what that your post means to me, but the thoughts that Tony put up are slooshing around in my brain now, working their way to something.



A long-winded comment, to say what probably everyone else says, "Way to go. I think you are great." (Even though I think I only saw like four episodes of TNG and can't remember much of SBM except the horrible blueberry scene)

Posted by: Schnookiemuffin [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 9, 2005 09:08 PM

Good on you. We all need to rethink our boundaries and desires fairly regularly - it's the only way to prevent ourselves from burning out. I hope it helps you get the right balance of private and professional life you and your family need to be happy. Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron has some very cool books out about dealing with boundaries, coping with fears, and retaining balance in a world that often seems to be crazy. Whatever your religious beliefs or lack thereof, they're very practical and helpful. Good luck :)

Posted by: Kaz [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 10, 2005 09:46 AM

Good on you. We all need to rethink our boundaries and desires fairly regularly - it's the only way to prevent ourselves from burning out. I hope it helps you get the right balance of private and professional life you and your family need to be happy. Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron has some very cool books out about dealing with boundaries, coping with fears, and retaining balance in a world that often seems to be crazy. Whatever your religious beliefs or lack thereof, they're very practical and helpful. Good luck :)

Posted by: Kaz [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 10, 2005 09:47 AM

Yeah Wil!!!!

Let's here it for mono induced ephiphanies. I was just telling a friend of mine about my own life evaluations during my mono-sidelined couple of weeks. It really has been a blessing in disguise.

And for those nay-sayers who called you "unprofessional" and dogged you out for being sick - they can kiss my big white mono recovering rearend!!

I'm thrilled for you. :o)

Posted by: Mel [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 10, 2005 03:05 PM

mmmm. a million comments, but it's the middle of the night so i'm too tired to read them. so, this might be a stupid comment, in light of me not having read the previous ones, but...

the idea that people might get pissed off at you for doing what you want with your blog blows my mind. it's *your* blog. we're just alone for the ride.

*shaking head and tutting* man, people are dumb sometimes.

Posted by: mainja [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 12:36 AM

Hey Wil...just found one of the technology articles you wrote for suicidegirls...it's the one where you and Anne tried to get photos reprinted at Target. (http://suicidegirls.com/news/technology/9180/page1/) Guess what? I'm the gal who Walmart turned away. What a small world, huh? :)

Zee

Posted by: zeelv [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 12:56 AM

I know so many people who have to be reminded over and over and over that if they don't take care of themselves first, they'll be in no shape to take care of anybody else. Personally, I think it's far less professional to make promises you can't keep because you run yourself into the ground *repeatedly* than it is to catch on that there's a problem, and back off gracefully.

--Ember--

P.S. E-Mergen-C did wonders for me when I had Mono.

Posted by: Ember Leo [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 02:36 AM

Hey, Wil! I've only recently begun reading your blog, and I have to say its one of the finest I've read. I can't see why anyone would get upset that you are putting "crazy things" like your family and creative livelihood first. If it means I get to read less entries from you, so what? Quality over quantity. Something I've learned the hard way with my own blogging is that if I don't keep up with my life I have nothing to blog about.

I hope things continue well for you, and I hope the mono finally gets put to rest. I caught it on a trip to Scotland once, and it kicked my ass for six months. Cheers!

Posted by: Brent [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 07:33 AM

Do what you need to do, Wil! All these years following your blog (bi weekly morning check-ins help me not kill my co-workers and students) and I've actually never even considered the notion that someday *this* might stop. I'm still regularly impressed and I'm always entertained and I thank you for that. Change is a good thing, and I'm content to read whatever thoughts, comments and tidbits you choose to grace us with :-)

I'm sure the new improved "outspoken" Wil will be as much a joy to read as the rest...welcome fellow ranter! Glad that you are feeling better...few things suck worse than Mono.

Sometimes it good to discover our inner, more selfish selves. It's amazing how not selfish these selves actually are, though...

Thanks again for doing something that so many of us enjoy and continue looking out for yourself and the family!

Rachel

Posted by: Rchl [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 07:32 PM

At the risk of getting slammed, flamed, banned, chastised, persecuted, and spammed (please, not that!), I have an alternate opinion on this matter. My qualifications are I am a regular reader of the site.



Every industry, every position, all jobs have certain qualities and requirements that mandate encumbants to live up to certain standards. For example, janitors need to clean up messes, teachers need to tolerate low pay, politicians need to accept that, no matter what position they endorse and promote, they will alienate one group or another up to and including securing their hatred, millionaires/billionaires need to learn to live with never knowing for sure if people genuinely want to be their genuine friends or are just attracted to them for their money, and celebrities (actors in particular), no matter what their Q-rating is, need to deal with the unreasonable, "you're just a piece of meat" attitudes of the needy mass public.



Choosing to pursue and choosing to continue to pursue a particular line of work or position in society and subsequently blasting the known requirements of that position seems like a bit of overblown self-pitying, "I want my cake, I want to eat it too, and i don't want to realize any adverse health impacts from eating the cake."



Now, PLEASE don't get me wrong. Janitors, teachers, politicians, millionaires/billionaires, actors, and others certainly have an inalieanable right to belly-ache about their woe-is-me plight. But, it does seem to me to be self-serving, self-defeating, self-absorbed, and ironic to bask in the glory and attention of one's chosen profession while at the same time dismissing the rigors of that profession.



In these rough and tumble times, its tempting to pine for imagined simpler times, with less demands, more free time, and more personal life-shattering meaning. The reality of it though is that, quite simply, life doesn't work that way. It just doesn't. Without messes, we don't need janitors; we just don't. And without annoying, irritating, clingy, needy fans, celebrity status loses most all meaning.



Some people argue it's a matter of reasonable limits. Give the janitor messes to clean-up, but don't make the messes too messy. Give actors the attention they crave, but only when they are in need of it and up for it. The thing is, life doesn't work that way. It just doesn't.



I intend no ill will by expressing my personal thoughts.

Posted by: Mark-Paul [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 09:00 PM

Hey Wil, if you get a chance check out "The Artist's Way" by Julia Cameron. Hope you continue to feel better=0)

Posted by: Tara [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 11, 2005 09:10 PM

Hey Wil - good for you! I wish you the best. Thanks for your blog, it is exceptional. I for one am looking forward to your Bush rants. I saw a wonderful bumper sticker today - "20 January 2009 - the end of an error".

Take care.

Posted by: techwoman [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 12, 2005 01:45 AM

uga.... Just my opinion..and like ass-holes bla bla bla.

I don't think you owe me, a reader, a thing. Do what you need to do for you. Act - Write - Love your wife your family. The rest is superferlous.

As you said, those not supporting you don't need to continue to read. No worries. There is lots of crap out there for their fodder.

Sleep well and live long - smile.

Posted by: Upquark [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 12, 2005 06:48 PM

I started to reply to this the day it was posted but didn't get to finish. I think the basic points were these:

1. You have to be true to yourself and find inner peace. Do what you need to do.

2. The guy from the Red Hat Summit who called you "unprofessional" is possibly prejudiced against "celebrities" and Hollywood actors. Too bad for him.
(I had a rant about this that I didn't post.)

3. Our stress often does manifest itself in our bodies even if we don't know it's there. There's a certain amount of self-awareness necessary. Even when our mind doesn't know our muscles, immune systems and cells know. It might sound new-agey, but it's true.

That's it.

Posted by: AT [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 12, 2005 07:58 PM

From one Geek to another...

Long-time fan, first time poster...

In an effort not to sound like a stalker, I've been a fan since I was about 12 and saw you on Stand By Me. Then you were on Star Trek and I was able to watch my favorite show and my favorite actor at the same time (and bond with my dad, thanks for that. :D) Fast forward, and a friend of mine introduced me to your site. I thought what a great way to find out more about my favorite actor!! But then, as I got caught up in reading, I started seeing you less as an object of a teen crush and more as a human being. I was proud to see that you are "normal", you ended up with a wonderful wife and wonderful kids, and you're, well, human. Also the fact that you're into coding and such didn't lower my respect for you at all :D


I say this to illustrate exactly why I'm very happy for you that you are pulling back and taking the time you should for your friends and family..YOUR life. I'm grateful for all you've given us, for opening up to us and letting us walk beside you in these entries. The ironic thing is, is that the more you tell us what's going on in your life the less time you have to actually live it, which creates a downward spiral and leads to the point you've made in your last post. You can't talk about something you're not experiencing anymore. ;)


So, tell the wife, the kids, and the cats hello for us, and may I recommend American Beauty roses if you should ever grow some to be able to stop and smell them once in a while.

Posted by: LilDaemon [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 12, 2005 11:12 PM

Mr. Wheaton,

I have only started reading your blog recently, but this post really stuck out. I was not a fan of yours while you were on Star TrekÖ Or rather, I was not a fan of the character. At the time, I knew little about you personally.

Lately from reading your blog and your excellent column for the Onion (along with lots of pushing from my husband and best friend from high school), I think I have come to appreciate you as a person.

If anyone is offended by your actions in taking in control of your life, they need to get one of their own. I think you are doing exactly the right thing.

Keep it upÖ I enjoy reading what you write.

Itanya

Posted by: Itanya_Blade [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 13, 2005 02:38 PM

Mr. Wheaton,

I have only started reading your blog recently, but this post really stuck out. I was not a fan of yours while you were on Star TrekÖ Or rather, I was not a fan of the character. At the time, I knew little about you personally.

Lately from reading your blog and your excellent column for the Onion (along with lots of pushing from my husband and best friend from high school), I think I have come to appreciate you as a person.

If anyone is offended by your actions in taking control of your life, they need to get one of their own. I think you are doing exactly the right thing.

Keep it upÖ I enjoy reading what you write.

Itanya

Posted by: Itanya_Blade [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 13, 2005 02:39 PM

Meh. You gotta do what you gotta do. If you're freaking out from too much overload, then you're not going to be able to do anything well.

You and your family come first. They'd better come first, or what the hell do you have?

Good luck, dude. Don't let the bastiges get you down. :-)

Posted by: MrsVeteran [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 14, 2005 11:59 AM

I hang my head in shame.

Posted by: griff [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 15, 2005 08:22 AM

Wil,

I've been toying with the idea of adding your blog to my daily RSS feeds and just did so today as something of a trial. The second article to come in was this one, and I have to say that it was the real seller. I have gained enormous respect for you in the few minutes it took to read this, and I think that you're completely justified in what you're doing.

You and your family should always come first. Just know that some of us random Internet people completely support that.

Posted by: Gnome [TypeKey Profile Page] at June 24, 2005 08:29 AM
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